Kodwa emva kwakho konke, ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo ebuhlotsheni bomndeni nakwebhizinisi kuya kuhlobo olujwayelekile lokuziphatha akukwazi ukubalwa. Ngakho-ke, namuhla ngeke sihlaziye umbuzo wokuthi singafunda kanjani ukuxhaphaza abantu, kodwa indlela yokuhumusha ubudlelwane nabasebenzi be-manipulators sibe yisiteshi esakhayo ngokwengeziwe.
Ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo kuyindlela yokuziphatha eyenza umuntu enze into engayifuni noma engafuni, ngokumelene nentando yakhe. Abantu abaningi abanolwazi abanokuhlangenwe nakho bangashintsha izinto ukuze into yokuxhaphaza ingabi nomuzwa wokuthi iyisigqila somdlalo womunye umuntu.
Kukholelwa ukuthi abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuphatha ukuziphatha. Ngokuvamile basebenzisa wonke amakhono abo abenza ukukhuthaza umuntu ukuba enze lokho angafuni. Eqinisweni, konke akulula kakhulu. Amadoda, nawo, angaphatha owesifazane. Ukusebenza kwabo kuphela kuyingozi futhi kuletha ukulimala okuningi kwengqondo nokuziphatha kubantu abazungeza umlindi wesilisa.
Okunye okungaqondile okuhlobene nokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo ebuhlotsheni bomndeni yilokho okusolakala ukuthi amadoda angaboni ukuhlukumeza, ngakho-ke abafazi banamathuba amaningi okuphatha amadoda kunalokho okungahambisani nalokho. Lokhu kungenye yezindlela eziyingozi kakhulu eziphathelene nokuphila komndeni, okungaba khona kuphela. Iqiniso ukuthi izazi ze-psychologists sezikude zathola ukuthi amadoda angcono kakhulu kunabesifazane ababona zonke izindlela. Kungokuthi bangakwazi ukubekezelela isikhathi eside, ngokuziphendulela ngokucophelela kumka-manipulator, futhi ungavumeli ngokusobala imizamo yokuhlukumeza. Kodwa-ke, ukuhlukunyezwa ngumfazi nezinye izihlobo kungabangela ukuthi umuntu ahlasele. Ungakwazi ukuziphatha ngokuqinile futhi angabonisi intukuthelo yakhe nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kuphela kuphela okuzofika iphuzu lokubilisa, emva kwalokho angakwazi ukuvula umnyango futhi ashiye umndeni kuze kube phakade.
Okubi nakakhulu, uma umyeni nomkakho bobabili bengabakwa-manipulators, futhi bahlangane ngokuhlanganyela ekuthandweni kwezenhlalakahle. Khona-ke ilungu ngalinye lomndeni lizwa lingajabuli, futhi ukwephula umbuthano ononya kungaba nzima kakhulu. Esinye sezibonelo zobuhlobo obunjalo obubhubhisa umuntu buchaza okuthiwa yi "Cartman triangle". Inezinhlangothi ezintathu, izindima ezintathu - umbulali, isisulu nomsindisi. Inkathazo ukuthi akukho nhlobo yezindima ezingaba khona ngaphandle kwamanye amabili. Ngakho-ke, umzamo wokwenza uhlangothi olulodwa ngaphandle kokulimaza kokuziphatha kudala ukumelana nokufutheka kwezinye izinhlangothi ezimbili, bese isihogo sangempela sivela ebuhlotsheni bomndeni. Futhi ekusebenzeni okugcwele idrama, ngisho nenhlekelele, akubandakanyi nje umyeni nomfazi kuphela, kodwa nabantwana, abazali bomshado, abangane nezihlobo.
