Futhi emva kwalokho, ekugcineni, ukhathele ngokuphelele, khumbula umthandi wakho bese wehla ukuze umnike ngisho nesikhathi esincane sesikhathi sakhe esiyigugu. Futhi ekugcineni, uzoyibheka, enethemba lokubona ukubukeka okulindelwe isikhathi eside futhi okuthandekayo okuqondiswe kuwe, okugcwele ukukhathazeka okungavinjelwe nokukhanga okungahambisani nawe. Futhi ngokuzumayo, ukubheka othandekayo wakho, uzomangala ukuthola ukuthi isifiso kuphela esithola umthombo wesifiso sakho yisifiso masinyane, lo mzuzu nje ... ukulala futhi akukho lutho! Futhi kuthiwani manje ukuphila komuntu wesifazane?
Ungamisa kanjani le-avalanche enamandla ebizwa ngokuthi "ijubane lesimanje lokuphila"? Ngemuva kwalokho, lapho kusasa, ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa umfutho wokuzikhandla, uthola umsebenzi onjalo "othandekayo nowuthandekayo," futhi lapho bafuna ukusebenza "ukuphelelwa yisikhathi" egameni lekusasa elikhanyayo, elikuqaphele ngokuphelele, njengomuntu, nangokucindezela "wonke amajusi" , futhi uma ufika ekhaya, uqoqa izingcezu zamandla ezingqondo ezisalokhu zikhona emzabalazweni ongalingani obizwa ngokuthi "ukuphila", ngakho-ke, naphezu kwesimo esibi sezinto, ekujuleni komphefumulo wakho, kusekhona isifiso sokushintsha konke okungcono, ekugcineni uqale phila impilo egcwele, ikakhulukazi, esondelene!
Ngokufushane mayelana nezintathu.
Esinye seziphetho, esibhekwa esimweni esifanayo, sichazwa kanje kanje: "Sichitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye futhi sesivele sithukuthele. Sidinga imizwa engavamile, evusa amadlingozi nokuthakazelisayo ngomphefumulo ukuze uzizwe ukugcwala kokuphila ukwenza impilo esondelene igcwale. " Futhi imizwa enjalo itholakala ngokushesha, kodwa ayifuni nhlobo ngokuthola izinkinga zangaphakathi nomlingani oyedwa kuphela, kodwa ebuhlotsheni obusha nomunye nomunye umuntu ngokuphelele. Futhi, ezithakazelisayo kakhulu, ngesizathu esithile, umlingani omusha uhlale ewanele namandla, nesikhathi nesifiso. Kodwa ngezikhathi ezithile, ukuphazamiseka nokujabulela ukuphila, umbuzo uvela: "Futhi lokhu konke kube nini?".
Futhi-ke, ngokungalindelekile, ukungaqiniseki nokuhlukumeza mayelana nokucabangela kwento yonke eyenzeka ngokuzumayo kuvela, kukhona umuzwa wesifiso nokuhluleka ukuba nesikhathi "kuyo yonke indawo futhi ngasikhathi sinye". Futhi, kule nkathi engapheli kakhulu, uyamangala ngokuthola ngokuzumayo ukuthi amandla akho angenamkhawulo, obonakala sengathi ayengenamkhawulo, aqala ukuphuma ngokushesha kakhulu, impilo yakho esondelene nayo idlula.
Kulokhu, kunomfanekiso owodwa ophawulekayo futhi ofundisa ngomuntu othi, ngemva kokuba ephihlile enqoleni yegundane, weza enkosinikazi ngesicelo sokumsiza.
