Futhi-ke, njengesikhali, funda amasu okuphepha! Ake siqale, siyazi ukuthi ubuqili besifazane amandla omfazi.
Ubuqili besifazane - amandla omuntu wesifazane - sizocabangela umzwelo njengobuqili №1. Abesifazane banomzwelo, bangakwazi ukukhala izinyembezi, bebuka izigcawu ezibuhlungu ezivela ku-movie. Abesifazane bangaphazamiseka ngenxa yezinto ezincane nje - ukubukeka okugxilile ekuqondiseni kwabo noma amazwi angakhethi avela kumphathi ovukile ukuba angemi ngezinyawo zakhe. Bangakwazi ukukhuluma ngokulinganayo ngokuhlukumezeka kokuphila kwe-Rosita engezansi kanye nezinkinga zomngane wesikole. Ngenxa yezinto ezincane bangacasulwa futhi bangakhohlwa ngokushesha lezi zikhalo. Lokhu kubangelwa imizwelo evelele kubo, ebalekela phezulu.
Amadoda ayinikwe lokhu . Akunjalo ngoba aphansi. Ngokuqala, okokuqala, i-hemisphere engakwesobunxele, eyabangela ukuhlaziywa, isathuthukiswa kangcono kumadoda, futhi kubesifazane kufanelekile, "unomthwalo wemfanelo" wokuzwela. Okwesibili, abafana ngezizathu ezithile bakhuliswa ngaphansi kwesiqubulo sokuthi amadoda angakhali neze. Manje, lapho bebadala, abakalili. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo unqikaze ukukhombisa yonke imizwa. Amantombazane lokhu okunethezeka kuvunyelwe!
Iyini umphumela wale nkohliso labesifazane? Okokuqala, ngokwayo, ubuqili besifazane kungamandla omuntu wesifazane, lelikhono lokuzizwa ngokomzwelo konke okwenzekayo, njengoba odokotela bathi, kusivikela ekuphazamiseni kwemizwa nokuphazanyiswa komsebenzi wenhliziyo. Okwesibili, asigcini ngokomzwelo kuphela kulokho okwenzekayo, futhi sibamba kalula imizwelo evela kwabanye. Okwesithathu, ikhono lokubala umlomo wabo, okuyinto amadoda abaphoqelelwe ukuba bafunde ngokuqondile, abesifazane banikezwa ngokwemvelo.
Khumbula wena , yini ekhangayo kakhulu: inkulumo eyomile egcwele amaqiniso athakazelisayo kakhulu, noma indaba ezwelayo egcwele impilo? ngokwengqondo ukhetho lwesibili abantu basabela kahle. Ngakho-ke, uzozwakala, khumbula, amazwi akho azobathinta abanye, uzothola "ibhonasi" kokubili emsebenzini nasemkhakheni wokuxhumana! Futhi-ke, isikhali esinamandla kakhulu ngokomzwelo yizinyembezi. Abagcini nje ukukhulula umzimba we-hormone yentukuthelo nokucasula, kodwa futhi basiza ukuxazulula izinkinga eziningi: bambalwa kula madoda angamelana nokubona izinyembezi zabesifazane. Kodwa khumbula: lokhu kungamandla, amandla owesifazane, afana nokusebenza kahle kwezikhali zokubhujiswa okukhulu. Ngakho-ke unganqikazi ukukhala ngezinye izikhathi uma ufuna, kodwa ungakhazi izinyembezi indlela yokuxhaphaza - eziningi kakhulu zingabhubhisa ngisho uthando olujulile nothando lomuntu wakho.
Ukuphepha emakhakheni abesifazane. Imizwelo ihle. Kodwa namanje zama ukuqiniseka ukuthi angagcini amazwi omqondo. Ngesikhathi esiphuthumayo, ngaphambi kokuba usho noma wenze noma yikuphi okwemzwelo, ubale kuze kube ngu-10 ngendlela eqinisekisiwe! Funda ukuthi ungadlulisela kanjani imizwelo emibi hhayi kwabanye, kodwa esikhaleni: chofoza ekhaleni lompheki ophekiwe, uphephe amapheya, uphume umbuthano noma ababili enkundleni yesikole, noma umemeza kakhulu (iphuzu lokugcina liyadingeka ukuba lisuswe kubantu, ukuze ungesabi omakhelwane kanye nabadluli abadabulayo).
