Uma kwenzeka isimangaliso, akekho owazi kusengaphambili. Ngesinye isikhathi umuntu ulinda lo mzwelo iminyaka eminingi, kodwa akalangazi enhliziyweni yakhe. Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ngendlela ehluke kakhulu ... "Ngisho enkulisa, indodana yami yathandana nentombazane evela eqenjini. Wathwala amaswidi akhe, amathoyizi, kepha le ntombazane yayingafuni ukuxhumana naye. Kwafika ukuthi uMisha waqala ukulala kabi ebusuku. Utitjhere wathi waguqa phambi kwale ntombazane, ngakho wamvumela ukuba ahlale naye. Ngazama ukukhuluma nabazali bakaNastya, kodwa bathi indodakazi yabo uMisha ayithandanga indodakazi yabo futhi ayikwazi ukukusiza. Kwadingeka ngisho nokuthumela uMisha esikoleni kusukela eneminyaka eyisithupha, ngakho akazange aphinde ahlangane noNastya. UMisha usuqale ukukhohlwa ngothando lwakhe "olungathandeki," kodwa kulo nyaka uNastya naye waya esikoleni, ngesaba ukuthi lokhu kuzoba ukuhlukumezeka okusha kwengqondo kwendodana yakhe, mhlawumbe idlulisele kwesinye isikole? "
Uyakhumbula amaqhawe efilimu "Awusoze waphupha" - umfana nentombazana othandweni, abazali babo ababengafuni ukuba izingane zabo zihlangane? Futhi ekugcineni kwendima ethi "Romeo and Juliet"? Kunezibonelo eziningi zokuthi ukuphazamiseka kwabazali ebuhlotsheni bezingane kwaholela emiphumeleni emibi. Sivame ukunganaki imizwa yezingane zethu. Sicabanga ukuthi akusizi, futhi siyaqiniseka ukuthi bayodlula ngokushesha. Isifiso sokuqala sabazali - ukusiza ingane yabo - ekugcineni, ekugcineni, isinqumo sokuvinjelwa, ukungavumeli, ukuthatha ... Kodwa ungakuvimbela kanjani noma kukuthande? Ukugwema inkinga, awukwazi ukuyixazulula. Amaqhinga anjalo angabangela ukuthi ingane, ukufihla imizwa yakhe, ngeke isathembe abantu bayo bomdabu, ngeke ixoxe nabo. Futhi isifiso sabazali sokuthi "ubeke izinsalela" cishe akunakho ukuholela kunoma yini - esimweni sothando ngaphandle kwama-cones angeke akwazi ukukwenza, ikakhulukazi kusukela lapho umntwana ehlangene nolwazi olubalulekile lobuhlobo bomuntu. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi iyiphi indima umuntu omdala oyodlala ngayo kule nkathi enzima yengane: umngane ongathembeka ngemfihlo kakhulu, noma isitha, okuvela kulowo ofuna ukuphunyuka ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Sizokhuluma?
Uma, emva kwakho konke, kwenzeke ukuthi ingane yakho yokuqala ifikile kuwe, futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, uthando olungathandwayo, kuqala, thola amandla, ukubekezela nesikhathi sokukhuluma ngokukhululekile naye. Ukuphazamisa ingane kusukela othandweni lokuqala, umemele ukwenza imidlalo ezithakazelisayo, ukudlala nabangani. Khumbula uthando lwakho lokuqala, mtshele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngaleso sikhathi, ukuthi ucabangani ngawe, ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho obuseduze naleyo muntu bwakhiwa kanjani (noma abuzange bukhule). Ingane izokwazi ukuqonda nokulalela amagama akho uma kwenzeka indaba yakho ingokomzwelo futhi, yebo, yeqiniso. Phakathi nengxoxo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kungathi kithi, abadala, ukunquma ukuthi yikuphi ukulandelela okushiya uthando lokuqala emphefumulweni wengane. Mhlawumbe, kwabanye, imizwa yezingane izobonakala ingacabangi futhi ihlekisayo, kodwa eqinisweni, imizwelo yabantwana ingase ibe yinkimbinkimbi nakakhulu kunaleyo yabantu abadala. Ngakho-ke, lapho uxoxisana nengane udinga ukuba ungathandeki kunomuntu omdala. Ukuhleka usulu, ukungaqondi kahle kwabazali kungabangela umntwana ukuba abe nokukhathazeka kwangempela kwengqondo, futhi umuzwa wokungaziphathi kahle ungabhekana nokucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka. Ukwesaba ukubheka amaqhinga emehlweni abanye abantu kukwazi ukubulala isifiso sokuthanda ingane.