Sage, ukulalela ngokucophelela yonke imininingwane yendaba engavamile eyenzeka kumuntu, ngokuzumayo yathi ngokungalindelekile: "Udinga nje ukuthola inkomo." Le ndoda, ngokusobala yayingalindeli iseluleko esingajwayelekile, yaqala ukubuza imibuzo ye-sage, futhi yaqala ukutshela ngokuningiliziwe ngokuhlukumeza kwakhe, ecabanga ukuthi inhlakanipho ayizange iqonde lokho okwakushiwo. Kodwa-ke, inhlakanipho yaqhubeka igcizelela ukuthi abalimi baqala inkomo. Kulungile, le ndoda yayingenanto yokwenza kodwa ilalele iseluleko sika-sage bese ithola inkomo. Ngakho-ke, ngemva kokuletha lesi silwane, le ndoda yancipha, icabanga ukuthi manje isisombulule zonke izinkinga zayo, futhi ukuphila komuntu wesifazane akusijabulisi.
Kodwa kwakukhona! Ngokushesha ngemva kokuvela kwenkomo, le ndoda yahlushwa nakakhulu. Akazange athole indawo yakhe futhi wayecabanga kuphela ukuthi uzokhipha kanjani le nkomo engadingekile. Ngakho-ke, ekhulelwe ukukhathala, le ndoda yayingakafiki ku-sage futhi yaqala ukukhononda ngokuphila kwayo yaba yisihogo. I-sage iphinde yamlalela ngokucophelela le ndoda futhi, ngemva kokuma okwesikhashana, yathi: "Uma ufuna ukususa izinkinga - thengisa inkomo." Le ndoda yabonga le ndoda futhi yabuyela ekhaya. Ngemva kokucabanga okwesikhashana, lo muntu wanquma ukulandela lesi seluleko se-sage futhi asuse inkomo enjalo ehlosiwe. Ngakho-ke, ukuthengisa lesi silwane, ngokungazelelwe lo muntu wathola ukuthi kwaba lula kakhulu emphefumulweni wakhe, ngokuzumayo wayenesikhathi esiningi samahhala futhi wamangala lapho ethola ukuthi wayengenandaba lutho! Ukuphila kuye kwaba ngcono, ukuthula futhi kumnandi kakhulu!
Futhi uma, emva kokufunda le ndaba efundisayo, ezinye iziphetho ezizwakalayo zivele kumuntu othile neziphetho eziwusizo ezivuthiwe, ngakho-ke akubhalwa ize. Futhi umuntu othize ngesinye isizathu engacabangi ngencazelo yalesi sithombe, ngokusobala, kufanele abonise ngenye indlela. Isibonelo,
Ngesinye isikhathi ngothando lomuntu osondelene naye wesifazane.
Mhlawumbe, abantu abaningi kakade banombono ongacacile wokuthandana, njengokungathi unomzwelo womlingo nokungabonakali. Kubonakala sengathi kuphela ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside kunalokho kunesifiso kunalokho okwenzekayo eqinisweni, kubhekwa ukuthi impilo esondelene yowesifazane ovuthiwe inqatshiwe ngalesi sikhathi. Ukwakha ifomu lezinto ezibonakalayo kalula ngokusuka ebuhlotsheni bomzwelo, njengomuzwa wokuthandana, kuyadingeka ukuxhuma konke ukucabanga nomcabango umuntu anakho. Nakuba, mhlawumbe lokhu ngeke kube ngokwanele, futhi kuyodingeka ukuba wakhe umkhathi obuseduze, obhekene ne-halo yezimfihlakalo nokungaziqondi, khona-ke impilo ebuseduze izokhanya.
Akungabazeki ukuthi iqiniso liwukuthi kukhona abantu abasha abathanda kakhulu "izinkinga" ezibalulekile nezenzo zabo. Futhi uma befika ekhaya futhi bebona konke noma ezinye zezici ezingenhla, abakwazi ukuqonda futhi baphethe ngokuthi kwenzekani ngempela. Futhi-ke, ngokuzumayo, banomqondo ekukhanyeni kweso ukuthi mhlawumbe akulindeleke lapha nhlobo? Abantu abanjalo kufanele bazilungiselele kusengaphambili. Kulokhu, kokubili ama-semitransparent namaxoxo kanye ngqo, "kumbhalo ocacile", angasiza. Kodwa into esemqoka kuleli bhizinisi ukuhlobisa futhi kuvuselele isithakazelo kulokhu noma kuleso simo.
