Igama lokudlala ngothando linezincazelo ezimbili. Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzithokozisa kuchazwa ngokuthi "ukuziphatha okudlalwayo okuhlose ukukhuthaza isithakazelo socansi." Esimweni sesibili "kufanele uziphathe ngothando ngaphandle kwezinhloso ezijulile zokubonisa isithakazelo esingenasisekelo noma esingavamile."
Ukudlala ngothando
Ukudlala ngothando kungaba ubuhlobo obungenacala phakathi kwabahlobo noma obajwayele. Ungadlala nomunye umuntu kuze kube yilapho umlingani wakho noma umyeni wakho ebona. Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lusho ukuthi ufihla okuthile kumlingani wakho.
Abanye abantu bathandana nomunye umuntu ngezikhathi ezithile. Kungaba ngothando lwezinkanyezi kanye nezinhloso ezingabheki ingozi futhi ungapheli umkhawulo wokuvunyelwa. Ukudlala ngothando ngaphandle kwezinhloso, kuphela ukwenza othile kumamatheka.
Amehlo ingenye yamathuluzi obaluleke kakhulu wokudlala ngothando. Amehlo ethu abhekwa njengendlela yokuthola ulwazi kanye nokudlulisela okunamandla kwempawu zomphakathi ezibalulekile.
Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zokudlala ngothando. Iningi labantu lithandana ngokungenangqondo nangendlela enobungane. Ukudlala ngothando ngenhloso yokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane kuthuthuka kakhulu futhi kunzima kakhulu ngokungafani nokudlala ngothando. Uma othile enesithakazelo kuwe, usebenzisa u-flirtation "ukuhlola umhlaba." Isenzo esengeziwe sokudlala ngothando sithinta impendulo yakho. Ungathinta ngobumnene isandla sakho, bese ugoqa ngokuthula. Ukulingana kolimi futhi umzimba ugxile kakhulu. Ukudlala ngothando kubheka impendulo enhle ukuze uqhubeke udlala ngothando, ngoba izimpendulo zakho zenza uzizwe uhle.
Ukudlala ngothando kuyamukeleka kakhulu emaphathini, ngamaholidi.
Ngisho noma ungafuni umlingani wesikhathi eside, uzojabulela ukudlala ngothando oluncane nomuntu onentshisekelo kuwe.
Ukudlala ngothando kuyinkundla yaseshashalazini lapho udlala indima ethile. Ukudlala ngothando kuncike ekutheni kube nokuthokoza okuncane nokungazinaki ngokumelene nabanye. Qinisekisa ukuthi awuzicabangi kakhulu.
Coquetry
Isihluthulelo esiyinhloko se-coquetry imilingo yenhleko nokumomotheka, ukumomotheka, ukumomotheka!
Cabanga ngemicabango edlalayo lapho ufuna ukudlala ngothando. Ukudlala ngothando nokuthakazelisa, njengokungathi udlala nabanye abantu.
Ukuxhumana nabesilisa, bonke abesifazane bayabelana ngothando ngothando.
Lezi zibonakaliso zivezwe ikakhulukazi kulawo madoda esibafisayo futhi sibakhanga. Amadoda athande ama-coconut.
I-coquetry iyisici esengeziwe samantombazane angashadile. Abesifazane abashadile, bahlaselwa emkhayeni womndeni, bavame ukukhombisa ukuziphatha kwama-coquettish.
Izazi zengqondo zibheka lokhu iphutha elikhulu. Emkhayeni womndeni, kufanele kube nesithakazelo, ukukhanya ebuhlotsheni, kanye nokwabelana komfazi kuzowengeza kuphela ubuhle nokuhlobana komunye nomunye. Phela, i-coquetry ngumdlalo wombukeli oyedwa, okumele idlalwe ngekhono.
Intombazane enezinwele, njengombuso, ihambele abantu abaningi abahlukumelayo. Usebenzisa izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuxoxa nokulinganisa ukuze abantu badonwe. Intombazane ithola okuthile okukhangayo kuye, ukwenza umngane wakhe amthande. Umgomo ukuheha nokuziqhenya ebuhlotsheni. Ukuqoqa, le ntombazane iziphatha ngokudlala futhi ingakwazi ukulinganisa kancane.
Ungadluli ngendlela yokuziphatha, kungenjalo kuyobukeka kuhle. Qaphela ukuthi akufanele ukhulume ngawe. Yithakazelisa, ubuze imibuzo ngaphandle kokuphazamisa i-interlocutor.
Abesifazane bavunyelwe ukudlala ngothando emakhaya, emcimbini, ezindaweni zokuzijabulisa. Jabulela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini. Uma ungumuntu ozolile futhi ojabule, uzokwenza umqondo omuhle.
Ngakho ake siphendule lo mbuzo, ngumuphi umehluko phakathi kokudlala ngothando nokudla?
Umehluko phakathi kokudlala ngothando nokuqhathanisa ukuthi i-coquetry isifiso sokuba nje nesithakazelo kuwe, njengokuziphatha kwakho noma ukubukeka, nokudlala ngothando. Kunombono wokuthi phakathi kokudlala ngothando nokwehlukana kukhona ukungqubuzana okuncane kulokho kudlala ngukuziphatha okungaziwa komzimba, futhi ukuqubuka kuyisigaba sokuqala sokuqala kocansi.
I-Coquetry ingaba ukuziphatha okuyinqaba, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuziphatha okuyiziwula.
Phakathi kokudla nokudlala ngothando, kukhona umehluko kulokho kokubili abesilisa nabesifazane bangabelana ngothando, futhi isigamu sowesifazane besintu sithandwa kakhulu ekuthandaneni.