Ngaki kaningi emakhasini amanoveli namafilimu othando singaxoxa izindaba ezinhle ngothando, lapho sihlangana khona nendima efanayo: "Lona uthando ekuqaleni kokubona." Yini echaza ukubukeka kwalo mzwelo, kwenzekani phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane? Futhi ingabe kukhona uthando ngempela oluhlabelelwa yizimbongi eziningi?
Ngitshele, ngukuthini uthando? "
Impendulo yalo mbuzo ovuthayo ayifuni kuphela labo abafuna umphefumulo wabo womshado, kodwa nabo bonke iqembu lososayensi. Isibonelo, ososayensi abavela eYunivesithi yaseLondon ngokusebenzisa ukuhlolwa baye baqala into ehlekisayo. Amadoda ayisishiyagalombili nabesifazane abangu-8 banikezwa izithombe zabantu abangaziwayo bobulili obuhlukile. Imiphumela yabesabeka ngisho nakososayensi ngokwabo: uma esithombeni amehlo omuntu ayebheke ngqo kulowo obukayo, indawo ekhethekile yobuchopho yaqala ukusebenza kumuntu obukayo. Uma amehlo esithombeni ehlelwa eceleni - umuntu obuka kuye, wazizwa edumazeke kakhulu. Noma ngabe uthini, futhi ukuxhumana kwamehlo kunobungane obukhulu ukuthanda ekuqaleni kokubona.
Uthando ngokububula kokuqala, njengendlela yokusabela kwamakhemikhali eqinile
Lo mzwa uvame ukuphoqa futhi uqhube abantu ukuba benze izenzo ezimbi kakhulu. Iphindwe kaningi njengesikhuthazo sokuphefumlelwa ukwakha ubuciko ngabantu abahlakaniphile. Ukubonakala kwemizwa ekuboneni kokuqala iminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi ethandekayo ebuntwini. Zonke izindaba zezintandokazi zothando ezaqala nge-glance eyodwa, ngokushesha zibeka ngesisekelo samanoveli namafilimu. Ekupheleni kwabesosayensi bekhulu lama-20 abavela e-United States bafaka umbono wabo siqu wombono we-chemistry yothando, okwakungabaza kakhulu ngamaRoma amaningi. Okuyinhloko yombono wokuthi uthando luyimikhemikhali, isenzo esivamile esivela ebuchosheni bomuntu.
Ososayensi bakwazi ukuskena ubuchopho bomuntu ngosizo lwezobuchwepheshe zamuva, okusiza ukulungisa ukuhlukahluka kwamakhemikhali ahlukahlukene. Lezi zindlela ezithinta izimpendulo zithinta izimbonakaliso eziyinkimbinkimbi (ukuzwakalisa, ukusukela ngomqondo wokukhanga kuya kwesigamu, imicabango mayelana nento yokudumisa, isifiso, isifiso sokusondela kulo muntu, umuzwa wesikhwele, njll).
Yiqiniso, akekho ophikisanayo wokuthi lezi zifakazelo zithi ziyiqiniso, kodwa labo abakholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi uthando bathinta, banamathela ekubambeni umbono wabo, bephika ukuthi yonke incazelo yalo mqondo isekelwe kumakhemikhali amaningi kakhulu. Yisho ukuthi uthini, kunzima umuntu ovamile ukuba akholelwe ekuchazeni okunembile komqondo wokuthi "uthando nokuvela kwalo" okokuqala.
Yehla othandweni ngemizuzwana engu-30
Ngokusekelwe ocwaningweni lwabahlengikazi baseMelika, uthando oluvela ngesikhathi sokuxhumana kwamehlo lungabonakala emasekhondini angu-30 omhlangano wokuqala. Owesifazane kuqala uqala ukubheka izibonakaliso zesimo esiqinile kumuntu, ahlole izimfanelo zakhe ezingqondweni, umqondo wakhe wokuhlekisa. Ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokhu kuhlolisiswa kwezimfanelo zomuntu: ezimweni eziningi, abesifazane bagxila emahlombe avulekile, izintambo eziqinile, izandla eziqinile. Kodwa ukuze ubulili obuqine kakhulu ngesici esinqunyiwe ku-52% uthathe imilenze yamantombazane. Emva kokuhlolwa kwenzeka kule nqubo: isifuba, izinqulu, amehlo.
Uthando noma uthando
Uthando oluvela ebusweni babantu abathile luyindlela yokusabela kugobolondo langaphandle, ukukhangwa ngokomzimba. Kodwa ukuze kubonakale imizwa yangempela, isikhathi nesisondelene ngokomoya kuyadingeka. Ngakho-ke, lapho ngibona indoda okokuqala, ngifake iso lakhe nge-iso-in-glase futhi ngizwela ngaye, singase sizizwe nje ukukhangwa okusheshayo. Nje lokhu ukukhanga kungakhula ibe imizwa, futhi kungase kuhlale kulezinga. Uma kwakungenalo umehluko phakathi kobuhle obungaphandle nangaphakathi, khona-ke uthando kusuka ekubukeni kokuqala oluhle lungaba yinto evamile. Umqondo owuthola kumuntu emasekhondi wokuqala ngezinye izikhathi uyakhohlisa. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi ukuzwelana okuvamile kungazalwa othandweni. Ngokuvamile abantu badidanisa uthando ngokuzwelana, uthando noma ukufutheka. Ezwa ukukhanga komuntu, abazi ukuthi bangahlukanisa kanjani le mizwa, bakholelwa ukuthi yilokho. Ngokuvamile, abantu abanomdlandla bathambekele kulokhu, abangacabangi ukukhanya okuvamile kwe-passion - ama-hormone, ama-pheromone, njll.