Ukuphila komphakathi kuye kwacatshangwa njengesizotha emfashini. Kodwa ingabe loluhlangothi oluhle lokuphila luhlale luba nezimfanelo ezinhle futhi lungabi namachibi? Ukuze uthembeke, lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi umdlalo lapho kuphela obeka imithetho yawo ubala ilungelo lokuba umqobi ohloniphekile.
Ukuphila okuphethwe ngabantu
Kulo mbuzo: "Singakwazi yini ukuhlangana kusihlwa?", Le ndoda ihlale iphendula impendulo engapheli, ibhekisela ekusebenzeni okuqhubekayo: ukunikezwa kweqoqo elisha, ukuvula indawo yokudlela entsha, njll. Nansi-impilo enhle kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo. Ngakho-ke, ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi yini i-nasamom "impilo yezwe" eyedwa.
Ngolwazi olujulile, umuntu wezwe ungumane nje ongumuntu ongenandaba nomuntu "owenza i-party-goer" ohlala imini nobusuku kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokuthola. Empeleni, "izwe" kuqala, isimo sezenhlalakahle, esinqunywe yimfanelo yomuntu siqu. Isimo sesibili sisimemezelo: umuntu ombuthweni wakhe kufanele abe umuntu obonakalayo futhi odumile. Futhi ekugcineni, kumele ukuba alungele njalo ukuhlolwa ngokucophelela. Njengoba leli zwi lithi: "Isimo sibophezela lokhu!".
Ukuphila komphakathi yingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwezinkanyezi zokuhweba ibhizinisi kanye nezombangazwe. Futhi kubantu abaningi bebhizinisi, ukuhambela ezinhlobonhlobo ezihlukahlukene kufaniswa nomsebenzi wansuku zonke.
Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi lokho okukhiphayo akunakulungiswa nakancane nezidingo zokukhiqiza. Abalandeli bezinhlangano bavame ukuhleka usulu. Ngendlela, impilo yomphakathi ingakwazi ukuthwala okungaphezu nje kwesikhathi esichitha isikhathi eside!
Siya ekhanyeni
Ukwandisa umkhathi. Yiqiniso, ukuphila komphakathi akukhona nje ebusuku: ngaphandle kokuvakashela zonke izinhlobo "zamaqembu", umbono wokuphila kwezwe uhlanganisa ukuhamba, amakhonsathi, imibukiso yemfashini, njll. Awukwazi nje kuphela ukujwayela abantu abenza izinto, kodwa futhi uthole izinto eziningi ezintsha. Yiqiniso, akuwona wonke umuntu ozokwazi ukujoyina izinkampani ze-yacht club ehloniphekile (lapha konke kuxhomeke ekutheni imali yezolimo). Kodwa wonke umuntu angaba yilungu, isibonelo, we-International Women's Club. Into esemqoka ukukhuluma kahle ngesiNgisi.
Ukusungulwa kwezibopho zebhizinisi . Ngokusho kukaFilipi de Carrier, i-classic ye-French wire diplomacy: "Impumelelo yokuphila ixhomeke ekukhulumeni nabantu abanethonya ngo-85% noma ku-15% wezinga lakho lobuchwepheshe." Owokuqala akafaki okwesibini! Lokhu kungenxa yalesi sizathu, umuntu uqoqa izitampu, othile iwayini, kanye nabantu abathile abasebenzayo. Imicimbi yomphakathi iyithuba elihle kakhulu lokuxhumana emkhathini omuhle nalabo, njengamthetho, kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuvuma emhlanganweni.
"Ukukhanyisa" emphakathini. Uma umsebenzi wakho usho "ukukhangisa", bese ubonakala ekukhanyeni, ungaba umuntu obonakalayo. Kodwa kuphela lokhu kuyadingeka ukuhlanganisa ukubukeka kwayo emakhasini okufezekisa kobuchwepheshe bayo.
Ukuqinisa isithombe . Isithombe sethu singaba nomthelela omuhle ekubambeni kwethu kokuzibandakanya komunye wezenzakalo ezibalulekile. Ungahlala usho ukuthi uye emhlanganweni wezenhlalakahle onodumo. Noma yikuphi ukukhuluma ngokwakho kumongo we "izinkanyezi" kubonisa imibala yokukhanya kuwe.
Ukuphumula okuhle ! Akekho ovimbela enhliziyweni ukuba ajabule edilini lesidlo noma elishisayo.
Izithunzi zokukhanya
Ukuhlolwa okunjalo ngokukhanya kungaphezu kwamandla wonke umuntu. Futhi uma ama-Hangout afakazwayo ekhululekile, ama-introverts ahlale ejwayele ukuxhumana "okulula". Futhi lokhu akushiwo labo bantu abaye bahlala kuzo izindlu ezihlukahlukene eziyinkimbinkimbi ...
