Cabanga noma ungacabangi owesifazane ongashadile oneminyaka engu-45 ubudala, onomuntu, kodwa akekho izingane?
Owesifazane owayengafuni ngamabomu ukuthi abe nezingane eminyakeni engamashumi ayisihlanu noma engamashumi amabili eyedlule waphenduka waba yilapho eseduzane. Futhi, iqiniso, ukucindezelwa kamuva kwabangane baphoqelela abaningi besifazane, bekungabaza ngekhono lokuzwa imizwa ukuze bavukele omama abangenabuhlungu.
Esikhathini sethu, lokhu kucindezela akukaze kwaphela ngokuphelele, kodwa kancane kancane kuba yize. Umama uqala ukubheka njengokukhetha kwawo wonke owesifazane, hhayi umsebenzi wakhe ongcwele. Inombolo encane yabesifazane abakhetha ukungabi nabantwana ayisabhekene nokulahlwa kwendawo yonke njengangaphambili futhi ezimweni eziningi bangancika ekusizeni. Igama elibi "elingenamntwana" lithathelwa kancane kancane ngokuthi "mahhala kubantwana". Le ncazelo inembile kakhulu kunendlela abesifazane abayithinta ngayo indlela yokuphila abazikhethela yona.
Abesifazane ngokwabo baxazulula kanjani inkinga yobungqingili besifazane lapho bekhulile?
Izazi zengqondo ezazixoxisana nabesifazane abahlala ngaphandle kwezingane zathola ukuthi eziningi zazo zinhle ezinganeni futhi ziyabathanda, kodwa ziyazisa ezinye izici zokuphila ikakhulukazi imisebenzi yazo noma ukuxhumana nabangane nabangane. La maqembu adlala indima ebalulekile empilweni yabo. Abesifazane abanjalo basebenzisa ubuhlobo obulinganayo futhi besaba ukuthi ngokufika kwezingane lokhu kuzophela. Bayazisa futhi inkululeko yabo, futhi ngaleyo ndlela yokuphila ezobavumela ukuba benze izinqumo ezisheshayo, ithuba lokuhlanganyela ekudaleni. Bakholelwa ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukuphumelela kwenye indawo yokuphila. Ngokuyinhloko, ezinye izinhlolovo zibonise ukuthi abesifazane abangenazo izingane bavame ukufundiswa futhi babonise isithakazelo esikhulu emsebenzini wabo. Baphumelela kakhulu kulo futhi bakholelwa ukuthi umama ngeke ubanikeze ukwaneliseka okunjalo. Abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi awuhambisani nezingane, ukuthi ngisho nangomshado ofanayo, izingane zizohlala ziwumthwalo wemfanelo yabesifazane.
Hlola - ngabe indawo enesizungu besifazane ku-subconscious yakho isethelwe.
Isazi sengqondo sezochwepheshe sizokusiza ekwenzeni isinqumo ngokuzithandela. Ngokuyinhloko, uma uhlangabezana nezingxabano ezingaxazululwa, futhi ungacabangi ngokwanele ukuthi yikuphi ukubeletha. Ingxenye yabesifazane inomqondo ongekho ngokuphelele wokuthi inqubo yokukhulisa nokukhathalela ibonisa ukubuyiselwa kwayo yonke into futhi kungeniswa lutho ngokubuyisela. Enye ingxenye isaba inqubo yokubeletha. Phakathi kwabo kukhona nalabo abasencane okufanele banakekele odade abasebasha nabafowabo, noma izihlobo ezigulayo, futhi manje bacabanga ukuthi bayokwanela. Kuyadabukisa kakhulu uma unquma ukungabi nomntwana owamukelayo ngaphansi kwethonya lokulimala kwengqondo ethile endala. Esimweni lapho ungasazi ngalesi sizathu, singakuphula, uma kungenjalo konke, yingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila. Amantombazane amancane ayephoqelelwe ukuba anakekele omunye umuntu ayenqunywe ebuntwaneni, manje asekhulile, angakwazi ukuzonda ukuba abe omama. Ukubhekana nezinkinga zalolu hlobo kuzokusiza inkambo yokwelapha. Ngisho noma ungashintshi isinqumo sakho, sizobe ulinganisela futhi uqaphele.
Hlala ngesinqumo kuze kube seminyaka engamashumi amathathu
Inzalo kufanele ihlehliswe iminyaka engamashumi amathathu, ukuze uma ngokuzumayo ufuna ukuba ingane ingalindi izimbambo zakho. Akuvamile ukuthi izinqumo ezenziwe uma cishe eminyakeni engamashumi amabili kamuva ziqala ukubonakala zingalungile kuwe. Vumelana, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukuba ungabonakali okungenani "inhlanzi emhlophe" emgqeni wabesifazane abanabantwana, kanti abanye abanalo. Futhi lokhu akukhona nje kuphela abangane besikole, kodwa nabo osebenza nabo emsebenzini, futhi nje umbuthano wokuxhumana kwakho. Ngokwalo, le nzwa ingafaniswa nesimo lapho wonke umuntu ekhona emshadweni, futhi wena wedwa njengomunwe. Futhi akuvumele kangcono kakhulu futhi ukhululeke kakhulu ukuba uphile, kodwa namanje siyazizwa singakhululekile lapho siqala ukuphuma epakethe.