Amadoda avame ukusivuza ngamagama okusebenzisa amagama "cat": pussycat, kitten, kisyunya, kisulya nabanye. Lokhu kusho ukuthi othandekayo wakho uyathandana kakhulu futhi uyaziqhenya. Ngomuntu onjalo ngeke neze ube nesithukuthezi. Ulungele ukudla nawe kwelinye izwe, uhlele umhlangano othandanayo ophahleni, ubhale amagama othando ku-asphalt bese wenza isipho esitolo sokudlela, emi eceleni kwedolo. Lolu hlobo "lwamadoda" esikhathini sethu aluvamile kakhulu. Ngesandla somkhono wesifazane, kungu-godsend kuphela!
Uma umuntu wakho ekubiza ngokuthi "othandekayo" nje - lokhu kusho ukuthi usebenza ngokweqile emsebenzini. Ngakho-ke, kumlingani wabo bafuna okuthiwa "ichweba elithulile". Lona ongakhathele ukhathele ukusebenzela kusihlwa, vele ukhulume bese ulala ndawonye. La madoda kufanele alandelwe ngokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa okukhulu. Zizungeze ngothando futhi unakekele, khona-ke umlingani onjalo uyoba ukwesekwa kwakho okuthembekile ekuphileni komndeni.
Uma ujwayele ukuzwa "inhlanzi yami" ekhelini lakho, udinga ukuqapha nomlingani onjalo. Amadoda alolu hlobo ngokuvamile awafuni ukuhlala isikhathi eside futhi athile ubuhlobo obuseduze, ukugcina uhambo olufushane akuwona umsebenzi wabesifazane abathintekayo. Uma usufuna "ukuncibilikisa" futhi ugcine umuntu onjalo, kuzodingeka udale umkhuba wendabuko futhi othandekayo ekuphumuleni kwenhliziyo yakhe - umnike ukuthula nokuthula.
Ngokuvamile, ungahlangana namadoda abiza abathandekayo bawo "abekwe," "igolide lami," nakho konke okuhlobene negolide. Izazi zengqondo zithi abalingani abanjalo kukhona imali nengcebo kuqala. Noma kunjalo, kubonakala sengathi izimpikiswano ezinjalo kufanele zihambisane nalokho ziqinisekisa ukubaluleka komlingani. Ngokuvamile, la mazwi angazwakala kubantu abafuna ukuthola imali noma ukulungiswa emisebenzini yabo ngosizo lwakho.
Isiteketiso esithandekayo "ilanga", "ilanga" libeka imithwalo yemfanelo ye-vsosredelennuyu. Indoda yakho ikubheka ngokuthi "ikhadi lakhe lokuvakashela", okungukuthi, kufanele ukhanye yonke indawo futhi yonke indawo. Okokuthi, owesifazane oseduze nomuntu onamahloni kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi abe nomoya omuhle futhi abe phezulu, ukuze angawa phambi kwabanye futhi angazishiyi emehlweni akhe. Uma owesifazane onjalo ephumelela, akudingekile ukwenza okuthile ngokuqondile lokhu - umbhangqwana omuhle kakhulu. Uma kungenjalo, kuzomele uzame kanzima ukuze ube yinto enhle kumadoda kanye nesilinganiso.
Uma umuntu ekubiza ngokuthi "bun," "u-hostess," noma iziteketiso ezifanayo, kusho ukuthi yilokho akufunayo ukukubona - "ikhaya." Kumele ube ngumsizi womhlekazi. Amadoda anjalo ayakuthanda indlela yokuphila enhle kakhulu ukuze indlu ihlale ihlanzekile futhi ihlanzekile, futhi kufanele kube khona isidlo sakusihlwa nokudla isikhathi sokufika kwakhe ... Futhi, kumele ube ngumama omuhle wezingane. Uma engasho lokhu, akusho ukuthi akacabangi ngezingane, uhlele kakade konke. Kumlingani onjalo, kumele ulungele ukuqedela izifundo ukuze ummangele ngendalo yakho. Mfundisi ubuchwepheshe besifazane, umninindlu, umsikazi wesifazane kanye nezinye izici "ekhaya". Ulungele lokhu? Uma kunjalo, uzophumelela. Umndeni wakho uzoba namandla kakhulu futhi unokwethenjelwa, kodwa ukuphila kuyoba okujwayelekile. Ngoba "abanikazi bendawo" kumele bahlale ekhaya, babukele izingane, bapheke futhi akudingeki bathathe noma yini enye kubo. Futhi, kufanele ukhohlwe mayelana nemihlangano evamile nezintombi zakho, ngoba ngisho lezizinto zizochitha impilo yakho.
Ukuqonda kanjani umuntu okubiza ngokuthi "umntwana" noma "umntwana" ? Abalingani abanjalo ngokuvamile abazithandi ukuzithiba, benze izinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo kanye nobuhlobo obude obuzokhula bube yinto engaphezulu, lokhu akukwazi ukusho. Kodwa umuntu onjalo ungumthandi omuhle. Uzozizwa uzikhethele, indlovukazi. Futhi ungaba abangane abakhulu abazokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Okukhulu kunaleyo, ngeke ulinde. Lolu khetho luhle kakhulu emihlanganweni engapheliyo, engeyona engonakalayo. Uma wabelana ngemigomo efanayo nomlingani wakho, lobudlelwane buhle kuwe. Kodwa uzovuma, ngokushesha noma kamuva uzofuna into ebalulekile futhi edlala isikhathi eside.
Uma umlingani wakho ekubiza ngokuthi "mnandi," wabe usuthole inketho enhle yokuhlala ndawonye. Kuphela uma lo muntu engazange aphikisana naye futhi engabi yinkinga. Nakuba kunzima kakhulu ukuxabana nomuntu onjalo, ngoba njalo uzama ukuphuma empini kuzo zonke izindlela. Ngamanye amazwi, umlingani onjalo unokuthula kakhulu futhi uzolile. Ungamenzeki amahlazo, u-hysteria, ungaxoxi nabanye abantu ngemuva kwakho, bese uyothandwa, ujabule futhi uphile ekuchumeni, uzokuphatha ngezandla zakhe.