Ukuthonya kwesithombe sikababa ebuhlotsheni nomlingani

Iningi lemibono yethu mayelana nemindeni, impilo yomphakathi kanye nezocansi iyakhiwa nathi ebuntwaneni nasebusheni (kuze kube seminyaka eyi-14-18). Ukubheka abazali bethu, sithola umqondo wempilo yomndeni wethu wesikhathi esizayo, mayelana nokuthi kuzoba yini ubuhlobo namadoda, mayelana nendlela esizofundisa ngayo izingane, ukuthi izinto eziza kuqala nezindinganiso zethu ziyoba njani ekuphileni nasekuthandweni.

Kuzo zonke izinto ezishiwo ngenhla, kubonakala ukuthi into enjalo njengesithombe sikababa inethonya elikhulu ekuhloleni okuzayo nomlingani. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka kubo bonke abesifazane, ngisho nalabo ababengamazi uyise.

Izindlela eziyinhloko, lapho ithonya lesithombe sikababa ebuhlotsheni nomlingani libonakala khona.

Ake sicabange, yiziphi izindlela ngokuqondile isithombe sikababa (ngezikhathi ezingekho ngendlela ecacile) esithinta ubuhlobo nabalingani besikhathi esizayo.

Izindlela eziyinhloko ziyizintathu, lokhu kuyindlela eqondile, indlela eyahluke ngayo futhi indlela ejwayelekile ehlanganisiwe. Ake sibabheke ngezansi.

1. Indlela eqondile yethonya.

Indlela eqondile yokuthonya isithombe sikababa, njengombuso, kwenzeka emindenini ene "isimo sezulu" esihle, lapho bobabili bomshado bathandana nabantwana babo. Khona-ke indodakazi ekukhuliseni ibuka lolu thando nazo zonke izici zayo ezinhle. Kulesi simo, umfanekiso kababa uhlolwe kumlingani ozayo (ie, intombazana engacabangi noma efuna umlingani osondelene noyise ngokusemandleni akhe) ukuze afinyelele kuye ukujula kwemizwa efanayo, futhi wayenabantwana bayo.

2. Indlela yethonya okuphambene nalokho.

Indlela indlela isithombe sikababa esithonya ngayo okuphambene nalokho (okusho ukuthi owesifazane ubheka i-antipode kababa) uvame ukutholakala kulezo zimindeni lapho umoya ongathandeki khona (ukuhlambalaza, ukuxabana, ukuhlukunyezwa komntwana noma phakathi kwabashade). Kulesi simo, intombazane iqala ukuphikisa okuphikisana nesithombe sikayise, futhi intombazane ifuna umngane ongathandeki naye, ngezinye izikhathi ayihlolwe kuphela izimfanelo zobuntu, kodwa futhi kubukeka. Isibonelo, uma ubaba wayemnyama kakhulu, khona-ke intombazane izothanda ama-brunettes aphansi noma ngaphansi kokuphakama okulinganiselwe.

3. Imodi ethintekayo yethonya.

Le ndlela iyona evame kakhulu ngesizathu sokuthi ubudlelwane bobubili bomzali nabazali bomntwana babhekene nezimo zombili zokuxabana nezikhathi zokuvumelana okuphelele. Ngalendlela yokuthonya isithombe sikababa, isithombe sakhe sithathwa njengesizathu futhi siqondiswa (lokhu kwenzeka, njengomthetho, ngokungazi lutho). Lezo zici ezibekwe entombazaneni enhle, zifakwe kumlingani ozayo. Izici ezifanayo ezingafani nobaba, ziyasulwa. Lokhu kwenzeka ngezigaba ezihlukahlukene zokuqina nokujula nokuhlanganiswa okuhluke ngokuphelele.

Njengoba sekushiwo kakade, uhlobo lwesithathu luvame kakhulu, cishe amacala angu-70-80% amacala. Amabili asele cishe ahlukanise amaphesenti asele.

Ithonya lesithombe sikababa kulaba besifazane abakhulela ngaphandle kwakhe.

Into ehlukile ingabonakala kulabo besifazane ababengamazi uyise noma abangenalo uxhumano naye esikhathini esingazi kahle. Kulesi simo, akushiwo ngabazali abangamzali noma ababelethi, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi ucabange ukuthi uyise wesilisa noma uyise omtholayo uhambisana nesithombe sikababa.

Ngikhuluma ngamantombazane, omama abakhuliswa izizungu noma iziboshwa zezintandane, noma ogogo nomkhulu. Ezimweni ezinjalo, njengomthetho, kunomthwalo omkhulu wengqondo kwengane ngesikhathi sokukhula (lokhu kungenxa yokungabikho kwephethini lobuhlobo bomshado kanye nomthelela obaba ekubunjweni kobuntu). Kulesi simo, singasho (ngezinga elithile lokucabanga) ukuthi isithombe sikababa sizohlanganiswa futhi sakhiwe ngaphansi kwethonya lamaphephandaba amaningi, izincwadi, izithombe zokhokho balawo mindeni owesifazane obukayo ngenkathi ebunjwa ubuntu. Lezi zithombe azihlali zikhona ngokwanele ezimpilweni zokuphila, ngezinye izikhathi ezibangela izinkinga zabesifazane ezinjalo ebuhlotsheni babo namadoda.

Yiqiniso, umfanekiso kababa akuyona kuphela into ethinta ubuhlobo nomlingani, kodwa angabizwa njengokhiye.