Abaningi abafuna ukuthanda ubudlelwane obuseduze, thola izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuthuthukiswa kwezenzakalo, isibonelo, ukuhleleka itafula esitolo sokudlela, ukushiya umuzi, noma ukumema "isigamu" sakho ukubuka i-movie yothando. Ngokuyinhloko, ungathola okuningi, udinga nje ukuhlola isimo sakho sezezimali futhi, uma kungenzeka, ulindele ukuthi umlingani wakho angasabela kanjani ekuhlotsheni kokuphila obuseduze.
Omunye wabangane bami wangitshela ngukuhlwa kusihlwa kwothando emndenini wakhe. Ngokushesha ngemva kokuba umyeni wakhe ebuya emsebenzini, wathola inothi eduze nomnyango ayekudingekile ukuba angene ekhishini. Ewela umnyango wekhishi, umyeni wamangala lapho ethola itafula elihle kakhulu. Kodwa amehlo akhe aphinde awela kwesinye isigijimi, lapho ayedinga khona ukuya ekamelweni ngokuphuthumayo. Khona-ke umyeni wamngane wami wathola amanothi amaningi futhi wangena ebhodini, waze wangena ehholo, ngezinye izikhathi wayefuna ukubuka phansi kwe-sofa!
Ekugcineni edinwe isifiso sokuthola "ukumangala" okulungiselelwe, umyeni womngane wami ekugcineni wathola endlini yokugezela waba yinkinga yokucinga okunzima futhi okude - umkakhe. Ngemuva kwalokho, kamuva, lowo oshade naye wabonisa izifiso zakhe ngendlela encane eya "ephusheni" lakhe. Kodwa, naphezu kwalokhu, umyeni walona wesifazane wayejabule futhi wamangala ngokucabanga okunjalo okucebile komthandi wakhe. Ngakho-ke, impilo ebuseduze yalona wesifazane iye yaba yinto ehlukene kakhulu.
Ngokufushane mayelana nokuzenzekelayo
Kuqinisekile ukuthi amasu namaqhinga kuyinto enhle, kodwa akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi kunomsebenzi othakazelisayo nakakhulu othakazelisayo - isethulo. Ngenxa yentshiseko nomcabango ongenamkhawulo, uyakwazi ukwenza izimangaliso. Uma kwenzeka umatasa ngebhizinisi futhi uhlangana nomthandi wakho kuphela ekubonisweni, ezindaweni zokudla, kuzo zonke izinhlobo zamaqembu, ngakho-ke, uma ufuna, ungasebenzisa la macebiso. Noma kunjalo, ungalindeli izikhathi ezingcono. Ngoba lapho, emva kokuzijabulisa, kusihlwa, ukhathele futhi ukhathele, uzobuya, ekugcineni, ekhaya, khona-ke ngeke usuhlanganyele ekwenzeni uthando. Kulesi simo, ukuphila komuntu wesifazane kuyodlula.
Okuthakazelisayo kakhulu futhi okuthakazelisayo umqondo wokuhlanganisa ukujabulisa ngaphakathi kwekhoneni eliyimfihlo yezinhlobo zethulo, noma iqembu elisemthethweni. Ukubukeka kobuqotho, ukumomotheka, ukunyakaza okungaqondakali kahle kwamehlo amahle, kugcwale ukubhekwa "povoloka," ukuthinta okungenakuqondwa phansi kwetafula, kubangele ukuphendula okuphindaphindiwe futhi, kakade, ukulungelelwa kwemiphumela kufinyeleleke. Futhi uma ufuna, khona-ke ungacabanga ukuthi awukwazi kahle futhi unephupho elilodwa kuphela - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyindleko yokulinga umuntu wamaphupho akho - lokhu kungenye indlela yokwenza impilo ebuseduze yomkhwenyana. Futhi empeleni, eqinisweni, kubonakala sengathi kubangelwa abantu abaningi.
