Silinde isimo sizenzele ngcono ngokwayo. Kodwa impilo akuyona inganekwane, ungaphuthelwa kuphela isikhathi lapho ungakwazi ukwenza okuthile.
Ngakho, okwenzeke kakhulu - washiya, futhi akafuni ukubuyela. Ukuhlukanisa kuyinkinga enamandla yimuphi owesifazane. Esimweni esinjalo, ingqondo ivame ukulahleka, ayikho ikhono lokucabanga, futhi ngokufanele, into okufanele iyenze.
Ungabuyisa kanjani ubuhlobo obuseduze nomfana? Okokuqala, udinga ukuzola - ungaya kumngane, isazi sezengqondo, umpristi (ngubani, oseduze), ngokuqinisekile uzolalela, bayodabuka. Noma thola amandla kuwe ukuze ukwazi ukuzibonela kuwe, emaphutha akho. Kudingekile ukuqonda ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukubuyisela okwedlule, sekuhambeni okungenakuqhathaniswa. Ungaqala kuphela ngephepha elihlanzekile, futhi impilo entsha kufanele ihluke futhi iqondane ngokuhlukile kusukela endala.
Udinga ukuqala ngokwakho. Zihlolisise ngokwakho, mhlawumbe okuthile kuye kwashintsha kuwe? Ingabe ukuzithemba kuyahamba? Ngakho-ke, ukuzihlonipha sekuwile. Uma ufuna ukubuyisela ubuhlobo nomfana, udinga ukuqala ngokuzethemba, ubuyele ekukhangeni kwangaphambili nokwethemba kwakho ezingeni langaphambilini noma ngaphezulu. Ukuze kubuyiselwe isikhalazo sangaphambili, umuntu kufanele azame ukukhohlwa umfana (ezingeni lokuqaphela, yebo), azikhulule emicabangweni emibi nangemizamo yangaphambili. Uma kungenjalo, bayakubhubhisa futhi bakwandise isimo esimweni manje.
Khona-ke udinga ukuqala ukucabangisisa ukuthi kungani futhi uyamthanda. Njengoba kwakukhona igebe, akuzona ngokuvamile ukuthi abafana banesifiso sokubuyela kulowo owayenguthandana. Udinga omunye, owayekwazi ukuziqonda yena, aqonde amaphutha akhe futhi afunde ukuwalawula. Ubani owazi kahle ukuthi yini nokuthi ungayinikela kanjani ukuze uthole injabulo yomuntu. Futhi kuyoba owesifazane ohluke ngokuphelele, futhi kufanele ube ngowakhe. Ukuze uzishintshe ngendlela efanele, kudingeka uhlale uthola imizwa emihle, lokhu kuzokukhulula ngokuphelele ekuthembekeni emaphutha angaphambilini bese uzama ukuqala enye, impilo entsha.
Esikhathini esidlule, umthombo omuhle wawuyiqiniso ukuthi isoka lakho, futhi manje kufanele kube khona okunye, kulula kakhulu futhi okungabizi. Umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu manje kuwe ukujabulela ukuphila kuzo zonke izibonakaliso zawo - ekudleni, izingubo, izimonyo, ukuzijabulisa, ukuphumula, okuye kwaphupha isikhathi eside. Ngokuvamile, kubalulekile ukugcwalisa impilo yakho ngenjabulo nokukhanya. Funda ukuthola injabulo kukho konke okukuzungezile, ugcwalise yonke imizuzu yosuku lwakho ngenjabulo. Konke lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uthuthukise ukuzethemba kwakho nokuheha. Uzoba umuntu ohluke ngokuphelele, okuvela kuwe kuzofika injabulo nokufudumala, uketshezi lwakho luyozwakala ngamadoda azungezile. Kuwe ngeke kukhonjwe.
Ngesinye sezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu futhi ezimnandi, uma usumatasa ngenjabulo yakho, ubudlelwane bakho bangaphambilini bungabuyela. Ngaleso sikhathi, kufanele uqonde ngokucacile ukuthi wena, intombazane entsha ehlakaniphile, udinga impilo yakho endala. Ngemikhankaso yangaphambilini efana nayo, akeke ibe yindawo yaseshashalazini yakho eyintandokazi, ihholo lezemidlalo noma ihholo lekhonsathi. Zilalele, uma ungakakulungeli ukubuyisa konke lokhu, kungcono ukukhohlwa kanyekanye, ukuze wakhe ubuhlobo obusha nemibutho emisha.