Kungani kufanele sizame ukuthethelela abazali ngakho konke? Ngenxa yokuthi ngale ndlela wenza ukuphila kwakho kube lula, ukhulula futhi uzihlanza ngokwengqondo yakho engokomoya, ulethe impumuzo emphefumulweni wakho. Ukuthethelela nokubuyisana kukhona imiqondo emibili ehlukene. Ungenza ukuthula futhi ungathetheleli, kodwa qhubeka ugqoka itshe emphefumulweni wakho, uphazamiseke futhi uzizwe unomunyu. Futhi ungakwazi ukuthethelela ngobuqotho futhi uyeke ukuziqothula ngaphakathi. Njengoba engakunqamuki imizwa ebulalayo, umuntu ngeke aphile ngokujabula futhi ajabulele ukuphila.
Ezinye izinkinga zokuphila, izinkimbinkimbi, ukwesaba kungumphumela wokukhulisa nezinkinga zobuntwana. Uma umuntu eqala ukuzizwa engafundanga kahle, aphathwe ngokungalungile, kukhona izikhalazo ngokumelene nabazali, ngezinye izikhathi engazi lutho. Kodwa isikhathi asibuyanga emuva, ubuntwana abukwazi ukubuyiselwa futhi abuguquli izenzakalo zaleso sikhathi. Ngakho-ke ukuthethelelwa kwazo zonke izinkathazo nokwesaba kubazali bazo kuzosiza ekuxazululeni izinkinga eziningana ezingokwengqondo nezengqondo.
Okokuqala, kufanele unqume ngokuqaphela ukuyeka ukuhlupheka, ukuzwa intukuthelo nobuhlungu. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga okungenani okwesikhashana ukunciphisa uxhumano nomhlukumezi, okuncane ukuxhumana.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi uphathwe ngendlela engalungile futhi kabi, kufanele uthathe yonke imizwa yakho emibi futhi uzibonele ukuthi yini oyithukuthele ngempela, ongayithandi abazali bakho. Okokuqala, udinga ukuhlukanisa ukuxuba kwemizwa eyinkimbinkimbi neyinkimbinkimbi ozizwayo kubazali. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kufanele ugobe emphefumulweni wakho, ukubuyisela intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukungaqondi kanye neminye imizwelo ehlukahlukene. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, akunakwenzeka ukuthethelela. Uma uthola kunzima ukuqonda konke wena ngokwakho, ungacela usizo ku-psychologist, ngosizo lochwepheshe kuyoba lula kakhulu.
Emva kokuhlaziya imizwa yakho, udinga ukwamukela ukuthi abazali yilokho abayikho, futhi nabo bangabantu abanezimfanelo zabo ezinhle futhi ezimbi. Benza amaphutha abo ngenxa yokungathandi noma ukuzondwa, kodwa ngenxa yokumesaba ukungabi nabangozi njengabazali, ukwenza okuthile okungalungile. Babesaba nokuthi izingane zizozilahla. Ngokwesibonelo, abanye abazali bayashaya izingane, bathukuthele ngokwabo, bese bebeka icala futhi banemithwalo yemfanelo kwengane, bathi basolwa ngokuthukuthela futhi bathatha abazali bakhe. Ukwesaba ukungahambi kahle ngokweqiniso, akusho ukuthi abazali abalungile, ngoba ngokushesha ingane izoqonda ukuthi ayinecala. Bese-ke izingane zizoqala ukuqoqa izikhalo, futhi abazali - umuzwa wecala. Ngakho ungenzi lokhu kubantwana. Kodwa, njengoba sekushiwo kakade, sonke singabantu nje abajwayele ukwenza amaphutha. Futhi kuhle uma umuntu engavuma amaphutha abo futhi awalungise.
Naphezu kwakho konke, iningi labomama nabazali lifisa izingane zabo kahle, futhi indlela abayifinyelela ngayo lokho abayifunayo kuxhomeke ezintweni ezihlukahlukene - kusukela esikhathini, ekuzikhuliseni nasekuhloleni kwabazali ngokwabo, emibonweni yabo empilweni, njll. .
