Kulula ukusho - ukuthuthukisa ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kungenziwa kanjani? Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukufunda ukuqonda nokuhlukanisa imizwa nemizwelo yakho ukuze uzize ekulawuleni ukulwa. Ngeke sishintshe lokho esingasazi, hhayi ekuziphatheni okuzungezile abantu, noma emiphakathini yethu. Ngakho-ke, udinga ukufunda ukuthi unquma kanjani imizwa yakho, kanye nemithunzi yabo ngokunemba ngangokunokwenzeka. Ingabe uvame ukuzwa "okubi kakhulu"? Futhi ngokuqondile? Uzwakala ubuhlungu, ucindezelekile, bubi? Ukuthola igama elilungile akulula kakhulu. Isigaba esilandelayo - ukuthola izizathu zokuvakashela lokhu noma lowo mzwa, udinga ukuhlola isimo sakho sengqondo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, udinga ukwazi "amaphoyinti akho obuhlungu" futhi ungavumeli abanye ukuba babasebenzise.
Mina, mina kuphela futhi futhi.
Manje udinga ukuzithokozisa ngokwakho, nazo zonke izici, ungazitholi amalebula ahlukene. Ukuthuthukiswa kwe-EQ akukwazi ukucabanga ngaphandle kokuziqhenya. Okusho ukuthi, isifiso sokudalula amandla awo. Futhi kanjani? Kulula kakhulu: ngothando lwakho ngezifiso zakho nolwazi! Yenza inqubo yokuziqhenya, ukuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo, nokuxazulula izingxabano kanje. Cabanga futhi ubhale phansi ngezindlela ezintathu ongenza isikhathi sakho kube lula ekutadisheni, emndenini, kubangani, kwedwa, kulula, okuthakazelisayo noma ewusizo. Bese uhlola ukuthi ngamunye wabo uzodinga imali, amandla, isikhathi. Futhi ukhethe okungenani indlela eyodwa kusuka eqenjini ngalinye. Nge-tozaklyuchaetsya eqinisweni ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa kuphela kuzosiza ekunqumeni ngokufanele ukuziphatha kwayo kwesikhathi esizayo.
Ngiyayithanda!
Uzwela alugcini nje ngobugovu, kodwa futhi likwazi ukusho ukuncoma. Akudingeki uvumelane ngokuphelele nomunye umuntu futhi ugweme impikiswano. Eqinisweni, ukuzwelana yikhono lokuveza ukuqonda komuntu ngokomzwelo noma umbono we-interlocutor ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ukucabanga ngokungabi namlandu. Ukulalela kulula kakhulu kunokukhuluma - ngakho ungaqala ngalokhu.
Ukulalela kwe-Empathic kuthatha ukuthi ngeke nje uthule ikhanda lakho ngokuthula, kodwa futhi ubuze imibuzo ephakamisayo ezobonisa ukuthi awukhathaleli. Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa zokuqinisekisa umuntu ukuthi unesithakazelo ekukhulumisaneni:
- ungacabangi ngezwi lakho. I-"monologue yangaphakathi" eyakho ikuvimbela ekuboneni isikhulumi.
- Ungaguquli isihloko senkulumo.
- Ungathuli - lokhu kudala ukungezwani. Okungenani ngitshele ubuso bokuthi "ulapha" - futhi awunandaba.
UKsenia Ivanova , ikakhulukazi indawo