Kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kulandelwa yiziphi izenzakalo, ukuphazanyiswa, ukwesaba. Futhi emva nje kokusungula imbangela ecacile yezenzo ezinjalo, umuntu angacabanga ukuthi angamnakekela kanjani umntwana ukuba ancelise iminwe.
Ngokuvamile umntwana ufaka izandla zakhe emlonyeni wakhe ngesikhathi lapho kukhona okuthile okuphazamisayo, uma kunezimo lapho ingane ingakhathazeki khona futhi ingakhululekile.
Ingane ikhathazeka lapho ihlaselwa noma ingavunyelwe. Ingane iqala ukuncelisa iminwe yakhe futhi lesi senzo siyancipha. Ukuze ungacabangi umntwana ukuba ancelise iminwe, udinga ukumthola indlela ehlukile yokududuza.
Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi ukuthola enye indlela yokuzolalisa ingane engakwazi. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ngokuphelele ukusiza umuntu omdala ozokutshela indlela yokuziphatha kahle futhi uthole ukuthi yini ezozolahla. Isibonelo, abanye abantu banqabile umculo nomdanso, ngakho kungani ungabonisi indlela enjalo kumntwana? Mhlawumbe, yilokho okuzomvimbela ukuba ancelise iminwe yakhe.
Uma ingane ingaphezu konyaka nengxenye, kuzomele uzame ukumchazela ukuthi ukudonsa iminwe yakho emlonyeni wakho akuyona into enhle kakhulu. Futhi ukusikisela ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwelo emibi, kodwa ingane isencane futhi iyaqonda ukuthi yini ezoba nzima.
Abazali bangadonsela ekuchazeni amaqhawe amantombazane, umntwana awaziyo futhi awakuthandayo. Isibonelo, mayelana nomzwelo wokuthukuthela inganekwane "indlu kaZaykin" izotshela ngokugcwele, lapho ubhontshisi becasulwa khona, ngoba wakhishwa ngaphandle kwendlu yakhe. Kodwa ngemva kwakho konke, wakhuluma nabakhelwane bakhe, futhi wazizwa engcono. Kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane ukuba ikhulume ngalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, nokungafihleli ngokwayo. Ngemva kwesikhashana, ingane izokuqonda ukuthi ezimweni ezinzima udinga ukucela usizo, esikhundleni sokuphonsela iminwe yakho emlonyeni wakho. Kumntwana oqaphela lokhu ngokushesha, abazali kudingeka baqaphele futhi bawachaze. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile nokuthi emndenini lapho ingane ihlala khona, abazali bakhuluma ngemizwa yabo.
Isizathu esilandelayo esilandelayo "sokuncelisa" iminwe ngumzamo wokulala. Ngakho-ke, ingane ibonakala iphumula futhi ilele ngokushesha. Kulesi simo, ukuncelisa kuba yisimiso ngaphambi kokulala. Yini abazali okufanele bayenze? Kubalulekile ukwakhiwa kwesinye isiko sokulala, hhayi ukuhlolisisa iminwe yakho. Ngaphambi kokulala, kuhle ukudlala imidlalo enokuthula, bese ugeza, ukuhlalisa, okuzophumula. Abazali kufanele bahlale eduze komntwana, bafunde inganekwane yakhe, ungavumela ukuba ulale embhedeni oyikhonzile. Kuhle uma omunye wabazali ehlala nengane ngenkathi elala, okuzokwenza kube nokuthula nokuzethemba.
Ngokuvamile, iminwe esemlonyeni wengane iwela ngesikhathi lapho ibukela ama-cartoon kuphela. Ngokuvamile, kubhekwa ukuthi ingane idonsela izandla emlonyeni isisulu, lapho engenzi lutho.
Ngakho-ke, umsebenzi wabazali ukunikeza ingane isikhathi esengeziwe, ubuke izithombe zezinhlamvu, ufunde izincwadi, udansa, mhlawumbe, ingane izokhohlwa ukuthi iminwe isemlonyeni wakhe.
Uma kunjalo, ukuphuza iminwe kuba yisisulu, akukho tricks kusiza ukubhekana nale nkinga, ngakho-ke, kuyodingeka ukuthi uxhumane nomsayense wezengqondo, ngemuva kokuxoxa nabazali bakhe, uzokwethula imbangela yangempela yale nkinga futhi enze izindlela zokuzixazulula ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi abazali, ngaphambi kokuvakashela isazi sezengqondo, umuntu kufanele alandele ukuziphatha kwengane ukuze aphendule yonke imibuzo kadokotela ekwamukeleni.