Ucabanga ukuthi uyazi konke mayelana namadoda? Cishe uphutha. Kunezigwebo eziningi ezamukeleke ngokujwayelekile ngesigamu sesilisa sabantu, kodwa ezinye zazo aziyiqiniso neze. Ufuna ukunqoba umuntu wamaphupho akho? Khona-ke udinga ukwazi ukuthi yilowo nalowo wesifazane kufanele azi ngamadoda - izimfihlo zabo eziseduze kakhulu. Uma nje uthola lolu lwazi - uzothola noma yimuphi umuntu oyifunayo. Kuyoba yisikhathi sesikhathi kuphela.
Kwabesilisa abathile, ubulili ngumdlalo
Empeleni, kakhulu kuningi. Abafana abasha ikakhulukazi abangaphansi kweminyaka engu-25 ubudala. Isilinganiso samadoda kuya ocansini sibonisa izimfanelo eziyinhloko zobuntu bakhe. Amadoda, ngokungafani nabesifazane, ajwayele ukuhlukunyezwa, ukubusa, ukuncintisana nokuthola injabulo nganoma iyiphi indlela. Abanye abantu (ikakhulukazi abasha, abantu abavuthiwe) banesondo, njengokugembula - ngokusho komgomo wokuncintisana. Ziyizinto eziyinhloko ukukhombisa izinga "lokupholisa" kwazo futhi zibonise abangane babo inombolo ye "trophies" yabo.
Kwenzeka ukuthi insizwa eneminyaka engu-17 ubudala iya esikhungweni sezinsizakalo zokuhambisa, kuphela ukuba nesipiliyoni esinjalo. Ukuze nje uqhubeke nabanye ukuze ube "umuntu" wangempela. Nakuba lokhu kungabonakali ngokushesha, kodwa izidingo zakhe zocansi ziyomhola. Isidingo sokuba yingxenye yeqembu, ukuze ungazizwa unecala, ngokuvamile uvusa amadoda amancane (hhayi kakhulu) ekuxhumaneni okuthukayo. Khona-ke bavame ukuziqhenya ngokunqotshwa kwabo futhi babelane nabo nabangane nabo osebenza nabo. Kubantu abaningi, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokusebenza kahle futhi indlela yokuthola ukwazisa, ikakhulukazi ekungenakulondeka okukhulu.
Kodwa, naphezu kwalendlela yokuya ocansini, amadoda awabekezelelanga okufanayo kwabesifazane. Ekuqondeni kwabo, wonke owesifazane akufanele aphathe ubulili njengomdlalo. Abesifazane abanjalo bahlaselwa amadoda, bazizwa baze bazihlambalaze futhi bathiwa ngamazwi kuphela. Njalo cabangela lokhu lapho usebenzisana nendoda.
Kubantu, into esemqoka iyasebenza, futhi umndeni nothando aludlali indima enkulu
Yebo, kuyiqiniso. Kubantu, ukuzigcwalisa emsebenzini kubaluleke kakhulu kunabesifazane. Indima yayo idlalwe ukuthuthukiswa komlando kanye nokuphila kwamadoda nomphakathi njengamanye. Owesifazane unesibophezelo sokuba umama, ikhaya, idivayisi yokuphila. Ngenkathi owesilisa ethanda kuqala kokuthola isikhundla sobuchwepheshe nesezenhlalakahle, okuhlangene nokuhlukaniswa kwezindima kumasiko ethu. Lokhu kubeka indoda phambi kwesidingo sokuba khona komndeni kanye nokusekelwa kwayo impahla. Ngokuvamile ngesikhathi esifanayo, kubonakala sengathi umsebenzi ubaluleke kakhulu kuye kunomndeni nothando. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuba. Kodwa konke akuyona into engavamile. Umndeni womuntu ubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa awufani nowesifazane. Ukuphumelela emsebenzini nokusebenza kahle kwemisebenzi kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakhe. Kodwa lo muntu uzuze konke lokhu hhayi nje kuphela, kodwa emndenini wakhe. Ukufeza nje ngenxa yesikhala somuntu kungukuchitha isikhathi. Kumelwe kube khona umuntu ozoyithanda imizamo yakhe, okuzobe kudingekile ukuba afinyelele okuthile ekuphileni. Amadoda yizinto eziwusizo. Ngakho-ke, azizami ngokwabo - akusizijabulisi ukuzidumisa. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi ekugcineni, umshado, ikhaya, umndeni womuntu ovuthiwe - kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukubaluleke ngokwengeziwe nokwaneliseka kumuntu, kungcono ukuthi ahlanganise izindima ezithile. Wonke owesifazane kufanele azi ngalokhu. Msekele ngesifiso sakhe sokuthuthukisa - uzokubonga kuze kube sekupheleni kwezinsuku zakhe.
