Ngakho-ke, inkinga yothando lwabazali namuhla ihambisana kakhulu. Ngokuvamile kaningi kunezimo ezimbi zokubulala ingane yakho, ukumphonsa ngaphandle, njll. Umsebenzi onzima ukutadisha ukuziphatha okufanayo, kanye nokuphambene, ukuthola izimo ezingokomzwelo nezingokwengqondo ezizosiholela emgomweni. Kodwa nokho sakwazi ukuzuza izimiso ezithile, ezakhiwa izingxenye ezingokwengqondo zothando lomzali, kanye nezici ezidingekayo ukuze ziqaliswe.
Kuyini uthando lwabazali? Abaningi bezengqondo nezazi zefilosofi baye bazama amakhulu eminyaka ukuze bathole impendulo ethile yalo mzwelo, futhi isikhathi ngasinye sasihlukile. Lokhu kuyisipesheli, ekhanyayo, enhle kakhulu yothando, okuyinto abantu abaningi abayibona njengesipho esiphezulu nenjabulo, ezingenakuqhathaniswa nezinye izinhlobo zothando ezazizwakala ngaphambili. Ukuba ngumzali kufanele ube umuntu ojabule futhi uvuzwe ngalithuba - ukuqonda injabulo yangempela. U-Sukhomlinsky uthe uthando lomzali lukwazi ukuzwa izidingo ezingokomoya ezingcono kakhulu zomntwana ngenhliziyo. Futhi eqinisweni, phakathi kwabantu abanothando kukhona uxhumano olukhethekile lwamandla, intuition, isifiso sokusondela. Kodwa abanye ngamagama abo bagcizelela ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukubona uthando lwabazali kuphela njengomzwelo, ngoba, empeleni, uthando luhilela ezinye izenzo, ngoba uma uzizwa nje, kodwa ungenzi lutho ngane, khona-ke lokhu kuziphatha ngeke kube ubufakazi obuhle bokuthandana , - abaningi bakholwa.
Ngokubumbana amaphuzu okubuka ahlukene, singakwazi ukuthola izici ezivela kuyo uthando lwabazali. Isakhiwo sengqondo sihlanganisa izingxenye ezine: ngokomzwelo, njengento ehlangene nakho kanye nemizwa ngane, isizinda esibucayi kanye nokwamukelwa kwengane, ukuhlolwa kwayo, ukuxhumana komzali nengane. I-Psychophysiological factor iveza ukukhanga komzali kumntwana, isifiso sokusondela kwendawo, ubuhlungu bomzali, isifiso sokumbamba, ukuthinta, ukuhlala naye hhayi ingxenye. Esikhathini esiyinkimbinkimbi sibhekisela ekuqondeni uthando lwabazali, intuition kanye nakho konke okungaqondakali okuvela ebuhlotsheni bomzali nengane. Futhi isici sokugcina ukuziphatha, okubonisa ukuphumelela kothando lwabazali nokuveza ubuhlobo, izinhlobo zokuziphatha komzali ezinganeni, zimnakekele.
Isakhiwo esinjalo asihlali ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi lokhu kuncike kuneminyaka, ukuhluka komunye wabazali. Ezinye izinto ezivela esakhiweni sengqondo zingabusa abanye.
Iqiniso elithakazelisayo ukuthi uthando lwabazali lunemibono yobulili, kanti uthando lomama luhluke kakhulu nothando lukababa. Ngokuba umama ubhekene nokukwamukelwa okungenamthetho kwengane, ukunikeza ingane ithuba lokuveza umbono wakhe, kanti ubaba emanzini amaningi ulahla intando yeningi nokulingana nengane. Kodwa sekuyisikhathi eside kuboniswe ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo ngokugcwele kwezingane, omunye nomunye umzali kuyadingeka, futhi akukwazi ukusho ukuthi omama baphatha abantwana kangcono kunabobaba, noma ngokufanayo.
Ukuze ujabulele ngokugcwele uthando lwabazali, futhi ukuthi lwakhiwe ngokuphumelelayo, umuntu kufanele anelise izici ezithile, njengokwazi ukuthanda nokwamukela yena nabanye, ukuvuthwa kwengqondo nomzwelo komuntu ngamunye. Kunesidingo esikhulu somzali "omuhle" ofuna ukukhulisa ingane yakhe ngokuphepha, ukudala izimo ezinhle kakhulu kuye. Lapha, amakhono namakhono ahlukene acatshangelwa, ithuba lokunikeza ingane konke okudingekayo kuye. Nakuba sekuyisikhathi eside kufakazelwa ukuthi uthando lwabazali - lokhu kuyinto eyinhloko ingane edingayo, kanye nokudingekayo ekuthuthukiseni kwayo okugcwele kanye nempilo yengqondo.
Uthando lwabazali lungathuthukiswa ngokuqondile ngohlelo ngokusebenzisa ukwakheka kwengxenye yengqondo yothando lomzali. Lapha umzali udala izimo zangaphandle ezikhethekile ezibangela ekubunjweni kwezinhlelo zokusebenza ezingokwengqondo ngokuphathelene nesistimu yothando lomzali. Kubuye kubhekane nokuthuthukiswa kwezici ezinjalo kumzali. Uma udala lolu hlobo luthando, lo mkhakha ubalulekile, ukuthi lowo muntu waphathwa kanjani njengengane, ukuthi abazali bakhe babonisa uthando. Ngokuvamile izingane zivame ukukopisha ukuziphatha kwabazali babo, izindinganiso zabo, izibonakaliso nezenzo zobuso, kuhlanganise nomqondo wothando lwabazali nokubonakaliswa kwayo. Kunoma yikuphi, cabanga isidingo sezingane zakho ukuze uqonde ukuthi uyabathanda, ukuthi bazizwa futhi bazi njalo ukuthi ungathembeka, ukuthi ungumuntu wabo osondelene kakhulu, othandekayo futhi onothando. Khona-ke uzokwazi ngokuhlanganyela nangothando lwabo, ufunde ukuthi lokhu kungenye, injabulo engenakuphika.