Ubuqili besifazane - amandla abesifazane - ubulili inikezwa njengeqhinga # 2. Ngokomlando, owesifazane udinga indoda. Futhi hhayi kuphela ngenjabulo, kodwa okokuqala - ngokuqhubeka komndeni: kungadla futhi kuvikele lona wesifazane kanye nabantwana bakhe. Futhi uma indoda yokunqoba inhliziyo yowesifazane yayanele ukudonsa isidumbu sesifuba sangaphambi komhume emhumeni, owesifazane, ukuze athole indoda eqinile, kwadingeka agcizelele zonke izintelezi zakhe. Ikhono lokubukeka elikhohlisayo, elihlonishwa ngeminyaka eyizinkulungwane, lisasiza namadodakazi ka-Eva ukuxazulula izinkinga eziningi. Futhi uma abameleli besigamu esiphezulu sobuntu bezama ukusebenzisa ukukhangwa kocansi, bazobizwa ngokuthi "i-metrosexuals" noma ababizwa ngokuthi elinye igama, kubi kakhulu. Abesifazane bangajabulela leli lungelo ngokuthanda kwabo.
Iyini umphumela wale nkohliso labesifazane? Ukubheka ngokushelelayo, i-decollete ejulile, izwi eliphansi lesifuba - futhi manje imilenze yakho emihle akuyona nje abalandeli, kodwa futhi nabalingani bomsebenzi - ungamenqaba kanjani lona wesifazane omuhle kangaka! Ukucindezela ubufazi bakho , uthi: "Ngingowesifazane, kudingeka nginakekele, ngiphathe kabi, ngidinga ukuthanda futhi ngizenzele!" Ngisho noma kungenandaba, kodwa amadoda azobamba lesi sigameko - futhi aziphathe ngendlela efanayo "uyala ngokuthula". Omunye uzogcwalisa zonke izifiso zakho, enethemba lokuthi "ukuqhubeka kwedili." Futhi othile ovela kubalingani bebhizinisi uzokhululeka, akuthole idoli elihle kuphela, futhi aphumele ngaphandle kokungadingekile, futhi okwamanje uhambisa ulwazi oludingekayo kumadevu amancane bese ulisebenzisa ngokuhlakanipha. Ukuphepha kobuqili besifazane. Uma "ukuqasha" abalandeli bezocansi kufanele bavuleke ngokugcwele, bese kuthi emsebenzini, kuyadingeka 'ukuqinisa umthamo wevolumu' kancane. Ngokujwayelekile, isithombe asiyona "ibhomu lesondo ngokobulili", kodwa kubesifazane "ababili munye": amahle futhi ahlakaniphile ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngeke kube lula kakhulu ukusebenzisa kabi isithombe sobulili ngaphandle komuntu osondela kuye, angathukuthela, anqume ukuthi uyamhola nje ngekhala. Ngakho - konke ngokulinganisela!
Ubuqili besifazane - amandla owesifazane - intuition - izoba ngaphansi kwenombolo 3. Wake wake wacabanga ukuthi kungani inkulumo ethi "intuition female" iphenduke isifiso, kodwa mayelana intuition wesilisa abacwaningi bathule? Ngoba intuition ithuthukiswe kangcono kwabesifazane. Futhi kukhona incazelo yalokhu. Sesivele sisho i-hemisphere elungile elithuthukile - libhekene nekhono lokulalela umzimba wakho, nokuthola intuition. Okwesibili, izazi ze-anthropologists bakholelwa ukuthi owesifazane obuthakathaka, ukuze azivikele yena kanye nezingane zakhe ukuze azivikele, kwakudingeka athuthukise zonke izinzwa ukuze abone, azizwe, azizwe ngengozi ngesikhathi futhi abe nesikhathi sokufihla noma abaleke. Ngakho wahlakulela umqondo wakhe ngobusuku obusika obusika, ngenkathi umyeni wakhe egijima ngomkhonto emahlathini nasemasimini. Futhi maduzane ososayensi baye bathola ngisho "umthombo ophilayo" we-intuition. Ukuqoqwa kwamangqamuzana emaphethelweni ethu emathunjini, ngokumangalisa okufana nokwakhiwa kwamangqamuzana obuchopho obuchopho, kubizwa ngokuthi ubuchopho be-visceral. Njengebuchopho, lobu buchopho buyakwazi ukucubungula impuls engenayo bese kubeka ukuphendula okudingekayo emzimbeni (ngaphandle kwesizathu, kuvela ukuthi sinamazwi athi "isibindi uzizwa", hhayi ngaphandle kwesizathu eziningi "ezingenakuqondakala" izinzwa ezivela esiswini!). Ubuchopho be-visceral bukhona kokubili amadoda nabesifazane, ngenxa nje yezici ezichazwe ngenhla, abesifazane abahle bangakwazi ukuzwa "izwi le-visceraltonics." Futhi ukuthatha izinqumo ezifanele ngokuphelele, ngisho noma ezimweni zomsebenzi azikho okwanele noma ezimbili izingxenye "ezinengqondo".
