Ukuhawukela akuyona umuzwa omuhle, ngezinye izikhathi kubangela abantu ukuba baphuthele, benze izenzo ezingathandeki. Kulo mhawu kungabonisa ubuso beqiniso bonke abantu. Sonke siyazi ukuthi umhawu wabantu nomhawu wabesifazane, njengoba bathi e-Odessa, umehluko omkhulu omkhulu. Futhi iphuzu liwukuthi akukona nje ukuthi ukusabela kwamadoda nabesifazane kunokwenzeka (noma kwenzeke kakade) ukukhwabanisa kuhlukile, kodwa umsuka womhawu uhlukile.
Imiphumela, njengoba kubonisa impilo, nayo ihluke ngokuphelele. Abantu bathi: "Nomona - kusho uthando." Kodwa eqinisweni, umhawu awutholi lutho ngothando olusasa. Kuhambisana nemizwa ehluke ngokuphelele: ukungavikeleki kuzo zonke, ukwesaba okuhlukile (kwangempela hhayi kanjalo) nomqondo wobunikazi. Okulandelayo, sizozama ukucabangela umhawu wesilisa nowesifazane ngokwehlukana, ukucacisa imithombo yomhawu esimweni ngasinye ngabanye kanye nemiphumela engenzeka.
Umhawu wabesifazane
Umhawu wabesifazane wawuyilokho, futhi uzoba njalo. Isibonelo, angikaze ngihlangabezane nowesifazane ongasoze ahlaziya lo mzwa. Nje abanye bakhe bawafihla ngobuciko. Umhawu wesifazane uziveza ngokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukunakwa yilabo owesifazane, empeleni, onomona. Noma ungalahlekelwa nje kuphela ukunakwa, kodwa futhi umuntu ngokwakhe. Uyesaba ukuthi indawo yakhe izothathwa ngomunye. Okusho ukuthi, abesifazane basuke bekhwele owesifazane othile othize wesifazane. Lona umehluko wokuqala phakathi komhawu wesilisa nowesifazane.
Umehluko wesibili wukuthi umona wesifazane ungaphila ngaphakathi futhi uqoqe eminyakeni. Kulokhu, lo wesifazane uzosongela indoda yakhe ngokuhlaselwa nokucabanga mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa okungenzeka. Ngezenzo ezengeziwe ezimisiwe ngenxa yalesi sikhwele kakhulu, owesifazane akanakwenzeka ukuba abe namandla.
Umhawu wesifazane uyamesaba owesifazane kanye nomunye wesifazane (lowo umona unomona), kodwa emadodeni yena umane imizuzu eminingana (amahora, izinsuku) zokuhlasela okuhlaselayo futhi, mhlawumbe, izinsongo. Ngaphambi kwesenzo, icala, njengoba kushiwo kakade, ngokuvamile alufinyeleli.
Abesifazane abaningi banomkhuba wokuncintisana nesikhathi esidlule. Noma yikuphi izinkumbulo zesikhathi esedlule, izithombe, izinto zizokwenza owesifazane abe nentukuthelo. Futhi uma umuntu esabanika lezi zinkumbulo incazelo, etshela indlela ayemhle ngayo, khona-ke intukuthelo yowesifazane izophuma emkhawulweni wokulinganisa.
Umhawu wesilisa
Lapha konke kulula futhi kuqondakala kakhulu. Indoda inomhawu ngowesifazane wayo lapho ivuleka ngenye indlela, ithatha izibonakaliso zokubheka kwabanye, igqoke ukwakheka okukhulu futhi igqoke izingubo. Ngisho noma unesithakazelo kokunye okungekho yena ngokwakhe. Ngeke kube "omunye wesilisa" kuphela, kodwa futhi nomsebenzi wakhe, ukuzilibazisa, ukuzilibazisa. Lokhu kungukuthi, esimweni sobukhwele besilisa, kunalokho, kungumqondo wobunikazi obuningi kakhulu.
Umuntu ubonisa umhawu wakhe ngokuvulekile, ngokuhlukumezeka nangokomzwelo. Kungadala ngentukuthelo, noma yini. Njengomthetho, intukuthelo yesilisa iduduza owesifazane ngokwayo, kaningi kangako kulowo ayemhawukela.
Kukhona umbono wokuthi amadoda ayenomhawu kakhulu njengabesifazane. Kodwa uma umuntu esazwa izinzwa zakhe, khona-ke yena uqobo "unezinhlanhla esibhamu". Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyabonakala, kodwa, njengoba bethi, "akukho musi ongenawo umlilo."
Ukuqeda umhawu
Umbuzo oyinhloko uphuma - kanjani ukuqeda imizwa yomhawu? Indlela eyinhloko yokuqeda konke okudliwayo kuyithemba phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Uma kunjalo, khona-ke akukho mcebo ayikho embi. Yiqiniso, ingavela endaweni ethile ekujuleni komphefumulo, kodwa uhlobo olufanayo lokubheka isimo esakwenza ube nesihawu, kungasiza. Umbuzo owodwa wukuthi amadoda, njengabameleli abangaphansi komzwelo wobuntu, banganqoba isifiso sokuveza ukunganeliseki kwabo nomlingani, ukucabangela isimo futhi banqume ukuthi kufanele yini ukuba nomhawu nhlobo. Abesifazane bathambekele ekwenzeni yonke imizwelo futhi bayashise amabhuloho, bangaziqondi isimo. Mhlawumbe, akekho ozoba nomhawu, kodwa noma yikuphi ukusola okungenele emphefumulweni wesifazane kubangela ukudumazeka kwemizwelo emibi nokuyiyeka akulula.
Ngakho, ukuze kukhishwe umhawu kuyadingeka:
- ukwethemba ngokugcwele umlingani yisisekelo soma ubuphi ubudlelwane, ngakho khuluma omunye nomunye, usitshele mayelana nemizwa yakho, ukwesaba, ukuthola zonke izinkinga bese uqala ubuhlobo bakho ne "slate ehlanzekile";
- zama ukuqeda ukuzwa ukwesaba: ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumlingani nokuhlala uwedwa, ukwesaba ukuveza imizwa yakho ngokukhululekile nokuveza imicabango;
- ulwa ngokuzethemba. Nguye owenza umuntu kube yinkimbinkimbi, futhi, njengoba kuyaziwa, izinkinga zonke ezingokwengqondo ezihlanganisiwe zizalwa ezixukwini.
Ngomhawu ungakwazi futhi udinga ukulwa, noma kungabhubhisa hhayi kuphela umndeni wakho kanye nobuhlobo bomuntu othandekayo, kodwa futhi nokuphila kwakho. Imiphumela evela ngesisekelo somhawu yiyona ehluke kakhulu. Sonke sikhumbula u-Othello ...