Impilo yomphakathi nezengqondo yemindeni ephansi engenayo incike kuphi? Iyini isimo sayo, izici ezikhethekile, yimuphi umehluko phakathi kwemindeni ephansi engenayo, futhi ukuntuleka kwezinsiza ezibonakalayo kuthinta kanjani umuntu nomndeni wakhe? Ukuze uphendule le mibuzo, okuningi kokuhlolwa nokucwaninga kwenziwa, izithombe ezihlukahlukene zengqondo zabameleli bomndeni onjalo zazibhekwa. Manje sinawo amaqiniso amaningi, idatha, izinkomba kanye nezibalo, singakwazi ukuhlanganisa ngokuzethemba ama-portraits wale miindeni, funda izici zabo.
Okokuqala, ake sibheke izimbangela zokungajabuli emindenini. Ingaziqonda ngokuzumayo, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile zomuntu siqu, izimo ezingalindelekile, noma ukuphakama ngokuqhubekayo, okungenzeka kakhulu. Ukulondeka kwempahla kuxhomeke ekukhokhweni komunye uhlobo lomsebenzi, lowo muntu owenzayo, amakhono akhe ekwakheni umsebenzi, ikhono lokungezelela imigomo yakhe, ukugxila kubo nokuthuthuka. Indlela umuntu aqhubekela phambili ngayo izinga lakhe lomsebenzi lixhomeke ekugqibeleni kwakhe, ithonya lomphakathi kanye nemvelo lapho umuntu ekhona khona. Thina ngokwethu singacabanga futhi sibone ukufana, ukuqonda okushiwoyo ngenhla: umuntu ngokungathandabuzeki uthonywe abangane bakhe, ozakwabo, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngumndeni wakhe, abazali bakhe. Uma behlulekile futhi bebeka phambili eceleni komsebenzi omude, othembekile, okhokha kancane, khona-ke kukhona amathuba amakhulu kakhulu ukuthi ingane ithola izindinganiso ezifanayo, futhi impilo yakhe nemisebenzi yakhe eqhubekayo izoqhubeka "ngokwecebo" labazali bakhe.
Ngokucabangela izizathu zomphakathi, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi isimo sezinto ezixhomeke kakhulu kunesimo sezwe, izinga laso, izinto ezinikeza izakhamizi zalo.
Izinga lokungasebenzi libhekwa njengabalulekile. Akumangalisi ukuthi abafundi abasha, bakhetha umsebenzi ozayo, okokuqala, baqondiswa isiqinisekiso ngokumelene nokungasebenzi. Konke lokho kungenxa yokwesaba kwezwe kanye nesimo sezomnotho, ngoba kunesizathu sokukholelwa ukuthi ukungasebenzi emsebenzini ezweni lethu kuzovuselelwa.
Ubumpofu buyindlela yokuhlupheka. Uma imali engenayo ingaphansi kwayo, umndeni uthathwa njengampofu. Izindleko zokuphila zihlanganisa izindleko zezinto eziyisisekelo zokudla, okubalulekile ukugcina impilo, kanye nezindleko zezinsizakalo kanye nemali. Kulokhu sibona ukuthi imindeni empofu ihlale iqondiswa ukwaneliseka kwezidingo zabo eziyisisekelo, ekufuneni indlela yokudla imindeni yabo, ukufundisa izingane zabo, ukuthenga okungenani ezinye izingubo, ukukhokhela ukukhanya, amanzi kanye negesi ... Lokhu kuphakamisa izinkinga eziningi futhi umlingisi.
Okokuqala, umuntu ovela emndenini ohola imali encane uyahlukanisa nomphakathi wonke, izwe elizungezile. Konke lokhu kuqhathaniswa nokukhathazeka komuntu ompofu nohle, ubuso babo bangaphandle. Amalungu omndeni ongenayo imali ahlukanise nabanye, futhi ungaxhumana nabo kakhulu. Lokhu kuholela ezimweni eziningi kumoya omncane we-autism, futhi kaningi nakakhulu ukuzethemba okuphansi, okuthinta futhi indlela umuntu elwa ngayo nesimo sakhe.
Okwesibili, umzali obhekene nezinkinga zemvelo uyazihlukanisa nezingane zakhe. Isifiso sakhe sokunqoba ubunzima nezinkinga ngendlela yakhe siqu kubangela ukuthi umzali ngandlela-thile ugweme umndeni nokukhuliswa kwezingane zakhe. Bona, nabo, babhekene nokungabikho ukunakekelwa, uthando, uthando nokukhathalela. Baqala ukuzizwa belahliwe, okungadingekile, nokuqaphela ukuthi abakwazi ukusiza, kwenza isimo sabo sibe buhlungu nakakhulu. Iqiniso elithakazelisayo yilokho abazali ababengavumeli izingane zabo ukuba zisebenze, zibagqugquzela ukuba zifunde, futhi zikholelwe ukuthi ukuzuza ibhizinisi labo kuphela. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngisho nangokwengeziwe ezweni lanamuhla, intsha ikhula ngokwengeziwe imali, futhi abazali bayabakhuthaza ukuba benze kanjalo.
Esinye sezici ezibalulekile emindenini ephansi engenayo kuyoba isifiso sokusola abanye ngezinselele zabo. Bathanda ukwenza njengabamangaleli esimweni sokufutheka nokulahlwa kwezwe elibazungezile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo abaye bazama kakade ukushintsha isimo sabo, kodwa behlulekile ezinhlelweni zabo, besaba kakhulu ukuziveza engozini futhi. Kusukela esimweni sabo, okulula kakhulu yisinqumo sokungabonakali futhi ukwamukela izikhundla zokulahlwa kwezwe elizungezile. Imindeni enjalo ihlukumeza ngendlela yazo ngezinkinga.
Isici esibalulekile futhi ukuntuleka kwesinyathelo, ukungabi namandla, ukungakwazi ukubeka imigomo nokufeza. Ngokuvamile isisusa sokuziphatha sokusebenza sisebenza, abantu abanjalo bayoba ngcono ekusebenzeni kwabo futhi bathole ipenny, kunokuba babheke okunikezwayo emakethe futhi bathathe ingozi, abesaba kakhulu.
Kulandela ukuthi impilo yezenhlalakahle nezengqondo yemindeni ephansi engenayo iphansi kakhulu. Abantu abanjalo banesimo esinqunyiwe kukho konke. Khumbula ukuthi isimo sengqondo sokungathandeki emsebenzini, izingane ziholela ekunganakwa ekuphileni. Ngezinye izikhathi kudingeke ukucabange futhi ubuyekeze izinhlelo zezenzo zakho, ukuqondisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwakho hhayi emphakathini oseduze, ezenzweni, ukuze wenze isimo somndeni wakho sibe ngcono.