Amadoda ayadingi ukuqashelwa nokuvunywa kwabesifazane
Akunjalo. Indoda ibalulekile hhayi kuphela ukuthembela, ukwamukelwa nokuqonda okulungile, kodwa nokuhlonishwa nokuvunywa kwabesifazane. Ufuna ukuzimisela emsebenzini wakhe wesilisa. Uzwa ukwaneliseka uma umbono wakhe ucatshangelwa, lapho ehlonishwa, ethandwa yingqondo namandla akhe. Indoda empeleni inobuthakathaka njengengane. Ngokuyinhloko emhlabeni wonke uyesaba ukuthi ngeke asebenzise okuthile futhi enze okuthile okungalungile. Ngakho-ke, impumelelo, impumelelo, ukuphumelela hhayi kuphela ekuphileni, kodwa futhi kwezocansi kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Udinga ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ulungile kukho konke akwenzayo. Ngokusekelwe kulokhu, indoda yakha isithombe sayo nobukhulu bayo. Indoda kumele ihloniphe futhi ihloniphe owesifazane. Mane ungabi ngaphezu kwalo - ukukhohlisa nokukhohliswa okunenkohliso indoda yangempela ngeke ixolele. Kuyakumcasula, futhi uzolahlekelwa nguye kuze kube phakade.
Ubulili obungavamile kubantu - into efana nomuthi
Yebo, kuyiqiniso. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kuyindlela yokuthola ukwazisa, ikakhulu uma kuziwa ekuhlulekeni kwezinye izindawo zokuphila. Isibonelo, ukungaphumeleli emsebenzini, ukuphikisana nabaphathi, ukucindezeleka kungashukumisela umuntu ukuba abe ocansi. Ukuphulukisa izifiso ezimele, ukuthola ukuqashelwa, ukuhlonishwa, bangena ebuhlotsheni obuseduze bobulili. Lokhu akudingi lutho, nakuba abesifazane ngezinye izikhathi bengakuqondi lokhu futhi bahlangabezane nazo. Bahlupheka, bahlushwa umbuzo: "Kungani engakabizi?", Angikusola ukuthi umuntu usekhohliwe isikhathi eside ngokuphila kwabo. Nakuba abathembeke kakhulu kubo ngokushesha bavuma ngokusobala ukuthi badinga "ukukhishwa." Abesifazane abaningi, endleleni, bavumelana nokuxhumana okunjalo ngaphandle kwezibopho.
Amadoda akhathazeke kakhulu ngokwehluleka kwabo, ikakhulukazi ngokobulili
Amadoda anesidingo esikhulu sokukhangisa kwabo nobulili. Bavele behlanya ngobulili babo! Futhi inhlekelele enkulu kumuntu yilapho engakwazi ukuhlangabezana nokulindela owesifazane. Ukuhlukumeza kwengxabano kufinyelele ekuphakameni kwayo, ikakhulukazi uma owesifazane engakwazi ukwanelisa, kukhona okushoyo kuye. Izilonda empilweni esondelene nazo zibuhlungu kakhulu kumuntu, ngakho owesifazane ohlakaniphile akasoze avumela umuntu ukuba azenzele ukungabi nalutho nokubuthakathaka kwakhe. Umuntu njengetrithri - ukhokhiswa ukwazisa nokwamukelwa owesifazane, ukuthola amandla namandla. Vumela indoda yakho izwe njengomholi wezocansi - uzokukwenza konke okufunayo.
