Ukukwazi ukuxhumana
Lezi zwi ezimbi zibonisa, ngokusho isichazamazwi sengqondo, "ikhono lokusungula nokugcina othintana nabo abadingekile nabanye abantu. Ukukhulumisana okuphumelelayo kuyinto evamile: ukufeza ukuqonda okuhlangene kwabalingani, ukuqonda kangcono isimo kanye nokuxoxisana (ukuqiniseka okukhulu ekuqondeni isimo kusiza ekuxazululeni izinkinga, kuqinisekisa ukufezwa kwezinhloso ngokusebenzisa kahle izinsiza). Esikoleni lokhu akufundiswa: umsebenzi oyinhloko wabasakhulayo ukuxhumana, kanti ezinye izikhundla, ubuchwepheshe, kancane kancane zifika phambili. Futhi ukukhulumisana kuyahleleka kakhulu futhi kunenjongo: siyaqaphela ukuthi asisadingeki ukuthanda wonke umuntu nomuntu wonke, sithola isitayela sethu, sinquma ukuthi ubani esifuna ngempela ukuba umngane naye, futhi ngubani okwanele ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle.
Uma impilo esemdala ungakubekezeli ukugxekwa, okuvela kuye, awukwazi ukuqala kuqala kumuntu ongaziwa, ongakwazi ukuqeda oxhumana nabo abangadingekile nokusekela okudingekayo, angazi kanjani ukuxoxisana - cishe, ngokukwazi ukuxhumana okungenayo uye waqala. "Kuphathwa" ngokuqeqeshwa okukhethekile nezifundo.
Ukucabanga okuhlelekile
Esikoleni, angizange ngikwazi ukufunda lezi zikhathi ezingapheli zenzi zesiNgisi isikhathi eside - kuze kube yilapho uthisha athola isibonakaliso ebhodini lapho bebonke, futhi kwakungenjalo kakhulu. Eyunivesithi, angikwazi ukuqeda ukufunda "Iminyaka Eyinkulungwane Yesizungu" kwaze kwaba yilapho ngacabanga ngokudweba umuthi wozalo lozalo lwaseBuendia - futhi emva kwalokho akukho ukudideka emanzini kwangivimbela ukuba ngijabulele umbhalo.
Imfundo isinika ithuba lokuqonda umhlaba njengendlela yokuxhumana, lapho isenzo ngasinye sinemiphumela yaso - ngakho ama-dominoes awela komunye nomunye. Ngokuvamile, noma yisiphi isayensi asikwazi ukuqondakala kuze kube sekupheleni, uma ungaqondi ukuthi isebenza kanjani nokuthi isebenza kanjani - njengendlela uhlelo. Uma ubona umsebenzi wabaphenyi bodumo odumile - Holmes noma Poirot - kubonakala ukuthi bavele bafezekisa ikhono lokuqonda ubuhlobo phakathi kwezinto, abantu nezenzo.
Yiqiniso, umsebenzi wombheki noma, isibonelo, umhlaziyi wezezimali - lokhu kuyi-aerobatics, okungewona wonke umuntu ongakwenza. Kodwa uma wena nakulolu suku ungaboni umhlaba wonke, kodwa umkhakha wakho wokusebenza njengengxabano yamaqiniso futhi ucabanga, futhi imemori ikuholela ngoba wazi indlela eyodwa yokukhumbuza-ukuqhuma, kusho ukuthi ukucabanga kwesistimu akuzange kusebenze . Lokhu kulungiswa noma ngemfundo eyengeziwe nabathisha abahle, noma ukuzifundela okuzicabangela futhi okunenjongo.
