Umuntu uvame ukwesaba empilweni yakhe, ukuze lo mzwelo ube yinto evamile. Kwanele kanye ukuzwa ukwesaba kakhulu, ukuthi uzophishekela kanjani umuntu empilweni yakhe yonke, ebonisa ukuthi unamandla noma obuthakathaka. Umuntu omdala uba, ukuqina kwesaba kwakhe kuyaqina. Umuntu ukwesaba yizo zimo kanye nezinkumbulo ezake zenzeka engqondweni yakhe, zaphazamisa umphefumulo wakhe.
Yini engenziwa ukuze ukwesaba kungathinti impilo yesikhathi esizayo yezingane zethu?
Izimbangela zobungozi bobuntwana
Isizathu esisodwa kunazo zonke yisenzakalo esithile, icala elesabisa ingane. Ngenhlanhla, ukwesaba okunjalo kungalungiswa. Futhi akuzona zonke izingane ezakha ukwesaba okukhulu kwezenzakalo ezizungezile emva kwesenzakalo esithile esingathandeki - isibonelo, uma ingane ishaywa inja. Ubunjani bomntwana, isici sakhe sizosiza ekubhekaneni nokwesaba, uma ekhululekile, isibonelo. Futhi ngokuphambene nalokho, kuzodingeka usebenze kwezinye izici, njengokuthi: ukuzethemba, ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, okungavela futhi kuthuthuke emntwaneni, uma kusukela ekubelekeni ukwesabisa umntwana uBaba-Yaga, imvu yegrey, ngubani ozomjezisa ngokuziphatha okubi.
Ebuntwaneni sonke singabaphuphi abahle kakhulu, okuyinto engakolunye uhlangothi lwemali - inganekwane engabantwana ingabangela ukwesaba okusha. Emva kwakho konke, khumbula ukuthi bangaki bethu besaba ubumnyama noma ikhoneni elimnyama? Iyini isizathu salokhu? Futhi ngalokho esingacabanga ngakho, njengokungathi kusuka egumbini elimnyama elingafani nganoma iyiphi indlela ekukhanyeni, kungenzeka ukuthi ulahle noma uphile ekuphileni kwesinye isilo esibi. Kodwa-ke, omunye wabantwana, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukhohlwa ngalezi zinsabiso, kanti omunye umuntu osemdala uzwa ukwesaba okusondela lapho ehamba egumbini eya ekhishini phakathi nobusuku.
Ukwesaba okudala kwabantu ebuntwaneni kungasungulwa ngokuqinile impilo. Ngokuvamile abazali abaqaphele, bezama ukufundisa izingane ukuba ziphathe ngokucophelela ngezinto nezinto eziyinkimbinkimbi zezwe elizungezile, zikhala: "Ungathinteki - uzozishisa", "Ungabuyi -", "Ungabeki - uvame," ukhohlwe ukuthi kuzobangela ukukhululeka okukhulu nokwesaba: yena isimo noma izinsongo zabantu abadala. Ingane ayiqondi ukuthi yini engenzeka uma eyenza ngendlela yakhe, kodwa i-alamu ecacile isivele ikhona ekhanda lakhe. Ukwesaba okunjalo nokwesaba kuhlale kungenasikhathi sesikhathi sokuphila
Ukuzwa ukwesaba kungokwemvelo, kodwa yikuphi okungaziwa ngokuthi evamile? Yonke ingane ingabhekana nokwesaba okuvela esikhathini esithile.
Ubudala besikhathi sokwesaba
Lapho uneminyaka engama-1-2 ubudala ingane isaba ngaphezu kokungaziwa - kungaba yisilwane, umuntu omusha noma into engavamile kuye. Kuze kube unyaka owodwa, izingane zithola ukwesaba uma umama engekho, ushintsho emoyeni wakhe noma izinguquko zangaphandle emvelweni - umsindo omkhulu, izibani ezikhanyayo.
Lapho eneminyaka engama-2-3 ubudala, ingane iqala ukwesaba amafomu amasha esikhala: izindawo eziphakeme, ezijulile, ezikude ezikhuni, eziphezulu, egumbini lokungcebeleka, nasebusuku (ubusuku obujulile, kusihlwa kusihlwa), kukhona ukwesaba ubuhlungu (inoculation lapho kuqokwa khona udokotela ), izijeziso (zifakwe ekhoneni!), ukwesaba ukushiywa yedwa. Uyakhumbula ukuthi asizange sikuthande yini lapho abazali bethu behamba isikhathi eside futhi babheke phambili ukubuya kwabo ngokungapheli?