Isibonelo esivamile se "Cartman triangle" ebuhlotsheni ngumndeni lapho umyeni aphatha umkakhe. Ungumuntu "isisulu" esingakwazi ukuzivikela, ukuhlambalaza isenzo sokuhlukumeza ngokomlomo noma ngokomzwelo. Yena-"umbulali", ongeke ayeke emagumbini akhe. Esikhundleni sokuthi "umsindisi" angenza umamazala, ingane noma intombi ekhulile. Loluhlelo lokuziphatha, oluhlelwe ngokuphelele ngokuphathwa kabi kuzo zonke izinhlangothi, akulula ukubhubhisa ngakolunye uhlangothi. Ngoba bonke laba abathathu abayingxenye eyinhloko esimweni senkinga yokuxhumana bangashintsha izindima. Kuyafaneleka ukuthi "isisulu" sitshele amalungelo akhe "kumbulali", njengoba ephenduka ngokungazelelwe indima "umsindisi" noma "isisulu." "Umsindisi" angaba "isisulu" kuphela ngoba "umbulali" uthukuthele yizenzo zalokhu, ezama ukumqeda ekuxazululeni izinkinga zomndeni.
Amazwi, akulula ukuchaza lesi simo esilimazayo. Kodwa-ke, uma ubona ezinye izakhi zalolonxantathu emshadweni wakho ongaphumelelanga, iya ekuqeqesheni ngaphandle kokulibala. Ukuqeqeshwa okuhlukahlukene emqondweni wengqondo yomndeni, ukungqubuzana komndeni, kusikisela ukuxazulula izinkinga kuleli qembu. Ekuzivocavoca, abantu bahlukana baba abathathu futhi basebenza izinkinga ezikhulunywe omunye nomunye. Uma ubona konke ukuxhashazwa kwamahlaya kanye nokungaqondakali kuleso nxantathu yomphakathi esenzweni sakho, kuyobe lula kuwe ukuthi uqonde ukuthi wenzeni ngenkinga yakho.
Ingxoxo ehlukile ifanelwe ukuphathwa kabi kwabantu abangabazi emndenini wabantu abanomthelela owonakalisa kwi microclimate yayo. Okubaluleke nakakhulu ukuthi lo mbhangqwana, lapho omunye noma bobabili bomshado abanomzali ojwayele ukuphathwa kabi. ERussia, maye, abazali baphazamisa empilweni yomndeni cishe ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwabazukulu. Ukuba khona komuntu omdala we-manipulator kungabangela kanzima impilo yabashadile. Wonke umuntu uyazi ama-anecdotes mayelana nomamazala noma amadodana omama. AmaSoviet awanamkhawulo kumama omandla, kanti uma indodakazi noma indodana iqeda ukwenza ngokungathandeki nentando yakhe, ingafaka izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuziphathisa.
Isibonelo, umama wengane endala angakwazi ukuzenza sengathi uyagula ukuze amenze kuye njalo ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi kaningi wenza isimo - ukuthi wahlala naye, hhayi nomkakhe nezingane, amaholide, wahlanganyela kuzo zonke izenzakalo zakhe zokuphila, ehlabela isikhathi esithile samahhala hhayi emndenini, kodwa ethanda umzali osekhulile. Emikhaya enjalo, ukukhwabanisa noninazala noma umkhwekazi kungaphinde kuhambisane nokuvampirism ngokomzwelo-yena uzizwa ejabule lapho ekwazi ukubonisa inzalo ukuthi umkayo noma umyeni wakhe akafanelanga ingane yakhe eyigugu. Futhi noma yikuphi ukungqubuzana phakathi kwalabo abashade bendoda enjalo ye-manipulator kuyakhuthaza futhi kuyamangaza.
Ungakwazi ukuchaza izibonelo zesikhathi eside somthelela omubi wokuxhaphaza ebuhlotsheni bomndeni. Kodwa kungcono ukuqonda indlela ephikisana nayo. Lelikhono ngaphandle kokwesaba nokuhlambalaza ukuveza imizwelo yabo, ukubiza okungakhulumi, ngakho-ke akukho ukuhumusha okungaqondakali. Indlela enhle yokumelana nokuhlukumeza yikhono lokubonisa zonke izingxenye zalo, ukuveza zonke izisusa ezifihlekile nemigomo yomphathi we-manipulator. Le ndlela ibonisa ukuqiniswa kwengxabano okokuqala. Kufanele uhambe ngalokhu, ngoba lokhu kuphela kuzoholela ekuthuthukiseni isimo. Futhi ubalekele izifundo ezifundisa abantu ukuphatha abanye, ngoba lokhu akuyona yonke indlela eya enjabulweni.