Apple kusuka ku-apula
Esikhathini sokuqala esikoleni nesikhombisa esikoleni (iminyaka emihlanu nesishiyagalolunye nesishiyagalolunye), ukuthuthukiswa kwengane kuthonywa kakhulu ngumndeni: izingane zilingisa umama nobaba kukho konke, kufaka phakathi ubudlelwane. Uma indoda emndenini ihlonipha umkayo, indodana yakhe izobonisa ukukhathazeka ngamantombazane. Uma owesifazane evumela ukuthi akhale umyeni wakhe, khona-ke indodakazi yakhe, cishe, ngeke igule nabafana. Kumele kukhunjulwe ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila kwezingane esibafundisa omama noma obaba ozayo. Yikuziphatha komndeni obona uphawu emhlabeni wonke womzwelo. Kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane ukuthi yakha kanjani ubuhlobo bayo nobulili obuhlukile, lapho izingane zifunda ukuthanda nokwamukela uthando kusuka komunye umuntu. Ungatshele ingane: "Yebo, uneziNastia zizoba ..." Amazwi anjalo afundisa isimo sengqondo sokuthanda, esenzelwe abalingani abaningi.Tjela ingane yakho ukuba ihloniphe imizwa yabanye abantu.Uma into yothando ingabuyiselanga, khona-ke kunezizathu zalokhu: Nikeza ingane ukuthi iqonde ukuthi ukuwa othandweni umuzwa ophelele, okungafanele ukwesabe futhi ugweme.
Ezweni imizwa
Ukubona uthando lokuqala, izingane ngokuvamile azikwazi ukuveza yonke imizwa yazo nemizwelo yabo. Umsebenzi womuntu omdala ukusiza ingane ukuba ikwazi ukuzimisela emhlabeni jikelele. Phakamisa ingane ukuba iphumelele ngemisebenzi elula yemidlalo.
"Pictograms"
Lungisa izikhumba ezicishe zibe ngu-5 cm ububanzi kusukela ekhadini elikhulu. Dweba imizwelo ehlukene - ukudabuka, injabulo, ukumangala, ukwesaba (kufanele kubonakale into efana nezithonjana). Ukushaya ingane izimo ezihlukahlukene ezingase zivele ekukhulumisaneni noontanga, futhi ziphakamise ukukhetha ubuso okuzokwenzeka esikhathini eside kakhulu kuye.
"Umgadi"
Kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthi kulo mdlalo, kukhona abahlanganyeli abangu-5-6. Mema izingane ukuzikhethela isithombe sembali - isibonelo, i-rose, i-chamomile, i-bell, i-dandelion. Hlela ngosizo lwezibalo ezizohola - "umlimi wensimu." Umi phakathi kwendilinga futhi uthi: "Ngazalwa njengomgadi wensimu, ngathukuthele, zonke izimbali zangikhathaza ngaphandle ... Asters." U-Astra uthi: "O!" Umlimi wensimu: "Uyini indaba kuwe?" Astra: "Ngothando ..." Isigadi: "Ngubani?" Astra: "KuVasilka!" Vasilek: "Oh ...", njll. Lo mdlalo ufundisa izingane ukuphendula ngokomzwelo, ukubekezela.
"Thumbelina"
Phinda ubuyekeze lokhu konke okushiwo inganekwane ye-G.H. U-Andersen, bese ucela ukucabanga futhi utshele ukuthi kwenzekani kuThumbelina, uma umgogodla ungenaso isikhathi sokuwuthatha, uma ethanda imvukuzane, uma engahlangani emaphethelweni akude we-elf noma uma i-elf engayithandi. Ukwethula okukhethwa kukho ukuthuthukiswa kwesakhiwo, ingane izofunda ukuguquguquka kwemvelo, ikhono lokubheka isimo kusuka kumaphuzu ahlukene okubuka. Ngomfana, kungase kube okungafanelekile ukuthi "Thumbelina", kodwa, isibonelo, "Isigxili Sokuzivikela Sombutho".
