Inhloko yomndeni enezinhlamvu ezinkulu


Uma nje kukhona umndeni, kunombuzo omningi umbuzo othi "Ubani ophethe umndeni?" Inhloko yomndeni enezinhlamvu ezinkulu ngokungangabazeki indoda. Kodwa lo mthetho usebenza kuphela emndenini wezinzalamizi, ohlala isikhathi saso.

Abesilisa nabesifazane basheshe bagijimela empini, bedonsa isundu somunye nomunye. Ingabe kubaluleke ngempela ukuthi ngubani oyinhloko yomndeni?

Okubaluleke kakhulu, kungenzeka ukuthi oshade naye (umyeni noma umfazi) uhlangabezana nalezi zisebenzi ngokugcwele, futhi akaphazamisi nemithwalo yemfanelo yomunye nomunye ekuthuthukiseni umndeni. Ngempela, sonke siyazi kahle ukuthi noma yiliphi ibhizinisi, ibhizinisi noma umndeni ofanayo kuzobola kusukela ekhanda, okungukuthi, kusukela ebuholini obungenangqondo.

Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umndeni wakho uholwa kakhulu-iningi lakho, inhloko yomndeni enezinhlamvu ezinkulu. Ngamuntu, ngikholelwa ukuthi kufanele abe ngumuntu. Kungani? Ngemuva kwakho konke, emphakathini wethu wezintandokazi-patriarchal, owesifazane uyadonsela umndeni wakhe ngokoqobo, uzothi, amadoda angenzi lutho emndenini. Uyazi ukuthi kungani? Ngenxa yokuthi abesifazane abaniki lutho kumuntu, bawuthatha imisebenzi yakhe, futhi yini indoda okufanele iyenze, uma ingenayo isinqumo nokuthi kufanele kwenzekani emndenini wayo? Futhi uma inhloko yomndeni ingumuntu, imisebenzi yakho izobandakanya imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukunakekela umyeni kanye nezingane, kuyilapho indoda isakusiza ngemisebenzi yasendlini, uma kunesidingo, nangesifiso esikhulu.

Ukungabaza? Futhi awuqiniseki! Yenza umyeni wakho abe yiqhawe, inhloko yomndeni enezinhlamvu ezinkulu, u-boss wangempela endlini, ukuze azizwe amandla akhe nomthwalo wemfanelo wakhe, ngenxa yakho, kubantwana bakho. Yiqiniso, uma uke wahudula konke okwesikhashana kakade, futhi umyeni wakho akaphakamisi ngisho nomunwe ukwenza okuthile okuwusizo endlini nangomndeni, kuyiphutha lakho futhi kufike kuwe manje ukuthi ungashintsha yini isimo.

Owesifazane ungumgcini wendawo yokulala, kufanele abe ohlakaniphile ngokwakhiwa kobudlelwane nomyeni wakhe, udinga ukuba naye "umkhadikhazi ompunga", futhi kuyini, awudingi ukuchaza kunoma ubani. Kulesi simo, umyeni uzizwa ephethe ikhanda lomndeni futhi egcwalisa yonke imisebenzi yomholi womndeni, njengokuphepha kwezinto ezibonakalayo, isixazululo sezindaba eziphathelene nezindlu, ukuzijabulisa, ukuqeqeshwa nokunye, futhi umfazi ulawula ngokuhlakanipha izenzo zakhe. Futhi bonke bayajabula futhi bajabule, kholwani kimi.

Yiba yinhloko yomndeni enezinhlamvu ezinkulu ezinomthwalo wemfanelo! Nakuba abesifazane bethu bakwazi ukugoqa izintaba, kodwa yenza lokhu, kusadingeki. Kodwa isimo emndenini sincike kuphela kumfazi, kodwa nasesikhundleni somyeni. Ngoba, kuyinto eyodwa ukubizwa ngokuthi inhloko yomndeni, futhi okunye okuyiqiniso ukuthi kuyiqiniso. Madoda, usulungele ukuba abahola ngempela, abaphathi, abanikazi, ababusi ezweni lakho elincane? Konke ezandleni zakho! Uma ushada, okungukuthi, uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo kumkakho, futhi ube nomusa, umnakekele, okubaluleke kakhulu, ufunde ukumqonda, izithakazelo zakhe nezidingo zakhe. Ngempela, kuyinto yakho injabulo yakho nenjabulo yomndeni wakho okuzoxhomeka kuwe.

