Futhi lesi sitatimende asikwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi singabulungiswa: empeleni, ukuhlala njalo kuqoqo elilodwa, lapho kungekho khona izimo zokubonakaliswa komhawu, nezizathu zalokho okwenzekayo - ubukhulu, akulula kumunye wabahlanganyeli. Futhi, noma kunjalo, umkhuba wokwenza kube lula ukuxhumana phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kusenandaba: cishe yonke inkampani kunezibonelo eziningana zothando olwenzeka phakathi kwabasebenzi bomnyango owodwa.
Ngubuphi ubunzima obungaba khona?
Inkinga enkulu ebuhlotsheni obunjalo akufanele iphutha ngokuhlolwa komunye umuntu osebenza nabo komunye. Futhi uma owesifazane ehhovisi engakwazi ukuziphatha ngasese, ngaphandle kokunikeza isihawu kumuntu ohlala phansi, izenzo zomuntu othanda ehhovisi zingabonwa ngeso lengqondo. Yini ehlukanisa indoda kusuka kwabanye osebenza nabo, nje uzwela isisebenzi esithandekayo?
Okokuqala, ukuthola ukuthi umuntu osebenza nabo uthandana kalula, uma unaka isikhathi esilandelayo. Emaphakathini asemabhizinisini asemthethweni, ngokuqinisekile uzohlelwa ukuba abone indaba yokububula kwakhe, noma ngqo eduze kwalo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo uzozama ngazo zonke izindlela ukuthi angabonisi imizwa yakhe ngokukhululekile: akakwazi ukummema ukuba adlale, kodwa ngokuqinisekile uzoba ngowokuqala ukugcwalisa indebe yakhe yomnene. Ukuze abone umkakhe othandekayo endlini, futhi, cishe ngeke abizwe, kodwa nakanjani uzohlola ukuthi ufika ekhaya ngaphandle kokuzijabulisa. Uma ezwa ukuthi inhliziyo enamandla enhliziyweni yakhe ayihambi ekhaya ngemuva kokuphela kweqembu elilandelayo, kufanele ngosuku olulandelayo avele enhle kakhulu ehhovisi. Kuncike ekutheni kungenzeki ngokungahleliwe ku-nightclub efanayo njengoba yena, lapho kakade egcwala umlingo womkhathi ojabulisayo, uzokwazi ukubonisana nomngane wakhe ukuthi uthinta kanjani isimo sakhe sengqondo ngaye.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngisho nangemva kokungcebeleka okwezinye izikhathi noma izingxoxo ezingenangqondo, indoda ethandwayo ehhovisi isaba ukubonisa obala imizwa yakhe emsebenzini. Leli qiniso lesilisa lavame ukubangela ukubambezeleka ekuqaleni kobudlelwane obubi kakhulu nesikhathi eside. Inkinga akusiyo ukuthi ebusuku ebusuku kule ndoda indoda evele idlala ngothando nomngane wakhe. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kubaluleke nakakhulu: ukuhlala njalo ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kwamalungu eqoqo abalambile izenzakalo ezithakazelisayo, umane ufuna ukugcina isikhala sakhe siqu, okwenza uthando lube yingozi kakhulu. Lapha yonke into ixhomeke kulowo wesifazane ngokwayo: uma eqaphele kuye imibono yokubheka komuntu osebenza naye, ukunakekelwa kwakhe ngokucophelela ezindabeni zakhe kanye nesifiso esihlala njalo sokuthi abe khona eduze kwakhe, ngakho-ke ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane obudinga ukwenza into eyodwa kuphela: ukukhuluma naye, ukuqala ukuzwelana noma ukuphikisana naye.
Ngabe yini enye yokuhlukanisa indoda enjalo inkampani evela kwabanye osebenza nabo?
