A kiss akuyona nje isenzo sokubonga nesihawu. Kuyinto intaba-mlilo elele ekwazi ukuvuka nganoma yisiphi isikhashana futhi igxilwe yizikhukhula zothando kanye nemizwelo engalawuleki. Yiqiniso, esikhathini sethu akunakwenzeka ukuthi othile uzokulahla "ngokweqile" kokuziphatha. Futhi unqume ukuthi ungamanga ngosuku lokuqala - nguwe kuphela.
Kukhona amaqembu amaningana abantu abanezimo ezihluke kakhulu mayelana nokumanga ngosuku lokuqala. iqembu lokuqala - abalandeli bokuthakazelisa, okuyinto isenzo esifanayo - into efana nomthombo we-adrenaline, ukushayela, ukushaywa kwezinzwa ezintsha. Njengomthetho, lezi ziyisisusa futhi zithandana nabantu abathandekayo. Ukumanga ngosuku lokuqala kuyingxenye yokusesha kwabo injabulo. Lokhu kubangenisa amandla futhi kubangele ukukhululwa kwama-endorphin - i-hormone yenjabulo. Bakhathazekile imizwelo, isizungu, umuzwa we "izimvemvane esiswini". Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akuyona into eqondile, efuna ubulili kuphela futhi akukho lutho. Ngokuphambene nalokho! Bangabantu abathandana nabo abathanda ukwazi futhi bajabulele ngokugcwele.
Elinye iqembu labantu yibo abadinga isikhathi ukuze bazi umuntu eduze. Badinga umuzwa wokuthembela kumlingani oma phambi kwabo, futhi lokhu akuzalwa ngosuku lokuqala. Uma sebemethemba ngokugcwele - ungavuma ukuthi kungenzeka ukusondelana (kungaba kiss noma ubulili). Lokhu kuyimvelo yothando, unamahloni ngemvelo, kodwa unomzimba, unethenda, okholwa ngobuqotho othandweni oluhlanzekile neqiniso futhi ufune kuze kube yilapho bewuthola khona. Basola kakhulu futhi ngeke bathemba umuntu uma bengenalo iqiniso lokuthi lo muntu uzochitha isikhathi esiningi naye, hhayi nje ubusuku obulodwa. Abalokothi babonise isinyathelo ngokusondelana ngosuku lokuqala, futhi basuke beqinile kakhulu uma benza umlingani wabo. Lokhu kuvame ukwesabisa futhi akuvumeli ubudlelwane buqhubeke.
Uhlobo lwesithathu lwabantu lubizwa ngokuthi "abazingeli". Zihlale zingenakuvinjelwa, ziyakwazi ukukhetha ukhiye kunoma ubani, kubo ukubanga ngosuku lokuqala i-trophy efanelwe empini. Abazingeli bangabesilisa abahlukene, kodwa bafana nento eyodwa - ekukwazi ukuphula izinhliziyo. Bakhetha othandweni "balwa ngaphandle kwemithetho," lapho bavame ukunqoba khona. Ngokuvamile, ukumanga ngosuku lokuqala akukhawulelwanga - lokho kuyikhono lalabo abazingeli.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuqala kokuqala kungukuthi noma cha, ingxenye yalo engokomzwelo ixhomeke kakhulu kunoma yiziphi izinhlobo ezintathu ozibophezele zona, nokuthi umlingani wakho umlingani. Njengamanje, iningi lobuhlobo lizalwa ngokuxhumana nge-intanethi. Uma uhambelana nomuntu amasonto ambalwa, ukushintshanisa izithombe, ukhulume efonini, mhlawumbe uzizwa ukuthi uyamazi lo muntu iminyaka eminingi. Futhi uma uyibona okokuqala "bukhoma" - lokhu, eqinisweni, ngeke kube okokuqala usuku lwakho lokuqala. Ngemuva kwalokho, usuvele wazi ukuthi lo muntu ubengcono kunalabo abaningi abavele bahlangane ngeso lengqondo esitimeleni noma eklabhu. Futhi kulokhu, ukubanga kungenzeka futhi kudingekile, njengesibonakaliso sokuthandana ngempela ekugcineni.
