Ubuhlobo bomndeni bubhekwa njengenye yezindaba ezidumile kakhulu namuhla. Ngezehlakalo zansuku zonke, ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ukuthandana nomyeni nomfazi abakwazi ukuthola into esemqoka - ukuqonda. Ngakho-ke iningi lezingxabano livukela emndenini. Amazwi "siqondana ngaphandle kwamagama", namuhla ungahlangana ngokungajwayelekile kakhulu. Amagama anjalo angasho ngokufanele ngogogo nomkhulu, abahamba isikhathi eside futhi bebona izikhathi ezinzima, ikakhulukazi labo abaphumelele ukudlula isikhathi sempi. Futhi thina, isizukulwane samanje sabantu abasha, abahamba njalo futhi banquma imibuzo eminingi, badinga nje ukuba banamathelane, badlulele uchungechunge lwezingxabano zomndeni.
Izimbangela zempi emndenini
Mhlawumbe ukuqala kungakusiza ukucabanga nokuhlola ngenxa yokuthi yiziphi izingxabano ezenzeka emndenini? Ososayensi bathole ukuthi izimpikiswano phakathi kwalabo abashadile zingavela ngenxa yokungahambisani namalungelo " owashilo ". Kukhona abantu "ama-larks", kukhona "ama-owls", futhi mhlawumbe wena nomngane wakho oshade naye banamacaba ahlukene, kuyilapho omunye evuka ekuseni, ejabule futhi ehlaziya kakade, futhi ehlela usuku olulandelayo, ngenye indlela, elele futhi elele Ungacabangi ngalokho okuzokwenziwa namhlanje. Kodwa lokhu kungukuthi ukucabanga, akufanele kuncishiswe kuzo zonke izinkinga ezivela empilweni yomndeni. Mhlawumbe kuhlukile - unezikhundla zokuphila ezingahambisani, isibonelo, emfundweni yezingane, ukungavumelani ezindabeni zezezimali.
Sithanda ukuvula amehlo ethu ukuthi kuvela kanjani ukungqubuzana emndenini ngokoqobo "esikhaleni esingenalutho" futhi ngokudabukisayo, kaningi. Cabanga nje, isimo esivamile. Uvela emsebenzini, ikhaya lomgwaqo alimnandi, othile uphonsela, uqalekisiwe, futhi usuku lukhuni. Futhi-ke indoda ehlezi phansi bese ibuka ithelevishini ngokuthula, ingane ecela usizo kulezi zifundo. Futhi kubonakala sengathi uhlukaniswe nentukuthelo eqoqwe kuwe. Futhi uma impikiswano yomndeni ifinyelela ku-apogee yayo, uyaqaphela ukuthi ayikho iphuzu ekuqhubekeni kwengxoxo. Ekugcineni, iya emakhoneni, wenze ibhizinisi lomuntu ngamunye.
Usuku luyadlula, okwesibini, kusihlwa kugcinwa ngokuthula, akekho okhuluma nanoma ubani, futhi ifoni ithule ngokuthula. Usuvele ucabanga:
- "Mhlawumbe kufanele ufike ukhulume?"
- "Cha, kungani, okokuqala, ngiyafaneleka (a), futhi okwesibili, kungani kufanele (kuqala) ngize kuqala?"
Usizo lwesazi sengqondo sokuxazulula izingxabano zomndeni
Ukuvela komkhuba omusha - ukubonisana kwabachwepheshe bezengqondo abathandwa kakhulu kwamanye amazwe, ngezinye izikhathi kunquma ukuthi abantu abaningi bazoba yini. Yebo, mhlawumbe, lena enye yezindlela ezilungile kakhulu zokuxazulula izimo eziphikisanayo ezivele emndenini.
Yini enhle ngale ndlela yokuxazulula isimo esinzima, ubuza? Impendulo ikhona ebusweni, efuna indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma esimweni esinzima esiye savela, uphendukela kumuntu ozimele ngokuphelele, ungatshela nongcweti, ochwepheshe onamandla emkhakheni wezokwelapha futhi akusiyo isihlobo sakho esiseduze noma umngane. Isazi sezengqondo ngokuqinisekile sizokusiza wenze isinqumo esifanele. Kodwa kithi ngenkathi ingasakazeke kakhulu, futhi izindleko noma zimisa dorogovato, hhayi wonke umuntu olula angakwazi ukubhekana nochwepheshe. Ngezinye izikhathi abafuni nje ukukwenza - balahlekelwa isikhathi, imali, njll. Kodwa ungakwazi ukukhumbula njalo mayelana nokubonisana kwengqondo kwengqondo yamahhala. Isibonelo, amafoni we-hotline, lapho ungahlala ubiza futhi uthole impendulo yombuzo oyithandayo.