Iyini umphumela wale nkohliso labesifazane? Manje usuvele wazi ukuthi ukuzwa okungaqondakali "okumele kwenziwe ngokuphuthumayo lokhu!" Akukhona yini ama-whims omzimba wakho, kodwa izimpendulo ezicacile. Yingakho kungubugebengu nje ukuwashiya! Maye, iningi lethu lihleka usulu "logizi wesifazane" lenza "izithulu" izwi lomqondo wesithupha. Ake sihlakulele intuition!
Khombisa eyodwa: funda ukuzizwa umzimba wakho. Okunye oku-zakollo-kugula - ungagudluli futhi ungazami masinyane ukubamba izinzwa ezingathandeki ngenani lehhashi lokubulala umzimba, kungcono ubuze umzimba wakho: "Yini engalungile? Ulahlekelwa yiphi? Yini engingayenza ukuze ngizizwe ungcono? "Ukulamba ulambile - ungasheshi ukuzonda lokho okukude, zibuze umbuzo:" Yini ofuna ukuyidla manje? "Lindela kancane - nomzimba ngokwawo uzokunika inkomba ephelele ngokuphelele , kuzodingeka ulandele izwi lakhe kuphela.
Phakamisa ezimbili: zama ukulalela kaningi kakhulu kumasignali avela ngaphakathi kwakho. Ingabe ifoni iyakhala? Ungathathi ifoni, zama ukuqagela ukuthi ubani oshayelayo. Ingabe umphathi ubiza? Hlala uthule umzuzu wamaminithi, uzibuze umbuzo: uzokhuluma ngani nokuthi ungubani umphathi manje? Uyomangala ukuthi ngeke "uzizwe" ngokushesha nje igama lomuntu okhuluma naye, kodwa futhi yiliphi isihloko afuna ukukhuluma nawe ngalo. Maduzane uzokwazi ukuthola ulwazi oluthile oluvela kwabanye, ukungena emigomeni yabo eyimfihlakalo futhi uzizwe ukuthi kufanele usebenze kanjani manje. Ukuphepha emakhakheni abesifazane. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ufunde indlela yokuhlukanisa intuition kusuka ekuthunjweni: okwesibili, uma ulalele, bangakuholela enhlathini elinjalo ukuthi abantu abazungezile bavele nje bavuke: "Nansi inkolelo yesifazane!"
Kunezinto ezihlukile . Okokuqala, izinyathelo ezinembile zibonakala njengengqondo futhi zingabuyi, imibono ekhukhumezayo ibuyele ekhanda isikhathi eside, ipheka futhi ivule, njengendwangu yamapare esikhwameni sesosha. Imisuka ye-Visceraton iletha injabulo - "Njengoba ngingacabangi ngakho ngaphambili!" - futhi ungashiyi ngemuva kokungabaza. Imibono ecasulayo ngokuphambene nalokho, ikuphonsa kwalasha oludidekile; "Kungenzeka yini, noma mhlawumbe akunjalo?" Funda ukungazinaki imibono ekhungathekile futhi ulalele intuition yakho - futhi konke kuyoba kuhle!