Abantu abaningi banamuhla bakhumbula ukuthi ebuntwaneni babo konke "kwakufana." Izembatho, izincwadi zokufunda, ukudla, abanakekeli, imidlalo, ama-anecdotes, umsebenzi wesikole. Esikoleni, lowo muntu wazama ukufihla ifomu. Enkulisa - ngisho namaphesenti amantombazane awafani neze nama-panties abafana. Ungaphinde usho i-pantyhose.
Abantu abadala bayikhumbula kahle izigaba esasize ngazo ekuninini nasezinhlobonhlobo zanamuhla. Umzwelo wokuzibandakanya uhambisana nezicelo zobuntu - ingane ingakwazi futhi ifune ifoni, "njengo-Masha", noma kunjalo, umbala ohlukile, njll. Ngisho naphakade amawele afanayo manje angafuni ukufana nomunye.
Izingane zidinga ukunakekelwa ngabanye. Akuthandi noma yikuphi ukugqoka, izinwele, ngisho nokuqeqeshwa komuntu ngamunye. Emadolobheni ami, abazali abakwazi ukukhokha imali engama-dollar ayikhulu ngenyanga ngenyanga yokufundiswa kwengane bahlelwa ngamahemuhemu nokuhleba, baxoxisana nabafundisi besikhathi esizayo, bafuna futhi bafike emfundweni ngabanye.
Kungani lokho? Kusobala ukuthi bashukunyiswa isifiso sokuthuthukisa wonke amakhono ayingqayizivele wengane futhi bangayinaki noma yimuphi wabo. Kodwa kulokhu, uxhumano lwezingane nomphakathi lulahlekile. Ukuxhumana akukhulumi "ngokwakho". Ungatholi amakhono afunde indlela yokuziphatha eqenjini labanye abantwana noma abadala. Iningi lezemidlalo yeqembu elithuthukayo alitholakali nengane ngokuqeqeshwa ngabanye. Ngenxa yalokho, i-pedagogy ne-psychology yezingane zanamuhla ziyavuma ukuthi uma abazali befuna ukuthi ingane ikwazi ukukhulumisana ngokuhle nabanye abantu, kufanele iqale ukufundisa lokhu ngangokunokwenzeka nangamaqembu. Umbuzo "kanjani?"
Isicelo somphakathi sokuthola indlela efanele kakhulu ekukhulisweni kwezingane sesivele sakhiwe. Umbuso, ngokuqondene nawo, ufuna futhi ukubona abantu abaphila kahle ngokomzimba nangokwenyama, ngaphezu kwalokho, uhulumeni ufuna ukugcwalisa "ukugcinwa kwengqondo" kwezwe. Ukuze kusetshenziswe lezi zinhloso, uhlelo lwezemfundo ludinga indlela entsha, eqhubekayo ekufundiseni izingane zasenkulisa kanye nabantwana besikole.
Kusobala ukuthi akuzona zonke izingane ezinikezwe ngokwanele ukufuna ukuqeqeshwa komuntu ngamunye.
Kodwa-ke, uhlelo olukhona lwemfundo kaningi aluvumeli amandla okubonakalisa esigabeni sokuqala sokuqeqesha futhi angasiza ngisho nokuphakamisa noma yikuphi izimfanelo "ezingavamile" zengane, ezidinga ukunakekelwa okungaphezulu komfundisi noma uthisha.
Singaqinisekisa kanjani indlela yokuziqeqesha komuntu omncane kanye nesakhamuzi esizayo futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uxhumano lwakhe nomphakathi?
Enye yezinketho ezikhona - ukuhlukanisa imfundo yezingane ngesisekelo sobulili, ukuphuthuma kwenkinga nokubonakala kwayo kusobala. Abafana bahlukile. Amantombazane ahlukanisiwe. Akuyona into entsha. Kodwa, njengoba sikhumbula, into entsha isivele isenzeka kwenye indawo nomunye umuntu.
Ngaphambi kokuqala kwekhulu leminyaka elidlule, abafundi be-gymnasium kanye namantombazane olimi lwangena kuphela ngemuva kwezindonga zezikhungo zemfundo. EYurophu naseMelika, ukuqeqeshwa okunjalo kuyenzeka futhi kusatshalaliswa namuhla.
Phakathi nekhulu leminyaka elidlule, uhlelo lwethu lwezemfundo luye lwazama ukufundisa wonke umuntu ndawonye, ngaphandle kokucabangela ukuthi amantombazane nabafana banemibono ephawulekayo ezingeni lezingqondo, imibono, i-neurophysiology, i-physiology. Emadodeni nakwabesifazane kunanoma yisiphi ubudala, ikhono lokukhumbula, ukusebenza, izindlela zokuzicabangela ngokwazo zihlukile kakhulu futhi zidinga izindlela ezihlukene ngokuphelele zokuthuthukiswa kwazo, lokhu kungenye yezibonakaliso zemfundo ehlukene yabafana namantombazane. Amantombazane nabafana badinga imisebenzi ehlukene, izinkondlo ezahlukene, izivivinyo ezahlukene kanye nezindlela ezehlukene zokuletha ulwazi. Futhi, izindlela zokuthonya abantu eqenjini labafana namantombazane kufanele zihluke. Izinto ezingaphansi kakhulu ezilimaza ingqondo yengane iyoba lapho ukufundisa eqenjini kuqhathaniswa nobulili.
Ngokungangabazeki, uthisha uzothola umphumela ophakeme ngemizamo encane emfundweni yezingane "ezifanayo".
Uma ukuqonda okufanayo kwengqondo kubonakala eqenjini lezingane, ukuphumelela kwezindlela ezisetshenziswa othisha kuzokwanda.
Ngeshwa, ukuhlolwa kwemfundo ehlukene yabafana namantombazane kwakucatshangwa ngekhulu elidlule njengezibonakaliso ze-chauvinism noma besifazane isikhathi eside. Ngisho nakulezi zikhungo zemfundo lapho abashayeli bezinhlelo ezintsha bevumela ukufakwa kwemfundo ehlukene kubafana namantombazane - indlela yokwenza izinto kanye nezobuchwepheshe ibuthakathaka futhi isekelwe emithonjeni yangaphandle.
Indlela yokwaseRussia yokufundisa ngokuhlukene ekufundiseni yenziwa ezinsukwini zeRussia yangaphambi kokuguqula. Ucwaningo lwezazi zengqondo lisikisela ukuthi izindlela zokwelashwa kwengqondo, kanye nezinkinga ezingokwengqondo zabantu, ngokwabo ziye zashintsha iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-100 ngesilinganiso esanele ukungazi lutho ngokuphelele kwezindlela ngokwazo. Ngakho-ke, ukuqeqeshwa ngalezo zindlela zasendulo akunakwenzeka ekhulwini lama-21.
Ngakho-ke, lezo zingane okwamanje ezihlanganyela emfundweni ehlukene - zidinga ithonya elikhethekile labothisha kanye nabantwana bezengqondo zezingane ukuze banqume ukusebenza ngendlela ejwayelekile kanye namasu ahlukahlukene ngokukhethekile.
EYurophu, okwamanje, ukwehlukana kobulili kwemfundo kwandisa usuku lwalo lonke usuku, ngoba le ndlela iyamukelwa njengendlela eyinhloko yokuthuthukisa ukuhlaziywa kwemfundo. Manje wazi konke ngokuphuthumayo kwenkinga yemfundo ehlukene yabafana namantombazane futhi ukhethe indlela efanele kakhulu yengane yakho.