Kodwa-ke, kungani-ke abantu abaye babizwa ngokuthi umbhangqwana ojabulayo izolo, owabheka impilo ende futhi ejabulisayo ndawonye ngokuzumayo ngokuzumayo kwahlukana. Kubonakala kimi ukuthi esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko ukungabi nesineke, ukunakekelwa, ukukhathazeka, ukunakekela, ukusekela ezikhathini ezinzima, nakuba kwakubonakala sengathi uthando alukaze lufe. Ake sizame ukuqonda ukuthi labo abaye bahlala othandweni iminyaka eminingi banakekela kanjani kahle umuntu wabo othandekayo.
Yini engabhekiselwa ekunakekeleni kwabazali ngezingane? Lokhu ukukhathazeka ngempilo yabo engokwenyama. Njengoba kunjalo: mayelana nokulethwa, izingubo, ukuphumula okuphezulu, njll. Futhi kwengqondo. Thenga amathoyizi, uye epaki, futhi uma kunesidingo, usize ngomsebenzi wesikole. Futhi ezinye izinkulungwane ezibonakala ezincane ongaziboni empilweni yansuku zonke, kodwa lokho kusenza sizizwe sishisekile enhliziyweni uma sibabheka. Futhi ukukhathazeka, nokucindezeleka okucindezelayo emphefumulweni, nokuzimisela ukuthatha konke ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka kwabo lapho bekude kakhulu. Ukunakekela izingane mayelana nabazali babo, ikakhulukazi uma bekhulile, kuhlanganisa ukunakekelwa, uma kunokwenzeka, ngokusekela izinto ezibonakalayo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ekunakekeleni nasekuzweleni. Futhi ukunakekelwa ngothando komunye nomunye kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungumyeni nomfazi noma umbhangqwana othandweni). Lokhu, yebo, nokubonakaliswa kokunakekelwa kwempilo yomunye nomunye, nokumangala okumnandi, kanye nekhofi ye-banal embhedeni nezimbali zabathandekayo bakho, nokunye okunye okungenza ube nenjabulo kanye nomuzwa wokuthi udinga omunye nomunye.
Sonke sidinga ukwesekwa, ukunakwa kwabathandekayo, ukunakekela abathandekayo. Akufanele sikwazi kangako ukuthi kufanele sizizwe kangakanani, ukuthi singamnakekela kanjani othandekayo wakho. Abathandekayo nabathandekayo badinga ukunakekelwa, ikakhulukazi uma othandekayo egula. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uzizwe unomuzwa wokulondeka nokukhathalela ngaye. Ikhono lokunakekela othandekayo ngesikhathi sokugula linomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakhe. Imithi esifike ngesikhathi, ukugqoka kahle, ukunamathela emithethweni yokuhlanzeka nokudla okwelapha, ukuqaliswa ngokucophelela kwemigomo kadokotela - konke lokhu nakanjani kuyofaka isandla ekuphulukeleni okusheshayo. Kodwa ngokuqinisekile ngamunye wethu wazizwa ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukwazi ukuthi ukhathazekile ukuthi uyathandwa. Yilokho esikuzwayo, uma izihlobo zethu ziseduze nathi. Kuyinto yabo yokunakekela othandekayo oholela ekuphulukeleni okusheshayo.
Kuningi okushiwo ngomndeni ojabulayo. Phela, ulwazi oluvamile ukuthi ubudlelwane obakhelwe othandweni kuphela, ukunakekelwa kungenza izihlobo zomndeni zijabule. Yeka ukuthi kungakanani, futhi ngesikhathi esisodwa okuncane, ongasho amazwi othando! Ngumuphi amagama ongawadlulisela kulowo mthokozo othulile, okugcwalisa konke ngaphandle kokulandela, ukukhala izinyembezi emehlweni akho, lapho wena, wesaba ukuhamba, ubheke umuntu olele ehlombe lakho. Noma ukuthi ukulangazelela nokufisa okukhulu esifubeni sakho uma uhlanganyela nabathandekayo bakho. Futhi ukuthi ungayichaza kanjani injabulo, ububele, lokho okungaqondakali ukuhlukumeza nokuthula ngaphakathi kwenhliziyo, lapho ucabanga ngeminyaka yakho endala, abantu abadala kanjalo ngesikhathi esifanayo, abazali abangenakuzivikela. Awekho amagama okuchaza konke lokhu. Kodwa lokhu akudingekile. Konke kubonakala kimi kulula. Udinga nje ukukhumbula njalo ukuthi eduze kwakho abantu abasondelene nawe. Udinga ukukhumbula nokuqonda ukuthi uthando lwakho nokusekelwa kuyadingeka. Yini encike kuwe, bangakanani abathandekayo bakho abaseduze nawe bayobe beshushu, bejabule futhi bezolile. Futhi konke lokhu ndawonye, njengoba kubonakala kimi futhi kukhona ukukhathazeka kwabathandekayo.
Zama ukunakekelwa abathandekayo ukuze kungadingeki amagama!