Ukuqala kuqala
ENtshonalanga, leli khono lilula - kunqunywa ukuba ukhethe izifundo nama-seminari ngesicelo somfundi. Ifa esivela ohlelweni lwezemfundo yaseSoviet ngezinye izikhathi lithola inqwaba yezinto ezingabonakali kunoma ubani futhi kungani zidingeka, futhi isikhathi nemithombo yabo yokuyisebenzisa kuyadingeka. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi yini edingekayo kuwe nokuthi ngabe i-diploma ebomvu yemizamo isetshenziselwa ukuqonda nokudlula okungewona oyinhloko noma ngokumane uqondise izindleko zokuzikhandla umsebenzi ongewona wonke izingane zesikole, olungiselelwe ukuthola amamaki amahle ngenxa yamabanga ngokwabo, ukuphatha. Kodwa, njengomthetho, sisondela esinqumweni sokwamukela imfundo ephakeme yesibili kakade ngenhloko ebandayo, siqaphela ukuthi sifuna ukuthatha lokhu nokuthi kungani. Kodwa kuthiwani uma iminyaka emihlanu yokuphila isivele ichithekile?
Uma ungafundile ukuqonda izidingo zakho futhi uqonde ukuthi yikuphi okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, nokuthi yini oyidingayo kakhulu, nokuthi yini ongayenqaba (lokhu kusebenza emisebenzini nakubantu), futhi kuvame ukuvumela abanye ukuba baxazulule lokhu imibuzo ngokwabo - kusho ukuthi yisikhathi sokuhlunga izinto ezibalulekile. Okokuqala, udinga nje ukuthatha ucezu lwephepha bese uchaza kuso esikhathini esizayo oyifunayo eminyakeni emihlanu, bese ucabanga ngalokho okudingayo ukuze ufeze lo mgomo nokuthi ungakufeza kanjani. Uma kunomgomo, izinto eziza kuqala zibeka kalula.
Ukuphathwa kwesikhathi
"Ukuphathwa kwesikhathi", noma ukuphathwa kwesikhathi, yilokho cishe bonke abafundi abanakho. Ubusuku obusuku bokuhlolwa noma ukuphothula iziqu, amaqhawe amaqhawe wokufunda uhlelo lwe-semester ngosuku olungenalo ukudla, kodwa ngama-afula amahlanu ekhofi (futhi uhlanganise nekhofi esheshayo no-Pepsi-Cola ukuze ungalali ubusuku ngaphambi kokuhlolwa?) - Yebo, uthando, kodwa lubonisa ukuthi awukwazi ukuphatha kahle isikhathi sonke semester wayengafundi ulwazi nolwazi olutholakalayo, kodwa into engahlobene nokufunda, ngabe ngabe ihamba ngaphansi kwenyanga, ingxoxo yefoni nentombi Okwesibili, ephathini nabafundi esasikanye nabo, noma imizamo yokuxazulula umbuzo okuphakade: "Kungani yena ukubiza?!" Yiqiniso, ngaphandle amakhono lwangaphambili ukuphathwa isikhathi ngeke isebenze - asikwazi ongaqondwa ngaphandle ezibeka phambili ngenxa yokubaluleka yini nokuzihlupha sifuna eziyigugu.
Ubuciko bokuphumelela, okungasweleki kithi, obanikeza isihloko noma umbiko wonyaka imizuzu emihlanu ngaphambi kokuphela kwesikhathi sokuphela kwesikhathi, akukaze kuzuze ifa elivela kunoma yiluphi ufuzo-lungasetshenziswa. Izincwadi zishicilelwe (isibonelo, "Idrayivu Yesikhathi: Indlela Yokuphatha Ukuphila Nokusebenza" yi-Gleb Arkhangelsky) nezifundo ezikhethekile nokuqeqeshwa kuhleliwe, ngokuvamile ngokuchitha izinkampani okufanele sisebenze kuzo. Ngandlela-thile akunangqondo ukuthi abaqashi bakhathazeke ngesikhathi sethu ngaphezu kwethu, awucabangi?