Kwabaningi, kufanele kube sobala ukuthi uma kukhona ukungqubuzana phakathi kwamalungu omndeni, kungcono ukuthi ukhulume nomuntu ofundile kunokuba (njengoba senza) ukugijima kumngane osondelene ekufuneni iqiniso. Ngaphezu kwalokho, wake wacabanga ukuthi uma ubuza isithandwa sakho ukuthi uthole iseluleko, ngezinye izikhathi ungakhubeka ngesigwebo esingalungile kulabo onenkinga yakho. Mhlawumbe, ezingeni lakho elingenakuqondisisa, intombi yakho ikukhathalela, isibonelo, ongenayo impilo yomndeni, futhi njalo uzama ukusho futhi, "Ungubani umyeni wakho omubi, uVasya, owenza lokhu."
Kusukela ekuxabaneni emndenini - ukuvumelana phakathi kobuhlobo
Ake sicabange ngakho futhi sihlakulele isimo ngokuhlukile. Phela, ukungqubuzana emndenini nakweminye imikhakha yokuphila akuhlali njalo kuthatha uhlangothi olubi, ngoba luletha njalo noma yikuphi ukushintsha. Futhi kwezinye izimo zingasebenza njengohlobo lwe-antidiprester empilweni enesizotha, ebuthandayo.
Ngxabano evuthayo, abashadile bavame ukuqala, ngokusho, ukushiya isihloko esasiyimbangela. Esikhathini sokuphikisana, kukhonjulwa ukuthi yonke into abayitholile, engangifuna ukukusho ngaphambili, ngandlela-thile ikhohliwe noma ihlehlisiwe kuze kube yilapho, ngethemba lokuthi "mhlawumbe kuzokwenza ngcono?". Ngakho-ke akunjalo! Yenza kucace ekhanda lakho ngaso leso sikhathi - ukuthi uzama ukuthola nokuxazulula inkinga eyodwa evele kulesi simo okwamanje. Futhi hhayi konke okuqongelele isikhathi eside futhi wanquma ukulayisha konke lokhu ngesisindo esifile kumyeni ompofu (umkami). Ungafaki izinsongo, isibonelo: "uma ungenzi ukuhlanza namuhla, ngizohamba usuku lonke, ngikushiye ingane encane futhi ngeke ngiphendule izingcingo" noma "Ngikhathele yizinto zonke, ngifuna isahlukaniso." Vumelana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usho kangaki lokhu, okokuqala, kuzophela ukusebenza esikhathini esizayo, futhi okwesibili, ngelinye ilanga kuzodingeka ugcwalise lowo othembisiwe.
Siphakamisa ukwenza ngendlela ehlukile. Ukubikezela ingxabano elandelayo emndenini, cabanga ngalokho nokuthi uzokhuluma kanjani. Khona-ke ingxoxo ngeke iqalise inkulumo engalungile, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, uzothola ubuhlobo, ngokuthula, ekunciphiseni amathoni. Kungenzeka yini ukuyibiza ngokuthi ingxabano nhlobo? Akunjalo. Lokhu kuyincazelo nje yomlingani wakho, yini ongathanda ukuyishintsha kuleso simo, futhi yiziphi izixazululo ezingatholakala ngokusebenzisa imizamo ehlangene. Sebenzisa, ngokusho, ukuzihlola ngaphakathi kwakho. Yebo kunzima, uzothi, ikakhulukazi uma konke okubizayo ngaphakathi futhi nje ukuthululela. Futhi ubani owake wathi ukuphila kulula? Yini ongacabanga ngaphambi kokuthi uthi - kulula? Ikakhulu uma kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokuphikisana: kudinga umzamo, ukuvimbela imizwelo, kodwa uzobona - izothela izithelo. Futhi esikhathini esizayo uzoqonda ukuthi ukugwema ukungqubuzana emndenini kulula kakhulu endaweni enokuthula, uvele uchaza ukunganeliseki kwakho futhi ufune izindlela zokuzixazulula ndawonye. Ngakho-ke, uthumela omunye "I - imiyalezo", ezwa omunye nomunye ngenkathi eqonda ukunganeliseki kolunye uhlangothi.
Ngakho-ke, usebenzisa yonke imithetho echazwe ngenhla, awukwazi ukuxazulula izingxabano emndenini ngaphandle kokuhlazeka nokuhlambalaza. Yini futhi yini ezokuvumela ukuba uthuthukise ubuhlobo bakho futhi uxazulule ngokushesha izinkinga eziqoqiwe, ngokweqile "izimpi zomndeni."
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