Amadoda ivame ukuba yiqiniso elibalulekile lokuzijwayeza, futhi abesifazane bathandana masinyane
Kuyiqiniso. Ngokuvamile - ikakhulukazi emva kokuhlangana okungahleliwe - indoda ivele "ivule" ubudlelwane obengeziwe. Akunandaba naye, futhi maduze nje uyakhohlwa ngakho. Owesifazane ulindele impendulo, ukuqhubeka, enethemba lokuphindaphindiwe. Lokhu akukwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi - ngezinye izikhathi indoda inesithakazelo ngempela ekuqhubekeleni ubudlelwane. Kodwa kaningi uvele efuna ukwazi, ngokuqondene ne-trophy. Imizwa yowesifazane ayicatshangelwa. Nokho, lokhu akusho ukuthi indoda ayikwazi ukuzwa uthando olujulile. Uma owesifazane ekwazi "ukwehlisa" indoda - uzoyifuna futhi enze konke ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwane. Wonke owesifazane kufanele azi lokhu futhi azicabangele.
Amadoda aqondile futhi asebenzayo kunabesifazane
Lona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane - babuswa yimpilo imizwa nemizwelo ehlukile. Amadoda avame ukusabela ngokushesha, ngokushesha uqedele icala, ungahlaziyi kakhulu futhi ungafaki izinkinga. Njengomthetho, ekuxazululeni izinkinga abazithembeli emizwelweni, ziyizengqondo nezomabhizinisi. Amadoda angama-action-oriented kunokubamba imizwa nezinkumbulo zabo. Amadoda angaphezu kwabesifazane abadinga ukuzimela - bathanda ukunquma yonke into nabo kanye nomaphi. Inhlonipho yalezi zingxabano kusiza ukudala ukusondelana, ukwethenjwa nokuthanda nanoma yimuphi umuntu. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi abesifazane abaqondiswa umqondo ovamile empilweni. Kungokuthi nje amadoda akwenza lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi abesifazane besenza njalo ngezikhathi ezithile.
Amadoda ayithandi ukuba ne-mistress amaningana ngesikhathi esifanayo
Okusho ukuthi akanalo isidingo sangokwemvelo. Indoda ingakwazi ukushintsha okuthandayo, ukushintsha abesifazane bayo. Kodwa ukuxhumana okumbalwa ngesikhathi esifanayo - kubatshela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda akulona isithembu njengoba kubonakala. Uma bobabili nithandana, nifuna ukuthembeka futhi nithembekile komunye nomunye - indoda ayifuni ukushintsha. Induduzo kanye nenduduzo kubo kuyabiza kakhulu kunokuhlukunyezwa nabalingani abaningana, begijima bezama ukuzithokozisa bonke.
Indoda isilungele ukulala ngokobulili. Umzimba wakhe uphenduka ngokusebenza kahle, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangentando yakhe
Lona iqiniso langempela. Ukuziphendulela, noma ikhono lokuzilungiselela okusheshayo ngocansi lukhulu kakhulu kumadoda kunabesifazane. Injabulo ingabangela umuntu ukuba abe nemizwa eqinile endaweni engathathi hlangothi ngokuphelele. Ukucabangela ngokobulili kungasebenza kumadoda amasha ngisho nalapho ushayela imoto. Ngakho-ke, indoda ihlale isengozini yokuba esimweni esingathandeki ... Nokho, le mfanelo ivame ukudlala indima enhle. Uma uqondisa ngokufanele amandla ezocansi omuntu - uzophumelela ekusebenzelaneni naye.
Umuntu akazwa isidingo sokusondelana nokuthandwa komuntu wesifazane emva kocansi
Lona iqiniso elidabukisayo. Ngokuvamile indoda ayinayo inzwa enjalo. Ngemuva kokuya ocansini, uvele angene "kwimodi yokulala" noma nje ukulungele ukugqoka ngokushesha. Ukhokha kancane kancane ukwamukela ukuzwela nokuqhubeka komdlalo wokuthanda. Kodwa u-egoism akanalo lutho ngalutho. Le nto ikhona kuma-hormone, e-splash kanye nokuhla kwehla. Noma yimuphi umuntu emva kocansi uzizwa ukwehla kwemisebenzi yenyama. Noma kunjalo, ukuziphatha kwakhe kuxhomeke ekubuntwini, ekuhlangenwe nakho, ekubandakanyekeni ngokomzwelo nasekufundeni ubuciko bothando. Umuntu ovuthiwe futhi owaziwayo uzama ukukunika ukufudumala nokuzwela. Kodwa owesifazane ngamunye kufanele azi amadoda futhi aqonde ukuthi umuntu kuphela onothando ngempela angenza lokhu. Yiba oqotho - ungafuni okuningi. Futhi ujabulele ububele umuntu abonisa kuwe. Lokhu akulula kuye.