Ukwesaba okuhambisana nokuthuthukiswa kwengane yomntwana kubonakala kuneminyaka engu-3-4. Izingane zivela noma zikhumbule kusukela ku-cartoon, inganekwane isidalwa esabekayo kakhulu "esingasongela" futhi siyiqaphele ngempela ngaphansi kombhede ukuze ibambe inyawo elincane ngesikhathi.
Esikhathini esincane esikoleni, eminyakeni eyisithupha kuya kwesikhombisa ubudala, ukwesaba ukufa kwezihlobo zabo, umama noma ubaba uqala ukuvela. Ingane ngalesi sikhathi isazi kakade ukuthi umuntu angafa, ngakho-ke, ngokuhlala engekho abazali isikhathi eside kusihlwa, ezinye izenzakalo zemvelo (izulu, amafu amnyama emini), izingane zingase zibe nomuzwa owesaba kakhulu.
Ukuba usakhulile kancane, lezi zinkwesane zezingane zenza ukwesaba ukujeziswa, sekwephuzile esikoleni, ukuthola uphawu olubi. Izingane zikhula, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo "i-mood magic" ivela - izingane ziqala ukukholelwa ku-brownie, i-Queen of Spades, imimoya emibi, sikhumbule izimpawu ezimbi, izibalo ezimbi. Kule minyaka yobudala, ukwesaba kuhlanganiswa yiziboniso, ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka nokujwayele ukusikisela okunjalo kweminyaka.
Lapho izingane ziba yintsha, ukwesaba kwabo okuvame ukwesaba ukufa kwabazali kanye nempi engenzeka. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukwesaba okunjalo kuhlobene. Kukhona ukwesaba umlilo, izikhukhula, ukuhlaselwa, ukufa. Amantombazane ajwayele ukwesaba kunabesilisa. Kodwa-ke, inani lezinkathazo liyancipha ezinganeni esikoleni naseminyakeni yobudala uma kuqhathaniswa neminyaka yabo yasenkulisa.
Uphi isisombululo esifanele?
Ekuphileni kwengane nsuku zonke kukhona izinto ezintsha, izimo ezingajwayelekile. Ufuna ukubhekana nabo, baqonde ukuthi bahlelwe kanjani, balahle ukwesaba okungaziwa - kanti ingane iya kubazali bayo.
Kukholelwa ukuthi uma abazali besiza - banikeza ulwazi oludingekile, babonise ngesibonelo futhi bahlanganyele "ekufundeni umhlaba" ngane, ngakho-ke, bazosiza ingane yabo ukuba ibhekane nokukhathazeka kwengane.
Kwenzeka ukuthi ngaphambi kwanoma yisiphi isenzakalo esibucayi empilweni yengane, isibonelo, "okokuqala ekilasini lokuqala" kuyadingeka ukusekela nokutshela ukuthi uhlangabezane kanjani nalesi senzakalo empilweni futhi unikeza ulwazi oluthe xaxa. Siza uzizwe ingane yakho ukuthi ayedwa yedwa ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe.
Ngezinye izikhathi, ukubuya esikoleni, izingane zifika endlini engenalutho, okuyinto ngokwayo engavamile futhi eyesabekayo kubo. Vumela ukuba bavule i-TV, bathole ikati, inja noma i-parrot - abangakhuluma nabo, bazizwe ukuthi akayedwa endlini.
Ukwesaba ushintsho kwezingane kushukuthela endaweni entsha, ukubonakala komakhelwane abasha, inkantolo entsha. Zama ukubamba okuthile endaweni yangaphambilini engakhumbuza futhi idale umuzwa wokuthembeka, ukuphepha. Mhlawumbe kuyoba uhlobo oluthile lwehlathi oluhlanyelayo endaweni yakho entsha yokuhlala.
Uma ingane isaba, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umngane wakhe oqondayo, umlalele futhi umqinisekise ukuthi uphephile ngokuphelele, ikakhulu lapho zonke izihlobo zihlangana ndawonye futhi zihambisana naye. I-degree of trust inquma ukuba khona okuqhubekayo noma ukungabi khona kokwesaba empilweni yengane, xoxani konke okungase kumkhathaze. Kubalulekile ukuqonda lapho ukwesaba kuvela khona, uyini umthombo. Abazali kufanele basize ingane ukuba ibhekane nokwesaba eyedwa. Uma izinkolelo nokuphikisana akusizi - kumphazamise - bheka ngefasitela, udlale nxazonke. Yebo, vele nje ukuthi ingane ithola ukwesaba kwakhe ephepheni - iyocaca ngokushesha ukuthi ayiyingozi kakhulu.
Futhi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma njalo nengane, ukumbandakanya engxoxweni. Leli ithuluzi elinamandla kunazo zonke ekulwa nokukhathazeka kwengane.