Isigaba esilandelayo yizivivinyo ezisebenzayo. Yenza izinhlu ezimbili. Ohlu lokuqala, bhala lokho abazali ababenzile futhi benza okungalungile, futhi yini eyakulimaza, ngombono wakho. Futhi ohlwini lwesibili - ukuthi yini abazali okufanele bakhulume futhi benze ukuze ukuphila kwakho kube lula futhi kujabulise ngokwengeziwe. Yenza uhlu ngokuhlukana ubaba nomama.
Uhlu lokuqala lubonisa ukuthi yini okhathazekile ngabazali bakho. Futhi okwesibili - lokho okulindeleke kubo kusukela manje. Kuzodingeka uqaphele ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zohlu lwesibili noma ukhulume nabazali bakho bese ubacela ukuba bakusize ngalokhu.
Ukuveza ukuhlukumeza, inzondo nentukuthelo kuyoba nenzuzo yengqondo yengqondo. Ungakwazi ukukhuluma nomqondisi wezengqondo noma nomuntu omethembayo, kodwa ungachaza imizwa yakho nemizwa ngokuningiliziwe ephepheni, bese uphinde ufunde futhi, isibonelo, ushise. Lokhu kuzoba ukuvivinya umzimba okuhle.
Ungasheshi izinto. Ukuthethelela akusho ukuthi udinga ukukhohlwa masinyane icala. Ungenzi sengathi akukho lutho olwenzekile. Nika isikhathi sokudlula, ngenkathi uzama ukuthethelela.
Zama ukwakha ubuhlobo nabazali ngokuxhumana nabo. Usuvele uzitholele ukuthuka okuyisisekelo nokwesaba, manje zama ukuxoxa ngakho nabazali bakho. Buza ukuthi kwenzekani kubo ngaleso sikhathi, ukuthi bazizwe kanjani. Sitshele mayelana nemizwa yakho, okuhlangenwe nakho, amaphupho wesikhathi. Ungathola izinto eziningi ezintsha. Mhlawumbe uzoqonda ukuthi kungani benza ngendlela eyodwa, futhi ukuthethelelwa kuzofika ngokwayo. Uma ngesizathu esithile awukwazi ukuxoxa ngenkinga nabazali bakho, khuluma nomqondisi wezokwelapha.
Ukuze uthole ukuthethelela okuqotho, kubalulekile ukwenza umsebenzi omkhulu futhi onzima, futhi umphumela awungaziwa kusengaphambili, ngoba ungafisa ngobuqotho ukuthethelela umoni, kepha awukwazi ukukwenza. Kuyindlela ende. Nokho, ukuthethelelwa kuletha inkululeko ebuhlungwini, intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukuhlupheka nokudelelwa. Zama ukuthethelela abazali bakho ngaphakathi, bayeke ukucabanga ukuthi zingaki izinkimbinkimbi nokwesaba abafake ngaphakathi kuwe, nokuthi lokhu kukuthinta kanjani manje. Ungalahli amandla akho kulokhu. Khumbula ukuthi abazali abaphakade. Futhi ngelinye ilanga kuyoba khona isikhathi lapho bengeke babe khona khona. Akusi yini esinye sezizathu zokuthethelela?
Khumbula ukuthi nawe uzoba noma usuvele ungumzali. Ingabe wenza amaphutha ekukhuliseni izingane? Zibeke ezicathulweni zabazali bakho. Ungathanda yini izingane zakho zikuthethelele ngenxa yeziphambeko zakho, uma kungazelelwe ziyoba? Lalela inhliziyo yakho futhi ube nomusa.
Ukuthethelela, sizikhathalela thina kanye nempilo yethu, ukuthethelelwa ukuphulukisa kokubili umphefumulo nomzimba. Manje uyakwazi ukuthethelela zonke izikhalazo nokwesaba komzali.