Okokuqala, ake sibheke izinkinga ezivela kule nkathi, ngoba ukubhaliswa esikoleni kuyisikhathi esisha empilweni yengane ngayinye, ngokuvamile ukuphenduka, ngenxa yokuthi ihambisana nokuhlolwa kwamandla okushintsha kwengane.
Ngokuzikhandla okuguquguqukayo sisho ikhono lokuzivumelanisa, ikhono lomntwana lokufunda nokuxhumana, konke okwenzekayo ukulungela kwakhe. Iqoqo elisha, isitayela esisha sokuziphatha, izimo ezintsha nemithetho, imisebenzi kanye nombuso lapho inyama yengane ihlanganisa uhlelo lokuphendula okuguquguqukayo. Inkinga yokujwayela esikoleni manje inzima kakhulu, njengoba unyaka ngamunye kunenani eliphansi lokuzivumelanisa.
Kushukunyiswa yizinto ezinjenge-biological (umphumela omuhlungu we-microenvironment, ikhono lokucabanga kwengqondo, impilo yengane), ezenhlalakahle, ezengqondo (ezomuntu siqu) nabanye. Qaphela ukuthi siphinde sicabange ngesici somuntu siqu, ngoba abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ingane encane ayiyena umuntu okwamanje, futhi lokhu akunjalo, ngoba lapho uneminyaka engu-6 ubuntu bomntwana sele bwakhiwe kakade, ngesikhathi esizayo singashintsha kancane, ngcono. Iningi lezimfanelo zakhe zobuntu ingane ezithatha kubazali bakhe, ngakho-ke ungamnika isibonelo esihle, unike ingane ithuba lokuxhumana.
Ukuze ukwazi ukuzivumelanisa nomphakathi, phakathi kwamaqembu amasha, ingane ingakwazi, ngokufunda ngaphambilini ukuxhumana ezinhlokweni ezahlukene zenhlalo: enkulisa, nabangani bakhe, omakhelwane, abafana namantombazane, umbuthano uhamba ngawo. Nikeza ingane amathuba amaningi okuxhumana, aqondise amakhono abo hhayi kuphela kubo, kodwa nakwabanye, ukuba bafunde imikhuba yokuziphatha, benze abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo futhi baziphathe phakathi kwabo. Uma unabangane abaningi nabangane bakhe, kuyoba lula ngaye ukuthi akhulume nabo ekilasini, futhi izinkinga ngeqembu akufanele ziphakame, kanye nokwesaba ngalokhu.
Ngiphakamisela ukucubungula ukuthayipha nokuhlelwa kokuhlelwa kwengqondo esikoleni, okwakhiwa ngabacwaningqondo. Ingahlukaniswa njengezifiso zabantu, eziqinile, ezenhlalo-kwengqondo, ezengqondo, inkulumo, ngokomzimba. Ukulungela komuntu ukulungela kwengane ukwamukela indima entsha yomphakathi, futhi kuboniswa ngokuphathelene nomntwana kubothisha, izingane zesikole. Kubalulekile ukubheka isimo sakhe sengqondo kuye, abazali bakhe.
Ukuzimisela ngokuzithandela kuthiwa kuyisisusa, kuthatha izinga elithile lokuthuthukiswa kwengane yomzwelo yengane. Ingane kufanele ifune ukuya esikoleni, futhi ngenxa yalokhu, abazali kufanele bakwazi ukusetha ingane yonke indlela, bamnike yonke imininingwane ebalulekile, bamlungiselele ngokomzwelo. Ingane kufanele ibe nesifiso. Uma ungayitholi kulo, khona-ke isisusa saso esikoleni singathuthukiswa ngezindlela zemidlalo, silungiselele isikole ngokwakho, sibonise ngokunye okungafani nakakhulu. Ingane kufanele ikwazi ukusetha umgomo futhi ifinyelele kuyo, ifisa okuthile futhi ukwazi ukuthuthukisa izinhlelo ezithile zokufeza umgomo wayo. Ungashukumisela ingane ukuba izuze, ihlinzeke imivuzo yempumelelo, isibonelo, yokufunda itafula elisha, impumelelo ekufundeni noma ekuhlaleni. Chaza ingane ukubaluleka kwesikole, ubonise izinhlangothi zayo ezinhle, kubangele ingane ukuthi yomele ukutholakala okusha okuzokwenza kube nokuthakazelisa nokuwusizo okuningi.
Ukulungelelwa komphakathi-kwengqondo (ukukhulumisana) kungathuthukiswa, okuvumela ingane ukuba ikhulume kakhulu neontanga, othisha. Lona amandla akhe okuziphatha, futhi akhulume. Lapha, lesi sisho somlomo kubalulekile: ukubiza okulungile, ikhono lokukhuluma, ubuze imibuzo bese uphendula. Qeqesha ingane ngokuphindaphinda inganekwane noma imibhalo ngayinye, bese ucela ukwenza noma yikuphi imibuzo kulo mBhalo bese ubanika impendulo ngokwakho, bese ubuza imibuzo ngokwakho.
Ukulungela ngokuhlakanipha yizinga eliphansi ingane okufanele ifike ngaphambi kwesikole. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uchithe isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka naye, umfundise ukuba akhulume, afunde, abale, ahlaziye, amtshele amaqiniso athakazelisayo, athuthukise amakhono akhe, kufaka phakathi ukudala. Ungamnika ingane ukuba idansa kumaqembu akhethekile asekuqaleni, amfundise umculo. Inqubo ewusizo kakhulu kuyoba ukufundisa ingane ukudweba, kanye nokumgqugquzela ukuba enze kanjalo. Ngisho noma ingane yakho ingenalo isifiso esikhethekile sokudweba, futhi ngeke ibe umculi omkhulu, ukudweba ngemibala kuyindlela yokusebenza kwengqondo, ebizwa nangokuthi ukwelashwa kwezobuciko. Ingane ingakwazi ukuziveza kanye nemizwa yakhe, futhi uphumule futhi ufunde ngamakhono akhe ngokudweba.
Ukuqina komzimba kubonisa ukuthuthukiswa okulingana kwengane - ukukhula, umzimba, ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba jikelele, impilo yengane. Ukuze umntwana abe nempilo enhle, anakekele umsoco wakhe, umsebenzi - udinga okuningi ukuhamba, uhambe emoyeni omusha, umfundise futhi ukuzivocavoca ekuseni, kuzomzuzisa kuphela.
Naphezu kokuthi izinkinga zamanje zokulungiswa kwengqondo ezinganeni zasesikoleni zasenkulisa ziyinto evamile abazali abaningi abesabayo, ingane ingakwazi ukulungele ngokugcwele isigaba esisha sokuphila. Bambisana nabanokwazi kwengqondo kanye nengane, mnakekele kanye nentuthuko yakhe kuzo zonke izindawo, msize, asekele, anike uthando futhi anakekele, khona-ke ingane yakho izothuthukiswa kahle futhi ilungele isigaba esisha empilweni yakhe.