Indaba Yothando
Ukwenza kube lula ukuqonda okuhlangenwe nakho kwengane, ungaqhuba umdlalo onjalo wokuhlola naye. Phakamisa ukuqala kwendaba: "Ngesinye isikhathi kwakukhona i-puppy encane. Wayenabangane abaningi, futhi namantombazane, ajabule, aqinile, ahamba, njengalabo. U-Puppy wayethande intombazane eyayiphila egcekeni. I-kitten yayinhle kakhulu, kodwa ingenakuzivikela ... Futhi imbongi yaqala ukuthandana naye. Wathola inja futhi waqala ukudlala naye. Kodwa abangane baka-puppy bamhleka ngaye: "Uyinja! Yini oyidlala nekati? "Ngolunye usuku i-puppy ..." Myeke ingane iqhubeke indaba. Ukulalela ngokucophelela impendulo - yiziphi amaqhinga azokukhetha: ingabe uzongena nabangane noma uzovikela ilungelo lakhe lokuzikhethela? Unqaba ubungane nesidalwa sakhe esithandekayo noma uthola indlela yokubuyisana nabangane abangewona ovela kumbuthano wabo. Ngentombazane, shintsha izinhlamvu zezinganekwane kwezinye izindawo: i-kitten ifuna ukuba umngane ne-puppy eqinile nehlakaniphile. Kufanele uqaphele ngesiphetho, lapho i-puppy yenqaba ukuxhumana ne-kitten. Jabulela ingane, uma efika nendlela yokubuyisana namanye amantombazane anezinyane (isibonelo, uqale umdlalo jikelele).
Masifunde
Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi iseluleko sabazali samukelwa ngumntwana ngenzondo. Ukholelwa ukuthi akaqondi, kodwa usafuna ukuthola umuntu ozozwa imizwa nemizwelo efanayo. Imali izofika ehlakaniphile futhi enomusa ... incwadi mayelana nothando. Lapho umntwana efunda okuningi, uqala ukuzwelana nabalingiswa bebhuku, futhi lokhu kunomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kwesimo sakhe somzwelo. Futhi lapho abazali kanye nengane ndawonye behlaziya lokho abakufundayo, izimpumputhe zibuye zenze i-logic ne-intuition. Izingane zaseminyakeni yasenkulisa zizoqonda indaba ka S.T. Aksakov "I-Scarlet Flower." Kubonisa ukuthi uthando lunikeza umuntu umqondo wemfanelo, umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uguqula i-monster ibe umuntu.
Umlando owaziwayo ka S. Perrot "Cinderella" ufundisa ukuthi uthando alubekezeli ukuhaha, amanga futhi kuholela ekunqobeni ubulungiswa nokuhle.Ngomlando wezindaba zikaG. X. Andersen "Swineherd" isikhulu silungele ngenxa yothando ukwenza imihlatshelo eminingi, kodwa ngenxa yesithandwa sakhe Ukukhanya kwangaphakathi Qoxa nokufunda nengane, buza ukuthi kungani isikhulu senqaba uthando lwenkosikazi, othanda amaqhawe ngempela.
Kuzingane zesikole, zinikeza ukufunda indaba kaVictor Dragunsky "Intombazane ebhokisini" (kusukela "kwi-Deniskin Stories"), umbhali uveza ngokunembile lokho okuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo komfana okuhlobene nokuhlangenwe nakho kothando lokuqala. Indaba izosiza abazali nezingane ukuba baqonde kangcono. Qaphela ukuthi uyihlo uzizwa kanjani ngendodana yakhe. Funda amavesi "omdala" nomntwana, ngisho noma ingane ingayithokozi izimpendulo zezinkondlo eziphakeme zika-Anna Akhmatova, uSergei Yesenin, imizwa nemizwelo ezalwa ngomzwelo omuhle wothando iyodluliselwa kuye.