Emigqeni ye-intersecting.
Khumbula ukuthi unayo indlela yakho, futhi umthandi wakho unayo. Ngamunye wethu wenza impilo yakhe yedwa, ngaphandle kosizo lwabanye.
Kodwa kaningi kangakanani indlela yakho ehamba ngayo iyoxhomeka kuwe kuphela. Mhlawumbe kukhona imigqa emibili elandelanayo engeke neze, ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo, ihlangane, mhlawumbe kuphela ephusheni. Futhi, mhlawumbe, lena yimigqa emibili ehlanganisiwe eyenza inganekwane nephethini yamagic.
Ungasungula izizathu ezanele mayelana nokuthi umsebenzi uthatha amahora angu-24 ngosuku, ukuthi umndeni uphelelwe ngokuphelele. Nokho, lokhu kungukuphila kwakho kuphela nesinqumo sakho. Zama ukushintsha kancane kancane. Zama ukuhlela nokuhlela impilo yakho ngendlela yokuthola isikhathi sokuhamba okuhlanganyelwe kanye neminye imisebenzi ethandekayo. Phela, kungenzeka ngempela ukuthola isigamu sehora phakathi nosuku lokusebenza ukuze uhlangane futhi ushintshe izindaba zakamuva. Ungakwazi ukukhuluma nje efonini ngaphandle kokuthinta isihloko secala bese ugwema ukuhlaziywa okuphelele kwezenzakalo. Vumela izwi lakho libe lula futhi lithande, elijabulisayo, libheke futhi lithembise okuningi. Futhi-ke indoda yakho izobe isilungele ukuyeka konke ukubuyela ekhaya ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, kubathandekayo bakhe futhi wenze ukuphila kwakho okuncane kungakhohlwa. Yebo, udinga nje ukungaphuthelwa isikhathi esifanele, ulungiselelwe yizo zonke izindlela owaziwa kuwe.
Nokho, kuzo zonke lokhu kukhona kuphela "kodwa". Ngokweqiniso, izimo zicatshangwa lapho isifiso sithandana. Kodwa ngokuvamile kuvela ukuthi ukungaqondakali kwemibono mayelana nokuthi kuyoba kuhle kanjani kokubili abathandi akukwenzeki. Kwenzeka ukuthi awunayo isimo sengqondo, bese isimo sengqondo sishintsha nomlingani, khona-ke impilo esondelene nayo iyoba yisithukuthezi. Kwenzeka, futhi omunye akufanele akwenze inhlekelele futhi aziphephe ngokungaqiniseki okungadingekile. Ungazama okuhlukile kokukhohlisa. Ungakhathazeki uma ungaphumelelanga - esikhathini esizayo uzoba nenhlanhla. Izinsuku ezingaphumelelanga zenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu. Kodwa-ke, awukwazi ukuphoqelela wena noma umlingani wakho - lokhu ngokuqinisekile kuyindlela yokulahlekelwa, impilo esondelene nayo ayizuzi ngalokhu. Khumbula ukuthi akudingeki nje ukuthi ukwazi ukuthi "cha" ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa futhi ukulindela izifiso zomthandi wakho. Into esemqoka akuyona ukusheshisa, ngoba impilo yinde futhi uzoba namathuba amaningi okubona zonke izifiso zakho eziyimfihlakalo kanye nezifiso zomunye.
Khumbula ukuthi uma ukhuluma ngokuthandana, awukwazi ukuphoqeleka engqondweni, ngoba kuguquguquke kakhulu futhi ngezinye izikhathi usithatha ngokungalindelekile ngokuphelele. Kodwa-ke, wonke umuntu uthemba ukuthi uzozizwa. Futhi ngalokhu udinga ngezinye izikhathi nje ukuthembela intando yezimo nakho konke. Inhlanhla kuwe!