Amadoda "ngaphansi kwesithende" sowesifazane abe yingqondo
Lokhu kuyiqiniso. Amadoda asesimweni esinzima kakhulu namuhla. Abesifazane bayaba nzima kakhulu, balindele ukufinyelela okungaphazanyiswayo nangokwecansi. Imithombo yezindaba ikhuthaza kakhulu isithombe somuntu okhululekile - esinobudlova, esicindezelayo. Ngakho, ngezinye izikhathi amadoda athola ukwesaba. Kudingeka baqiniseke ukuthi bahlangabezana nezilindelo zakho. Amadoda azama ukuphunyuka ku "iron ladies" ngaphansi kwama-pretexts ahlukahlukene, ugweme ukuxhumana nabo ngokocansi nabo, echaza lokhu ngekhanda, ukusebenza ngokweqile noma ukungabi nesikhathi. Indoda ozenza ubuthakathaka, ayikwazi ukuhlangabezana nokulindela kokusondelana nezidingo zakho zobulili.
Uyazi ...
Kumuntu, ukuthintana ngokocansi kubaluleke kakhulu, njengoba kuthinta ukuzethemba komuntu nokwesilisa. Uma indoda ilahlekelwa amandla akhe futhi ikhono lokubonisa indima yakhe yezocansi, ngeke iphele. Lokhu kuhluleka kudluliselwa kwezinye izindawo zokuphila kwakhe.
Okokuqala, indoda ifuna ucansi, ngoba lokhu kuyisici esibalulekile ekulondolozeni ukubaluleka kwayo. Kuningi kuxhomeke ebuhlotsheni oxhumana naye ngokobulili okwenziwe khona. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakuwumbuzo wobuhlobo obuzinzile noma kwakuwumhlangano ongavamile. Uma umuntu ehlangabezana nobunzima ngokuya ocansini nomlingani ongathandeki - akuthinti kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, uma ukungabi nalutho kwamandla kwenzeka ngobuhlobo obuseduze nangenhloso yomuntu - lokhu kungabangela ukulimala. Ngombono womuntu, kumnciphisa, kuphakamisa ukungabaza ngobukhulu bakhe.
Amadoda anesimo sengqondo esahlukile ngokuphathelene nobulili ngenxa yezinto eziphilayo, amasiko, ezenhlalakahle, ezehlukene zomlando, imfundo kanye nethonya labezindaba. Kusukela esemncane, indoda ifunda ukugwema lokho okuthiwa "ukuziphatha kwabesifazane". Isimo sithinta ukucabanga kwawo kwemvelo, sinciphisa noma siphuthuma ukuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ngokomzwelo. Ukuqeda ukubonakaliswa kokuzwela kuyimiphumela yomthelela wendawo yemvelo.
Ukuthambekela kwemvelo kwabesifazane kungukuzwela, ukunakekela, ukuzinikela, ngokuvamile kuqhutshwa imizwelo nemicabango. Indoda ayifuni ukuveza imizwelo yakhe, ikhala, inakekele kakhulu ukubonakala kwayo. Nakuba ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nomuntu oqinile uyazivumela ukuba akhale, futhi lokhu akunciphisi ubukhulu bakhe.
Naphezu kokuhlukana okukhona phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, lokhu kungezwani kungaqondwa kangcono futhi kwamukeleke. Lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi udale ubuhlobo obuphumelelayo. Ukuqashelwa nokuhlonipha lokhu kungezwani kusiza ukugwema ukungaqondi kahle kanye nokulindela okungalungile ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Nakuba sihlukile kancane, lokhu akusho ukuthi asikwazi ukuhlangana ezingeni elifanayo futhi sijabulele ukusondelana, ukwethenjwa nothando.