Ngicabanga ukuthi, uma kungenjalo, emisebenzini eminingi yokuqoqa kukhona umsebenzi onokwethenjelwa olungele ukusiza ozakwabo nganoma iyiphi indlela "ezintweni ezincane": ukwenza okuthile, ukubhala incwadi, endaweni ethile ukubalekela. Wonke umuntu ujwayele "izinsizakalo" zakhe futhi akekho ocabanga ukuthi yikuphi okungenakho "okungenenkathazo", lokho akuzwayo nokuthi kungani eba "umfana obalekile".
Imvelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi isiphelile ukuthakazelisa impilo yakhe nezinkinga zakhe. Futhi uma, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, ukwenza iziyalezo ezijwayelekile kungenzeki, ukwenqaba kubonakala kahle njengesizathu, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nangokuhlambalaza ngamabomu, ukubonisa ukungahloniphi. Iqiniso lokuthi izizathu zingaba namandla, ozakwabo ngisho nangabe engangeni engqondweni.
Abaphathi bezinkinga "ezingenasifo" bayakwazisa. Kodwa ngokulinganisela. Bakhuthazwa ngamaholide, ngezikhathi ezithile badumisa esidlangalaleni. Ukuhluleka ekusebenzeni kwemisebenzi yabo kuvame ukuthethelelwa, kodwa baceliwe ngokucacile ukuba bangene emsebenzini, "bahlanganiswe" ngesikhathi esifanayo, bonke abanye ababenqabe. Ukukhuthazwa kwezinga lomsebenzi kubasebenzi abanjalo akunakwenzeka. Ukuzikhethela kwabo akucatshangwa uma kwenzeka izikhundla, ngoba, noma yikuphi okushoyo, futhi imisebenzi yabo ngokuvamile "emgodini," abanalo isikhathi esanele. Ngokuvamile, amazwi amabili: "Ubani onenhlanhla, ngalokho futhi uya" futhi "Kusukela kokuhle akubheki" - lokhu kungalesi simo. "Lucky" "ngaphandle kwenkinga", futhi "okuhle" iya kubazakwethu abathandekayo nabaholi.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ngokuvamile kunzima isisebenzi esifisa ukulahla "abadala" abanolwazi. Ubani omunye "ogijima emva kukaKlinsky", ukuthi awuncane kanjani? Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isimo "semvelo" umkhuba. Kodwa-ke, izimpande azikona kunjalo, ngoba bonke babebancane, kodwa iningi lethu labhekana ngokuphumelelayo nezifo "zokukhula".
Into esemqoka ezimweni ezinjalo ukuzithoba. Umuntu wesaba ukuthi bayomcabanga kabi noma bamkhumbule ngezinye izikhathi ukuthi wenqaba ukusiza othile. Ukwakheka kokuzethemba okuphansi kubeka phansi ebuntwaneni, lapho ingane iphoqelelwa ukuba yenza okungenakwenzeka futhi ikhumbule njalo ukulinganiselwa kwamakhono akhe, idumise kuphela yimpumelelo, futhi kaningi ibeka icala lokuhluleka. Uma bonke abazali bebathanda izingane zabo "njengaleyo" futhi abazange babeke udumo ngokuxhomeke empumelelweni noma ukwehluleka, abantu abadala abesaba ukuthi "babebi" emehlweni abantu abanye babeyoba ngaphansi.
Ukungavikeleki emandleni akho kubangela isidingo esivumayo sokuvunywa kwabanye futhi kubangela ukuthi umuntu uyavuma ukugcwalisa noma yiziphi izicelo, ngisho nokulimaza izithakazelo zakhe. Abakuzungezile bakubone lokhu futhi basebenzise ngenkuthalo, empeleni - baphathe kabi umuntu ompofu.
Kulula ukukhipha imiphumela yemfundo engalungile ekukhuleni, kodwa kuyadingeka. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacile ukuthi umuntu ongazi ukuthi "cha" kwabanye, uthi "yebo" ezinkingeni zakhe.
Uma ngabe uyazi ukuthi usebenza, ukusho ukuthi "cha" akusho nje ukuguqula ulimi, ungazama ukusebenzisa amasu okuxhaphaza avamile asetshenziswa kabanzi ngabanye abaseduze "kokuhluleka ukuphepha". Ngamanye amazwi, zama "ukushaya isitha ensimini yayo," ngisho nangesikhali sakhe.
Isibonelo, othile uhlale "ephazamisa" wena, ubhekisela esimweni esiyingozi sempilo yakhe. Ezingxoxweni ezinjalo "ezigulayo" kuyasiza ukukhumbula wonke amasonto abo, ukuthi ziphazamisa kanjani ukuphila nokusebenza, ukuthi kungakanani imali nesikhathi esithathayo ukuze uthole ukwelashwa futhi uhambe nge-polyclinics. Cindezela isihawu, njengoba nje benza ngokumelene nawe.
Ephendula ukugxila mayelana nesiphetho esibuhlungu, "ungene ngaphakathi" umphefumulo wakho, ukhononde ukuthi akekho okuqondayo, uthola okukhethekile ekucindezelweni kwabazali, washada (noma ushadile) ngaphandle kothando futhi manje "akajabuli ngokuphelele".
Uma othile ekukhumbuza umsebenzi onobungane, cela omunye umuntu ukuthi azenzele okuthile ngesisekelo esifanayo, ubhekisele emisebenzini esabekayo noma izinkinga zomndeni. Ungesabi ukuthi i-interlocutor izocasuka. Umphathi we-manipulator uzomangala futhi adideke yilolu shintsho lwezenzakalo. Sebenzisa isikhathi sokuhluleka.
Yiqiniso, emzabalazweni wenkululeko yomuntu, umuntu akakwazi ukuyeka noma yikuphi ukucela usizo. Kodwa, uma wenza isinqumo, qiniseka ukuzibuza imibuzo bese uzama ukuphendula ngokuphikisanayo. Ingabe kukhona amandla anele ukugcwalisa isicelo? Ingabe kuyadingeka ngempela? Ingabe kunesikhathi sokusiza? Unesifiso sokusiza?
Futhi ngaphezulu. Ukwehluleka akusho ukuthi awuhloniphi umuntu. Mane nje ulinganisela ngokucophelela amandla. Ekugcineni, ukwenqaba okusobala kuzoqinisa ubudlelwane kuphela, futhi kungaholela ekuqhekekeni kwabo, njengoba kubonakala ekuqaleni. Phela, yibo kuphela abazihloniphayo, isikhathi sabo namandla abo, abalulekile hhayi kuphela ngemibono yabanye, kodwa futhi nemibono yabo ngokwabo, banegunya langempela. Inhlanhla.
Alexey Norkin
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