Kulula: uhlale enesithakazelo kuyo yonke into encane, ehlangene nokuphila komuntu okhethiwe wenhliziyo yakhe. Ukuziphatha komuntu othandana nehhovisi ngokuvamile kuvame ukushiwo yizici lapho yena ngokwakhe engaqageli khona. Ngakho-ke, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokwazi ukufihla imizwelo yakhe emphakathini. Esinye sezibonakaliso ezithandekayo zothando lomuntu onjalo unesithakazelo sakhe: uzohlala ebuza lowo osebenza nabo ukuthi usuku lwakhe luhambe kanjani, buza ukuthi yini elandela iphrojekthi yakhe. Futhi, ngokuba nomdlandla, lo mlingani ozobe eseqaphela zonke izinhlelo zomsebenzi oye wamthakazelisa futhi azama ukumvikela ngangokunokwenzeka ekudumeni. Kuye, angakhulumi ngesibindi ngezeluleko ezidingekayo, kodwa futhi nangesizo esibi kakhulu. Indoda ethandwayo ayiyona into ejabulisayo kunokuba ibambisane naye eprojekthi ethile, ayizimele yona. Kodwa lapha kukhona ubungozi: uma kukhona okungahambi kahle ngesikhathi somsebenzi, umphumela ungase ungabonakali - kusukela ekulahlekelweni okuphelele kwesithakazelo kuye, ekuguqulweni kothando olufudumele kube ngumkhuhlane oshisayo, enzondo enkulu.
Izenzo ezimbalwa ezijwayelekile.
Izenzo zomuntu othandweni ehhovisi azigcini nje ngokukhathalela kuphela othandekayo bakhe. Ukuzama ukufihla imizwa yakhe, okubheka ukuthi ayikho into engafanele, uzobonisa isithakazelo esijulile ezindabeni zomunye nomunye osebenza nabo. Ukulinganisa izinga lokunakwa elibonisiwe. Yiqiniso, ngeke kwenzeke ukufeza ngokuphelele ibhalansi, kodwa ngokuqinisekile kuzodida abasebenzi ngokunquma ukuthi ubani osebenza naye othandana naye. Nakuba kungelula kunzima ukubona ukuthi kubonakala kanjani: ngokubona. Indoda ethandwayo ithanda ukubheka isihloko sokububula kwakhe. Ikakhulukazi lapho ecabanga ukuthi akekho ombhekayo. Ngakho-ke, lapho ekhetha indawo entsha yomsebenzi, ngokuqinisekile uyokhetha ithebula elisendaweni yothandekayo wakhe, futhi ngesikhathi sokuphumula nabangane uzokhetha iphuzu lapho indawo yokubhema noma ukuphuza itiye lezingxenyekazi zehhovisi kubhekwa kakhulu.
Ukuziphatha komuntu othandweni kubanjwe ukwesaba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umlingani wakhe othandekayo noma umfokazi, oboniswe ewindini yebhasi elidlula, uzoba nguye. Ku-ofisi ukuthi lezi zikwesaba ziyobonakala kakhulu futhi ziyingozi kakhulu ekuthandweni kwezemisebenzi. Futhi akukona kakhulu ukukhangiswa kokuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane noma ukusongela ukuthi kubonakale emehlweni omuntu othandekayo othile ovela osebenza nabo, futhi hhayi siqu. Inkinga yikho okuqhubekayo yokuphazamisa. Ukubona owesifazane okhanukayo nsuku zonke, ukwazi ukuthi ubani othanda futhi ongafuni, ukuhlola amakhono akhe nenhlalakahle yakhe, nokugcina umgomo wokubukwa akuyona nje inzima-cishe akunakwenzeka. Futhi ngokungafani nowesifazane, indoda iyaqonda lokhu ngokuphelele. Yingakho esaba. Othandi obesabayo ngokuvamile uziphatha ngendlela engalindelekile. Kubonakala ngokukhanya okukhulu kokucasuka. Noma ngokuphambene - ukumamatheka okungaveli ebusweni, kufana ne-grin noma injabulo yengane ekuthengeni ithoyizi entsha. Kodwa ngokuvamile umuntfu othandana nehhovisi uziphatha ngokweqile, ikakhulukazi ezama ukugcina ngaphansi kokulawula imizwelo eqoqiwe.