"I-butteromps ye-Camomile." Abantu abanesizotha esiphansi bahlale bengakhululekile phakathi kokuzizwa okunjalo. Futhi uma ungachithi ihora ngosuku ukuze uthole i-mantra "Ngiyena engcono kakhulu!", Ungasheshi ukuya modunyusku. Kusuka emibintwaneni ye-caustic namahlo okuvuthayo, uzama ukuthanda, njengalezi zimbali.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze ? Thola ukuthi yini ongayifinyelela ngokuya kulo mcimbi. Ukuze ube nokuphumula, ukuphazamisa nokufunda okuthile okusha? Bese uya phambili! Futhi ngokusekelwa kwengqondo, thatha umngane nawe.
"Into ekhona ezinkingeni zokugeza ..." . Umona uhlala ngokuphelele kithi sonke. Kodwa-ke, kulula kakhulu ukulwa nalo mzwelo kunemibandela engathà sina (inkazimulo enhle, efakwe ngendlela efanele njengamantombazane amancane kanye nokuhlonipha abantu babo), lapha "umcengezi" we-banal ungacwiliswa.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze ? I-Pokavashi imfanele ayikuvumeli ukuba uthathwe kwinani labantu okuthiwa "i-caste yegolide", zama ukubheka konke njengokungathi uvela ku-ifilimu.
"Umfundi omuhle kakhulu we-Syndrome." Wena wayengumfundi omuhle kakhulu esikoleni, esikhungweni, nasemsebenzini awulahli ukuphila kwakho. Usanda kusetshenziselwa yonke indawo nakuyo yonke into yokuba ngowokuqala wenze konke okubekiwe kuqala. Kodwa awuzwa uthanda ukhilimu womphakathi, futhi kubonakala sengathi uphakathi kwabo, ngoba lokhu kuyinkomba yokuphumelela kwakho empilweni.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze ? Vele uphumule, ngoba ukuphuma akunikezi umbiko obalulekile. Ngifuna ukuphumula - yenzani, angifuni - ngifake indlu ngengubo futhi ufunde le ncwadi.
"Ukugijima enesizungu." Ngokugxiliswa komhloli wentela, owesifazane onesizungu uhambela lo mcimbi ngokunyundela: "Nomaphi lapho ngiya khona, ngihamba nawe nje!".
Yini okufanele ngiyenze ? Phakathi kwabantu abangajwayelekile emibuthanweni enomsindo, ungase uzizwe unesizungu ngokwengeziwe. Ukulandela iseluleko sabangqondo bezingqondo, kubalulekile ukuthi "ukhethe nge-bead" umngane wakho wabangani futhi "uhlanganise" abantu abangokoqobo nabasondelene nabantu abanobuhlakani emcimbini wokuqonda.
Engeza izinto ezingokwenyama!
Kuze kube manje, ukuthola uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi wezwe akulula. Kodwa ngenhloso yokuhlomula komuntu siqu, kuyoba kufaneleka ukucabanga, ngekhwalithi yegama lakho umenywa ebhola: ukudansa i-mazurka noma ukugcina ingubo yoboya. Ngamanye amazwi, engxenyeni "yomuntu obalulekile" noma ngokumane uhlamvu lomumo.
Ukulandela indlela yokuphila, zonke izenzakalo zihlelwe ngenhloso yokuheha nokuhlekisa abantu bexabiso eliphakeme kakhulu - njengoba bethi, bavunyelwe lapha. Futhi ukuthi ungabambelela kanjani kuwe, uma kukhona okungaziwa ngokuphila kwakho emphakathini jikelele, kodwa ukuchitha imali enhle futhi uzuze isikhathi esithile oyifunayo?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhombisa konke ukukhathalela kwakho nokwethembeka. Okwesibili, ungalindeli ukuthi uzothokozwa-ulethe amanothi okuqala ngokwakho kumkhuba wendabuko womcimbi. Okwesithathu, ngisho nento enokukhathazeka kakhulu, ziphathe ngokungaqondile futhi ngokungafani.
Khumbula ukuthi abantu bezwe babone futhi banolwazi oluningi, ngakho-ke kunzima kakhulu ukuzimangaza nganoma yini. Kodwa bayakwazisa ukuqala, ukuzethemba kukho konke, ukuzithoba, ukuzondla kanye nekhono lokuzigcina ngesilinganiso esifanayo nabantu abanethonya. Masikhumbule u-Oscar Wilde, owathi ukuthi ukuze uthole umphakathi wonkana wonke umhlaba, umuntu kumele athole, noma athokoze, noma ashaqe abantu! Nansi kuwe umthetho wegolide wokuthola impumelelo emphakathini wezwe!