Ngokubanzi, kusukela isikhathi eside, kuncane okuye kwashintsha endleleni yemibono eyenza ubuhlobo buhle. Ukuphelele kwamaphuzu okuthinta ukuphelelana kobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kufana nezinsuku zobusha bethu babazali, ngisho nasekhokho bangaphambili. Cabangela izingxenye zalo mqondo ngokuningiliziwe.
Okokuqala imizwa
Ngisho nasesikhathini sethu sobuchwepheshe obuphambili, akukho lutho olushintshile ngaphambili. Uthando olusengumgogodla oyinhloko wobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ababili, konke okunye kungenxa yalokho okuvela khona. Uma kukhona uthando olulodwa phakathi komuntu nowesifazane, lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala, ukuze ubudlelwane babo buhle.
Bheka nxazonke, ubuka izihlobo zakho, abangane nabangane, ubuhlobo babo obonakala bufanelwe ukulingisa futhi ucabange ukuthi usekelwe ekupheleleni okunjalo? Impendulo ngokuqinisekile imthanda. Uma sibheka lezi zibhangqa ezihle emehlweni ethu, siqala ngokuzikhethela ukudlulisela okuthile kubo ebuhlotsheni bethu, into ebonakala ngathi iyadingeka futhi ebalulekile, into evumela ukuthi ubudlelwane bethu bubhekwe njengento ekahle. Akukho ukukhohlisa, ukuthi sithatha okuthile okuhle kwabanye, ngoba abantu abafundi nje kuphela amaphutha. Ngokuzivumelanisa nokuziphatha komuntu kithi, thina ngokwethu siba ngcono, futhi sivumele abanye bathathe okuthile okuhle kubo.
Owesibili ukuthembeka nokungathembeki
Esinye sezici ezibaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukwakha ubudlelwane obuvamile, obuphilile yikhono lokungaboni izimo zokuphikisana endaweni engenalutho. Kusobala ukuthi ngisho noma laba ababili bethandana, bahlala bengamalungu amabili, ngamunye ephethe amehlo akhe ngokuphila, nemithetho, izimiso, izinkinga kanye nokushintsha kwemizwelo. Omunye wamakhono asemqoka wombhangqwana ofanelekayo uyakwazi ukweqa ama-angles abukhali nokunciphisa, futhi lokhu kufanele ukubukeka ngokwemvelo, hhayi njengokungathi umuntu wenza umngane ukuba abe nomusa noma ukuthokoza. Akukho buhlobo ngaphandle kokuxabana, kepha kungcono uzame ukunciphisa izingxoxo nokuxhumana.
Uma, emva kwakho konke, kwenzeke ukuthi imizwelo yavela, ngisho nabantu abanezihlobo eziphelele, ngeke bavumele noma ubani ukuba abe ngufakazi wezohlukana zabo. Kunamabhangqwana abo ukucaciswa kobuhlobo kubonakala kungakhathaliseki indawo, isikhathi namba yabantu abakuzungezile, kodwa neze abantu abakuzungezile bazocabangela ubudlelwane babo ngezinga elijwayelekile. Umbhangqwana lapho abalingani abangenazo izimo bazozivumela ukuba bahlalisane, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu uma othile - ebangela imizwa evuthayo. Ngakho-ke, uma uzama ukuthola ubuhle, zama ukuqiniseka ukuthi awakho noma omunye umuntu owaziyo mayelana nokungavumelani noma ukungavumelani kwakho.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi uma kukhona okungahambisani nawe ekuziphatheni komlingani wakho, noma ezitatimendeni zakhe udinga ukuthula ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuqoqa okungalungile, okuzophuma ngokushesha. Khuluma nomunye nomunye, xoxani ngalezi zikhathi ezibonakala zingalungile kuwe, futhi ufunde ngokucophelela ukuthethelelana.
Okwesithathu - izintshisekelo ezahlukene kanye nezithakazelo
Ukuze umbhangqwana ongcono, akuyona inkinga umuntu oyedwa oyithandayo into eyodwa nomunye wenza into ehlukile. Inkinga ivela uma umuntu engakhathaleli ukuthi omunye ucabangani futhi akhathaleli ngalokho. Abantu ababili, kufanele baqaphele izithakazelo zomunye nomunye, kufanele bakwazi ukulalela nokusekela izingxoxo kwifilimu noma encwadini okungenzeka ingathandeki ngokukhethekile komunye, kodwa yenze umqondo ongathandeki komunye.
Ukuchitha isikhathi okwesine
Abathandi ababili bazama ukusebenzisa isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka ndawonye. Ngeke bahambe ngokweqile eholidini ngaphandle komunye nomunye, ngeke bahambe ngehora elilodwa kuya ku-cinema noma kumidlalo yaseshashalazini.
Esikhathini sethu, kunzima kakhulu kubo ababili ukuhlanganisa isikhathi samahhala, umsebenzi ngamunye umuntu achitha isikhathi esiningi, kanti owesibili usebenza wonke ngempelasonto. Kodwa lokhu akufanele kube isizathu sokuthi awukwazi ukugubha usuku lokuzijwayeza, usuku lomshado nezinye izinto ezibalulekile kubazali bakho.
Zama ukubhekana nezindaba zansuku zonke ndawonye, thatha ndawonye noma upheke, noma uye esitolo ukuya kwisitoreji phezulu kokudla.