Iyiphi inqubo amadoda ayenayo ukuze abe ngumfazi ongcono?
Yiqiniso, endaweni yokuqala ukusuka endaweni yokubukeka kwamadoda kuyisimo esihle. Futhi-ke, njalo umzuzwana uthi "ukupakisha" akubalulekile - "isisekelo" kubalulekile, yini ngaphakathi kungumphefumulo. Kodwa lokhu kubonakaliswa kobuzenzisi besilisa nobuzenzisi - buza noma ubani ukuthi ulungele ukuhlala nomfana omncane noma ompofu futhi ophawulwe. Futhi ungalaleli impendulo. Buza uphinde ubheke emehlweni. Uma uqhubeka ukuchaza abasha, khona-ke amehlo azokhanya. Futhi ekukhulunyweni kwe-pockmarked kuphelile, futhi ukumamatheka kuphazamisa izindebe. Umfazi omuhle unjengomklomelo, njenge-limousine ebiza ...
Endaweni yesibili, ngokombono wabantu, ngu-UM. Iziwula zifuna labo kuphela abakholelwa ukuthi uMhlaba usekelwe ezindlovu. Umfazi ohlakaniphile, omuhle ungumsizi, umxhumanisi, umeluleki, futhi ekugcineni, injini ye-pusher uma kudingeka. Umqondo omuhle wesifazane uduma amadoda. Ngoba kukhona njalo ukusola ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umfazi ohlakaniphile uzosusa umyeni wakhe ezikhundleni zokuqala. Futhi kubantu, ngezinye izikhathi akumukeleki. Ngakho-ke, ucabange umfazi ofanelekayo, omunye uthatha ukuthi umfazi kufanele abe ohlakaniphile, kodwa ngokulinganisela futhi kungenoma yikuphi ukuhlakanipha kunakho.
Umfazi ofanelekayo kusukela ekubukeni kwamadoda kungokwemvelo kanye nenkosikazi yendlu - ngokuqinile le nqubo igxilile endaweni yesithathu. Lapha, ngokujwayelekile, akukho mpikiswano, ngoba noma yimuphi umuntu udlulisela izinsolo zikahulumeni ngokuphila, ikhishi kanye nempahla kumkakhe. Ukuntuleka kwalesi sikhundla esimweni esibucayi somkakho futhi kungasongela ukuphula umshado, uma kungenjalo ukukhokhelwa yibo bonke abanye. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi amantombazane afunde ukupheka nokugeza, ukuze angalahlekelwa ngumthandi wakhe ngonyaka wokuhlala ndawonye.
Kodwa okunye okuvela kumbono wabantu yisimo ngokushesha kusuka kwesine kuya kwesishiyagalombili, ngoba zonke ezinye izinqubo ziphikisana phakathi kwabo futhi azikwazi ukuthatha isikhundla ngasinye esiphakeme: ubulili, ukuthula, ukungabi nomhawu, isitayela.
Ukuziphatha ngokobulili komfazi kuyinkinga enkulu kakhulu. Futhi kubaluleke kakhulu eminyakeni yokuqala yomshado. Ngaphezu kwalokho, le nkampani efanayo ifanisiwe. Ngoba umfazi othandekayo ungowesifazane owedlula wonke umuntu.
Wonke umuntu uphupha ukuba nomfazi ozolile futhi olinganiselayo njengomfazi. Ukuthi kwakungekho ukukhala, ama-hysterics kanye nama-whims excessive. Kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthi umfazi ofanelekayo aphathe ngesineke zonke izinto eziphathelene nomyeni wakhe nomoya wakhe omubi, ngenkathi engangeni futhi engenzi ukwesaba.
Ukungabikho komhawu kubonakala ngabesilisa njengomzuzi, nakuba bekwazi ukubekezelela umhawu olinganiselayo wowesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukubonakaliswa komhawu othile engxenyeni yomfazi kusekela ukuzithanda kwamadoda.
Umqondo wesitayela kusukela ekubukeni kwamadoda akuyona into esemqoka futhi ayikude ekunqumeni, kodwa ikhwalithi ebalulekile. Owesifazane ongambethe kahle, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu umfazi, uma kungenjalo. Lokho akusiyo impendulo yokubambelela kakhulu kwabanye, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukuzethemba komyeni wakhe.
Kwakungekho umbono wokuthi umkami, phakathi kwezinye izinto, kufanele futhi abe yiqiniso. Ngesizathu sokuthi umfazi ongathembeki akahambisani nesigaba somfazi ofanelekayo kusukela ekubukeni kwamadoda, ulahlekelwa yinani lakhe bese eyeka ukuba ngumfazi nhlobo. Owesifazane ofundisa izingane zami; owesifazane ohlala nami endlini eyodwa - ngakho kubonakala engqondweni. Yilokho, noma yini, kodwa engasekho umfazi, isancinza esiphezulu.