Uthando olungalindelekile: ukufuna izinzuzo esimweni esibucayi

Uthando olungavunyelwe luvame kakhulu. Abesifazane abaningi emhlabeni wonke bahlupheka ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuphindaphindiwe. Ekukhuleni, ngothando olungathandeki, kukhona, mhlawumbe, wonke umuntu. Lapho uneminyaka engamashumi amabili nalokhu kwenzeka ngezinye izikhathi futhi kubhekwa njengokungaboni kahle kunenkinga enkulu. Kodwa ukuvela kwalesi simo ngemuva kweminyaka engamashumi amabili nanhlanu kuyamangalisa. Abesifazane bale nkampani yobudala sebevele benolwazi oluthile ekusebenzelaneni namadoda, bayazi ukuthi hlobo luni olufanele kubo, nokuthi yikuphi okumele kugwenywe. Futhi nokho inhliziyo ngeke ilandele - intombazane ngezinye izikhathi iwela othandweni nomuntu ongaboni ngisho nokuqondisa kwakhe.
Izazi zengqondo zinezimbono eziningana lapho kwenzeka khona izimo ezinjalo:

1. Umuntu akakaze aqonde imfihlo yobuhlobo obuphumelelayo. Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zalokhu: ukuhlukumeza okuvela othandweni lwangaphambili, isihlukaniso sabazali, njll. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umphefumulo udinga uthando, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi - akukho mqondo wokuthi kufanele wakhiwe kanjani. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane uthola into engenakufinyeleleka, ongayiphupha ngayo futhi ungakheli ubuhlobo.
2. Ukwesaba umthwalo wemfanelo. Owesifazane uzama ukubalekela ebuhlotsheni, ngoba uyesaba umthwalo wemfanelo, okuzobe ulele emahlombe akhe ahlukumezekile.
3. Ukwesaba ukushiywa. Uma usubonile ubuhlungu bokuphula ubuhlobo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba owesifazane aphinde avule inhliziyo yakhe indoda.
4. Isifiso sokuba njengomunye umuntu. Abangane baxoxisana izindaba ezihlangene nokuphila kwabo okujabulisayo. Kuwesifazane onqatshelwe injabulo enjalo, ukuzakhela into engenakufinyeleleka - ithuba lokuziqhayisa ngokuphila kwakhe, okuyiqiniso ukuthi uyaphiliwe.

Kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okuthiwa ukungahambi kahle kwezimo. Indoda yamaphupho ayizange ibone okuhle kwakho kuwe. Kulesi simo, ungakhathazeki futhi ucabange lesi simo kuphela kusukela ekuboneni okungalungile. Ukucabanga kungokwakho, ngakho-ke kukho konke okudingekayo ukufuna izinhlangothi ezinhle.

Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izici ezinhle ezingaba uthando othandwayo :

• Ungakwazi ukuzwa imizwa ephakeme, futhi lokhu kuyinarha ezweni lanamuhla;
• Uthando olungavunyelwe luzokusiza ukuba ubone ukuthi ulindeleni ngempela othandweni;
• Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi uthando lwenza owesifazane "akhanyise". Injabulo ebusweni bakho izobona abanye abantu;
• Uthando luyisisusa esinamandla sokuzikhandla ngokomzimba nangokomoya. Ukuzikhandla komzimba kubandakanya umsebenzi emzimbeni, nokuthuthukiswa ngokomoya (izinkondlo zokubhala, ukupheka izitsha ezintsha okumnandi, njll);
• Okuhlangenwe nakho okubangelwa ukungabi khona kokuphindaphindiwe, kunomthelela ekulahlekeni kwesisindo esisheshayo;
• Ngaphambili, ngokushesha noma kamuva, ulinde umhlangano owodwa kuphela ongakwazi ukuhlala endaweni ebalulekile empilweni yakho.
• Kuhle ukuba uqaphele ukuthi othandekayo unempilo futhi ujabule, ngisho noma engekho ebuhlotsheni nawe;
• Inhloko yakho ayinayo imibono eqhubekayo mayelana nomthandekayo wakho, ngakho-ke kunesikhathi sokubhekana nombuzo wemisebenzi futhi ubonise indoda engenakufinyeleleka ukuthi yimuphi iphutha azenzile ngaphandle kokukuvumela;
• Asikho isidingo sokubheka izindlela zokulungisa izidingo kanye nezindwangu zomuntu othandekayo futhi uhlupheka kakhulu;
• Ungakwazi ukuya kuyo yonke imisebenzi oyifunayo futhi ungapheli imihlangano nabangani;
• Asikho isidingo sokuzikhawulela ukudlala ngothando nabantu. Lokhu kunethonya elihle kakhulu empilweni yabesifazane;
• Uma kunzima ukulala, ungakwazi njalo ukuphupha ngento yezinkanuko zakho, ikakhulukazi mayelana nokuthi ubuhlobo bakho obuhle buqala kanjani futhi buqale kanjani. Amaphupho asiza owesifazane ajabule ngokuthi yini empilweni yangempela cishe engenakwenzeka;
• Lesi simo sizokuvumela ukuthi ufunde ukuthanda ngaphandle kwesifiso sokuthola okuthile ngokubuyisela, kodwa ngoba nje umuntu omthandayo useduze;
• Mhlawumbe uthando olungenakuqhathaniswa lungakusiza ekushintsheni oluthile kumlingiswa nokuziphatha okuzozuzisa ubuhlobo besikhathi esizayo.