Amakhono okusesha
I-diploma yami yophiko lwamafilosofi akusho neze ukuthi ngiyakwazi kuphi ukubeka lokhu noma leyo comma, kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi iziphi izichazamazwi nezincwadi zokubhekisela zingachaza umthetho. Akudingekile ukugcina yonke imininingwane mayelana nokusebenza kwakho ekhanda lakho - kwanele ukuqonda ukuthi ungabatholaphi nokuthi yimiphi imithombo yolwazi okufanele uyithembele. Ngeshwa, akuyona yonke inyuvesi lokhu kufundiswa - ake sithi, mayelana nomthombo owusizo wolwazi lwezesayensi, njengezincwadi ezingabonakali, ngimangala ukufunda kuphela ekulungiseleleni okuqondile ukuvikela idiploma. Ikhono lokusesha nokuthola linikeza isisekelo esihle kakhulu sokuzifundela: awukwazi ukufunda zonke izincwadi ezidingekayo eyunivesithi (futhi ngezinye izikhathi kungenakwenzeka ngokomzimba), kodwa ungabuyela ohlelweni bese ugcwalisa "imigodi" futhi ukwandise izindawo ezithile zolwazi lwakho. Futhi ukuze uphumelele emakethe yezabasebenzi futhi uphakamise izinga lezemisebenzi, udinga ukuqaphela izitayela zakamuva emkhakheni wakho womsebenzi.
Yiqiniso, izinjini zokusesha zingumsizi wethu othembekile (nakuba kufanele futhi uziphathe), kodwa kungcono uma ungaboni ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa emithonjeni eqinisekisiwe. Ungaphendula umbuzo womuntu osebenza nabo noma abaphathi: "Angazi lokhu, kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi ingatholakalaphi"? Uma kungenjalo-ke kuzodingeka siqale okungenani kusuka ku-intanethi efanayo ukwakha imininingwane yakho yemithombo.
Amakhono okuxoxa
Eyamayunivesithi aphakathi, babethanda kakhulu uhlobo olunjalo lokuhlelwa komsebenzi njengokuphikisana. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abafundi ababambe iqhaza kubo abazange bahambisane nendawo yokubuka, kodwa bafunda ukukhetha izingqinamba ezifanele futhi bakhe inkulumo yabo ukuze kuqinisekiswe. Ngakho-ke, endleleni, inkulumo ethi "ummeli kaDeveli" yabonakala: lowo obizwa ngokuthi umphikisi oqokelwe isikhulumi ukuze avikele umbono ohlukile. Ezweni lanamuhla, abaningi bazoba usizo ekwakheni inkulumo eguquguqukayo, babonise umbono wabo futhi baphikisane, futhi balalele isitha kuze kube sekupheleni futhi njalo ugcine engqondweni ukuthi kukhona iphuzu elihlukile. Kwanele ukuya kunoma iyiphi iforamu le-intanethi ukukhumbula ngokugubha isitatimende seVoltaire: "Angihlanganyeli izinkolelo zakho, kodwa ngizokunika impilo yami ukuba ngiyikhulume."
Mayelana nekhono lokukholisa wabhala ngaphezulu uDale Carnegie, ikhono elifanayo linikezelwa kulelo gatsha lonke lezinhlelo zokusebenza kwengqondo - neyrolinguistic, ukuthandwa kwezifundo ze-rhetoric kukhula njalo ngonyaka. Kusalokhu ukwengeza kulo mkhono isifiso sokulalela umxhumanisi, ngisho noma ungavumelani nhlobo naye, ungayi kubuntu ekushiseni kwempikiswano futhi ungacabangi ukuthi injongo yengxoxo ukuwina nganoma yikuphi ukubiza.
Ulwazi jikelele
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Ngenhlanhla, leli khono ligcwele kalula - lapho kukhona isifiso esiqhubekayo sokufunda nokufunda okusha, isithakazelo emhlabeni, okubonakala sengathi sinabantwana kuphela. Ukuphila kuyinto ethakazelisayo kakhulu, futhi lapho siqhubeka sifunda, kuyathakazelisa kakhulu. Phela, ukubaluleka kolwazi akukhona kuphela ekusebenziseni kwabo okusebenzayo, kodwa nangenjabulo yokuthola entsha, ngaphandle kwalokho ukuqhubeka kwesintu ngeke kwenzeke. Sahamba emkhathini kuphela ngoba amakhulu eminyaka saphupha ukufunda okwengeziwe ngezinkanyezi.