Ungashintsha impilo yakho ngokuphawulekayo? Uma ushadile, kufanele uyenze. Kuzodingeka ukhohlwe bonke abangane bakho nezintombi, manje into esemqoka empilweni yakho ngumndeni. Uma ucabanga ngenye indlela, awukwazi ukushada, ngoba awulungele umshado. Futhi uma wena, indoda, ungabi yinhloko yomndeni, khona-ke akekho owesifazane ozokuhlonipha.

Ukuze uzuze lo mgomo kungaba kuphela ubuholi obuhlakaniphile, hhayi ukuklabalaza nokuhlambalaza. Ungesabi amaphutha, ngoba afunda emaphutheni, kodwa umkakho angakwazi ukuhumusha ukwesaba izinkinga zezwe njengobuthakathaka bakho. Amanye amadoda ezweni lethu avumela ukusebenzisa amandla ngokumelene nomkawo. Bacabanga lokhu, mhlawumbe, ukubonakaliswa kobukhulu babo, kepha lona wesifazane uhumusha lokhu ngokuhlukile - uma indoda iphakamisa isandla sayo ngowesifazane, khona-ke uyumuntu obuthakathaka futhi owesaba. Madoda, ngokucindezela awukwazi ukufakazela ukuthi uyinkosi yendlu! Abantu abanengqondo, ikakhulu abantu abaseduze, kufanele bakwazi ukukhuluma nokuxazulula zonke izinkinga zabo ngokusebenzisa inkhulumomphendvulwano.

Ukuxoxisana kuzokusiza ukwazi kangcono. Umuntu onamandla kuphela onesibindi ulungele ukuxazulula zonke izindaba zakhe ngokusebenzisa inkhulumomphendvulwano. Uma kwenzeka umfazi enqaba ukuxhumana naye, kufanele ucabange ukuthi udinga yini umfazi onjalo?

Lokhu ngeke kwenzeke uma ukhumbula njalo ukuthi umkakho uyona engcono kakhulu, enhle kunayo yonke, ehlakaniphile futhi ejulile, yingakho wamshada, akunjalo? Ucabanga ukuthi umkakho ufuna ukushada nomuntu olahlekile? Futhi obani umkakho ozokubamba, kuxhomeke kuphela endaweni yakho yokuphila.

Indoda yangempela njalo ifeza lokho akufunayo. Hlela ukuthi yini ofuna ukuyifinyelela empilweni. Indlu, imoto, indlu yezwe? Ungenza konke uma unemuva othembekile - umfazi onothando nokuqonda. Umuntu obuthakathaka, isidakwa noma umlutha wezidakamizwa angeke abe ngumlingani okhangayo womshado.

Kungaba kuhle ukuba amadoda ethu akhumbule ukuthi owesifazane uyisidalwa esibuthakathaka futhi udinga usizo lwakho nokunakekelwa kwakho. Udinga futhi nje ukuxhumana. Ubani omunye okhuluma naye, ngubani ongakhononda kuye, obani okufanele afune iseluleko nokusekelwa? Awufuni umkakho afune ukusekelwa komunye umuntu? Okufanayo kungashiwo ngomsebenzi wesikole. Wena, njengenhloko yomndeni, kufanele usakaze imisebenzi yasendlini ngendlela yokuthi wena nomkakho ninesikhathi sokuzichitha ndawonye, ​​nizinikeze injabulo yokuxhumana. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ubulili buqinisa ubuhlobo. Futhi uma usisiza kakhulu umkakho ekhaya, ukufudumala nokuthandana kwakhe kuzokwazi ukukunika. Thandanani!