Ukumanga ngosuku lokuqala kungasho izinto ezahlukene, futhi kungabangelwa izifiso ezahlukene. Kwabanye, lokhu kungukuqeda ukulamba kobulili nokufisa umuntu omusha, kanti kwabanye kuyinto ekhethekile yokuzijabulisa kanye nokuhlolwa. Kukhona nalabo abangamanga okwakuyisimo esijwayelekile, "i-chemistry" yemizwa, akukho lutho olukhethekile. Iqiniso livame ukuhlala isikhathi eside uma "u-formalist" ongenalo uthando.
Yini okufanele ibe ukuqala ngosuku lokuqala?
Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi kuyimithetho yokumanga ngosuku lokuqala, kodwa ngaphansi kwezimo ezithile. Bafaka ukubaluleka okukhulu ezinhlotsheni zokuwanga futhi babheke ukuthi kufanelekile ukubahlukanise futhi basebenzise ngezindlela ezahlukene ezimweni ezahlukene.
- Ukumanga esihlathini kuyisenzo somusa. Akukwenzelisi ukuthi ubenze noma, okungenani, ukumomotheka. Ukumanga esihlathini kungase kusho ukuthandana "okuhle", kodwa abanye abantu abathandana nabo bayakwazi ukuwuthatha "Ngiyakuthanda". Nakuba, ngezinye izikhathi kungaba njalo ngempela.
- Ukumanga entanyeni kuyinto, njengomthetho, njalo isenzo esiseduze. Awukwazi ukwamukelwa nganoma iyiphi indlela ngaphandle kokuthi "Ngifuna ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo." Kungenzeka ukuthi uyamahloni, uqaphele, unesithakazelo noma ngokuzumayo, kodwa lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sesifiso sobulili.
- Ukumanga ezindebe - ukuzonda okusheshayo ezindebeni kusho ukuthi ekugcineni uphendulele ikhanda lakho kumlingani wakho futhi ngokuqinisekile ufuna ukukubona kaningi. Lokhu kunikeza ithemba lokuqhubeka kobudlelwane.
- Ubusiso obunomdlandla ngolulwimi kuyisenzo esishisayo, eside, esithakazelisayo, kaningi isandulela ngculazi. Awukwazi ukumelana naye. Futhi ngesikhathi sokuqala, ubuhlobo bakho buzofika ezingeni elisha. Ngemva kokumangaza umlingani wakho ngale ndlela, uzokwazisa ukuthi uyavumelana. Lokhu kuvamile kubantu abathintekayo nabathandekayo, lokhu kubangelwa kubangela isiphepho semizwelo kanye nokunyuka kwe-adrenaline. Lesi yisidakamizwa sangempela sabaningi, ukuthembela okungazange siphathwe noma yini.
Isikhathi nendawo efanelekayo yokumanga ngosuku lokuqala
Abantu abamahloni nabangothando abanovame ukucabanga, indawo ekahle yokumanga kuqala ibhishi ebusweni obucacile emoyeni ovulekile, noma ngasemuva kwe-Eiffel Tower, noma ngaphansi kwemvula yasehlobo phakathi nomgwaqo. Kubantu abafanako umbuzo othi "kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubanga usuku lokuqala" unompendulo omuhle, yimiphi imihlangano kanye nokumanga kuyindlela eyodwa yokuthola injabulo ekuphileni - noma yikuphi indawo enhle yokumanga okwesikhashana, uma izinhlangothi zombili zifuna. Kusuka lapho u-kiss wakho wokuqala ukhona khona, kuncike kakhulu, kodwa kuncike kulokho okufaka wena ngokwakho.
Ukumanga ngosuku lokuqala kungumuntu ngamunye, njengemizwa yokukhonkolo futhi okungafani nanoma iyiphi enye yokumanga. Isifiso sokumanga ngosuku lokuqala kulukhuni ukunqoba, ngakho akudingeki ukuba ulwe nalesi sifiso. Thembeka wena ngokwakho - vumela imizwa yakho! Futhi ukubuyisela okubuhlungu kuyoba yinsindiso yakho efanelekile.