Imfihlo Yokuphila
Kungazelelwe ufunde ukuthi umlingani uhlanganyela ekushaya indlwabu, ngoba iningi liyashaqeka. Abesifazane ezimweni ezinjalo, ikakhulukazi bavame ukuzizwa behlazekile, babone lokhu njengokulahlekelwa isifiso bona. Bacabanga ukuthi le ndlela yokuzineliseka komyeni ukhuluma ngokungahambisani kwabo ngokocansi. Amadoda, ukuthola umlingani ngokwaneliseka, abazizwa besongela ubukhulu babo. Futhi lokhu kuyaqondakala: ukushaya indlwabu kwesifazane kugxila ikakhulukazi kwi-clitoris, akuphazamisi i-coitus, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, kungasebenza njengesandulela sothando. Abesifazane bayakwazi ukuthola ama-orgasms amaningi, ngakho-ke indoda ingakholelwa ukuthi owesifazane ozikhathazayo, ulungiselela ukuyithatha futhi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda ajwayelekile ukuwa icala ngakho eseduze ukubona izitho zangasese zocansi, zifihliwe ngenxa yendawo yazo. Ukubamba intandokazi yakho ngokushaya indlwabu kusho ukuvula iveli lezimfihlo zakhe. Futhi lokhu, yebo, kuyajabulisa!
Zijabulise wena
Ukushaya indlwabu akuyona indima ye-caress yokuqala. Lena umkhuba ohlukile wocansi, okhona owodwa. Ukuzivocavoca kuyinto injabulo engafani nanoma yimuphi omunye. Lona ubulili obuhlukile, obukhona kanye nokujwayelekile. Lezi zinhlobo ezimbili zokuziphendulela azikwazi ukuncintisana. Ukukhathazeka ukuzinikeza amaminithi owodwa kuwe. Kuyindlela ehle kakhulu yokuphumula nokuzizwa uqiniseka kuwe. Kungenxa yalokhu kubangela ingane encane. Kumuntu omdala, lezo zibopho zenza ezinye izinto.
Imizwa yecala
Lokho esikufihlayo kungabangela imizwa yecala hhayi ngoba kuyinto embi, kodwa kuphela ngoba siyifihla. Futhi manje baye bayeka ngokuphelele ukulala ocansini - ngamunye uyazigcwala. Kulokhu, ubudlelwano bobudlelwane bube bukhulu. Ekugcineni, ukwaneliseka, njenganoma yimuphi omunye ukwaneliseka, ama-doom umuntu abe nesizungu. Kusukela ekubukeni kwenjabulo eyitholiwe, ukushaya indlwabu kungaphansi kwesenzo esivamile sobulili obufanayo nesithandana naye oseduze: nguye oletha injabulo enkulu kakhulu, iningi elikhulu kakhulu. Ubulili obuhle bukhombisa ukuphindaphindiwe. Ubulili obudala kuyisifundo kokubili. Uma abalingani bevame ukushaya indlwabu kunokuba babe nobulili, lokhu kusho ukuthi ubuhlobo buvele ebuhlotsheni. Uma sizikhathaza izikhathi eziningana ngosuku, lokhu kungabonisa ukukhathazeka okuqinile. Kulesi simo, akusisona isifiso sobulili. Lokhu kufanele kukhulume nomngane wakho noma ngisho nomqondo we-psychotherapist. Isidingo esinjalo sokushaya indlwabu singasitshela okuhlukile ngathi ngokwethu ikakhulukazi uma sisencane sasivunyelwe ukuba nezimfihlo zethu. Futhi lapho "beveza" nathi, umuzwa wecala uqinisa. Ngabanjwa ngumkami. Wabeka isandla sakhe phezu kwami, ehlose ukuqhubeka yena esikhundleni sami ... Kwakungenakubekezelela. Ngamcela ukuba ayeke, futhi asikaze sikhulume ngakho futhi. Ngicabanga ukuthi unecala, njengokungathi wayengeke aphumelele. Nakuba akusebenzi lutho neze. Akunandaba neze.
Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zokushaya indlwabu
Isayensi ye-Medieval yayikholelwa ukuthi inzalo isuka ku-lymph, futhi i-lymph, nayo iveza ubuchopho. Ngakho-ke kwaphetha ngokuthi ukujula okweqile kakhulu kwehlisa ubuchopho futhi kubangela izifo ezihlukahlukene. Le mbono yaqhubeka kuze kube sekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-XX. Kancane kancane isimo sengqondo sokushaya indlwabu sishintshile kangcono. Emisebenzini yabalobi be-Silver Age (AI Remizov, FA Sologub, AA Tinyakov, njll) ukushaya indlwabu kusetshenziswe kahle. Isazi sefilosofi uVasily Rozanov uyabhala: "Phakathi kwabangane bakhe, onanist ufana nehhashi lase-Arabia phakathi kwama-bitoyugs." Imithi yanamuhla ayiboni ukushaya indlwabu njengengozi empilweni. I-Antiquity yayidonsela phansi ukushaya indlwabu. EGrisi naseRome, kwakhiwe ngisho namadivayisi akhethekile. Noma kunjalo, igama lesiLatini elithi "ukushaya indlwabu" linomthunzi wokungavumi, ngoba ngokwezwi nezwi lisho ukuthi "ukungcoliswa ngesandla". IBhayibheli lisitshela indlela uNkulunkulu ajezisa ngayo u-Onan, owathululela imbewu emhlabathini. Abanye abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi kwakungewona ukushaya indlwabu, kodwa ukuziphatha kocansi okuphazanyiswayo. Kodwa nokho le ndaba yaba yisisekelo sokulahla ukushaya indlwabu ngesonto. ERussia yasendulo, yayibizwa ngokuthi igama lesiGreki elithi "malakia" noma isi-Slavic "ukushaya indlwabu" futhi lilingana nokuxoshwa kukaDeveli. Namuhla, ukushaya indlwabu kubonakala njengendlela yokuthola ngokocansi kanye nomthombo wokuzijabulisa. Yikuphi kulokhu okungeke kube yindawo efanelana ngayo nobuhlobo bobulili obuvamile "futhi siwasebenzisa ngezikhathi ezahlukene kanye nezinkathi zokuphila. Abanye baqeda ukuthula futhi bacwilise olwandle lwesimo sengqondo, abanye bajabule futhi bathathe endaweni yokucabanga. Noma yikuphi kwalokhu okukhethwa kukho kungazuzisa lo mbhangqwana. Basiza umlingani ngamunye ukuba aqaphele ukuzijabulisa kwabo, okubalulekile ekuthuthukiseni ngempumelelo ubulili. Futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, balawula ukungezwani komlingani ngamunye ngokwehlukana, futhi emibhangqwana, uma umuntu efuna ukuya ocansini, kanti omunye akwenzi.
Isizathu sokuzindla
Ukuphendula kwalesi wesifazane kwakungokwemvelo: wayefuna ukushintsha yonke into ibe ngumdlalo wesondo, ukwabelana ngokuzijabulisa. Umyeni wami wayengakalungeli lokhu. Uthi lo mlingani "akazange aphumelele," ngakho-ke indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo iyasebenza: uyayichaza imizwa yakhe kuye. Wayengakulungeli ukuvumela owesifazane angene endaweni yezokusondelana kwakhe. Abesifazane abaningi banemizwa yokuzizwa benecala. Kulesi simo, ngemuva kwalokhu ukukholelwa ukuthi indoda yakho idinga futhi ingaba iphelele, uma ingasebenzi, khona-ke kufanele usolwe icala. Okwamanje, amadoda amaningi adinga inkululeko ethile. Ngakho-ke, ukuhlasela kwalesi sigaba kuvame ukubhekwa njengokwephulwa kobudlelwane obuseduze futhi kuphazamise ukuphikisana. Ungadlali. Ungabeki noma uzivimbele noma yimuphi umusa. Kungani ungadlala nje uma uhlala umdlalo. Kubalulekile ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuyakujabulela. Isikhathi sokubukeka sibonakala uma kuba uhlobo olulodwa lokuphila kocansi. Asizange sikhohlwe ukuthi imuphi umdlalo omusha ongaholela kuwo. Sithanda ukubuka enye i-caress, noma ukuthola ukuthi uyayenza nje, kwaba mnandi. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, thina ngandlela-thile sanyamalala komunye nomunye.