Kubazali abasebenza, ikhambi elivame kakhulu kule simo yi-enkulisa. Izingane zivame ukuvakashela insimu, zifinyelele eminyakeni emithathu. Noma kunjalo, ake sibone, ingabe yile minyaka efaneleka kakhulu? Kunemibono eminingi kule ndaba. Omunye uqinisekile ukuthi ngokushesha uzoba ngcono, ngoba kuzoba lula ukuba umntwana ajwayele isimo esisha. Abanye bathi kufanele ulinde okungenani iminyaka emine, ukuze ingane ichithe isikhathi esiningi nonina.
Yiqiniso, kunzima ukuphikisana nesitatimende sokuthi ingane ihamba kahle nomama. Umama ezweni lakhe elincane liyisiqhingi sokuthembeka, unina unika ithemba, ingane ihlola izwe ngesibindi lapho unina eseduze. Ukuxhumana nomama kuyindlela ebaluleke kunazo zonke yokwazi umhlaba ngomntanakho, ngakho ungaqedi ubudlelwane obuseduze nomntwana osemncane kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi akudingeki nje ukuba usondele komntwana, kodwa futhi kumsize ekuthuthukiseni. Iminyaka yokuqala yokuphila - ebaluleke kakhulu ekubunjweni kobuntu, ngakho umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu wabazali - ukunikeza ukunakekelwa okukhulu kwengane. Kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa imidlalo, ukufanekisa, ukudweba, ukuvocavoca - ngamafuphi, konke okukhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kwenkulumo, amakhono emoto, ukuhlakanipha. Kulokhu kuvumelana ukuthi ngokuvamile kuvame ukuthi izingane kufanele zinikezwe enkulisa ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuze ziphathwe ngabachwepheshe abazobhekana ngokuphumelelayo nenkinga yentuthuko futhi bazi kahle ukuthi benzeni inkambo efanele yokwenza izinqubo zobuntu. Kodwa ukuze usebenze ngokufanele nengane akudingeki ukuba ube ochwepheshe. Manje kukhona inani elanele lezincwadi ezichazela umama ukuthi yini nokuthi ungayenza kanjani. Futhi akekho, ngisho nochwepheshe oqeqeshiwe kakhulu futhi onolwazi ngeke ashintshe umama wengane.
Indaba enjalo engathà sina kufanele ikhulunywe ngabanye, ihlole kuqala izici zengane. Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeke ukuthi kakade eminyakeni emibili ingane ikhuluma kahle, ihlangene ngokuzimela ngophi futhi ayidingi usizo lomfundisi ngesikhathi semini. Uma ingane yakho isondelene, ujabulele ukuchitha isikhathi nezinye izingane kanye nabantu abadala, uma kunesidingo, ingane enjalo ingakunikezwa engadini. Kukhona amathuba amakhulu ukuthi ingane enjalo ethuthukile enkulisa izozizwa kahle, thola abangane abasha futhi ufunde imidlalo emisha.
Iningi labangqondo bezengqondo baxwayiswa ukuba baqale ukujwayela enkulisa hhayi ngaphambi kweminyaka emithathu. Lokhu ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuthi kule minyaka eminingi izingane eziningi sezivele zizimele futhi zisho kahle ukuthi zenza kube lula kakhulu umsebenzi womfundisi, futhi kuyathulisa umama ukuqonda ukuthi ingane yakhe ingakwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga ezincane zasekhaya. Futhi lapho eneminyaka emithathu ubudala, ukuzivikelwa komzimba kuqiniswa, okuvumela ingane ukuba ivumelane kalula ne-enkulisa. I-kid kule minyaka isivele isenamandla futhi ingaphenduki ngokuqinile ekushintsheni kwe-microclimate, kungenjalo ingaphansi kokutheleleka kanti izingane ezisencane zivame ukugula.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi lesi sitatimende sezingane ezingokwengqondo kwengqondo sinomqondo wendalo futhi akunjalo ukuthi kusho ukuthi ngemuva kokufinyelela ingane yakho eneminyaka emithathu ubudala, kumele uyithumele ensimini. Akekho owazi kangcono kunomama wakhe umntwana futhi akakwazi ukuhlola izinga lokuzimisela kwakhe ukuvakashela engadini. Izingane eziningi kule minyaka azikwazi ukuxoshwa emndenini ngisho namahora ambalwa - ikakhulukazi uma ingane izwela izinguquko futhi iphendula ngokuqinile ekuntulekeni kwezihlobo eziseduze.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi iminyaka emithathu yinkinga enzima yengane. Ngalesi sikhathi kaningi kunenkinga yobuntu. Ngalesi sikhathi ingane ngokuvamile iba inkani, inenkani, ifuna ukuziphendulela futhi ihlukumeza yonke into. Uma kwenzeke ukuthi inkinga ye-triennium ihambisana nesikhathi lapho wanquma ukunika ingane engadini, kufanele ulinde kancane ukuze usinde isiphepho sokuqala. Uma ingane iwela engadini ngalesi sikhathi, le kid lizoqondisa zonke izinkinga zakhe ezingalungile kuye into entsha bese imqinisekisa ngezinzuzo zokuvakashela engadini kuyoba nzima. Ukuqaphela izimpawu zokuqala kwengane yakho, qala ukumlungiselela kusengaphambili ngendima entsha yomphakathi. Zama ukumbonisa izithombe ezihlukahlukene ezibonisa izingane ezidlala enkulisa, zisitshele ukuthi zinhle kangakanani futhi zimnandi lezi zingane. Uma abangani bakho benabantwana abanokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kokuvakashela inkulisa, zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho izwe indaba "kusukela emlonyeni wokuqala." Konke lokhu kuzolungisa ingane yakho ukuvakashela enkulisa.
Ayikho iminyaka yonke yokuqala inkulisa. Kumntwana ngamunye kuyadingeka ukuba akhethe isikhathi ngasinye, eqondiswa yizibonakaliso: ukuzimela kwengane, ukuxhumaneka, ubudlelwane nabantu abadala kanye nezingane, ukubonisa izimpawu zenkinga yeminyaka emithathu ubudala. Uma wena, ngemva kokuhlaziya ukuziphatha kwengane, wanquma ukuthi yisikhathi sokuya enkulisa - qala ukulungiselela ingane ukuvakasha kokuqala, umthakazelise. Khona-ke noma yikuphi ushintsho empilweni yengane kuyothola ngenjabulo, futhi ukubona ingane yakho ijabule injabulo enkulu kunoma yimuphi umama. Ngakho kungcono kuwe ukunikeza ingane enkulisa.