Umcabango ozimele kakhulu uhlale uhlobene nomkhuba wethu ngomqondo, igama eliqukethe ulwazi oluthile. Inqubo yomqondo isakhiwo iqala ngeminyaka yasenkulisa kanye nesiteji salokhu kulungiselelwe kusukela ebuntwaneni. Ukukhiqiza okuhlangenwe nakho nokuboniswa kwayo egameni kwenzeka kancane kancane kwengane.
Ngokwezintatheli zanamuhla, ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengane eminyakeni yokuqala neyasenkulisa kuyadlula ngezigaba ezintathu: okubonakalayo-okusebenzayo, okuphawulekayo kwezingane zokuqala, eziyisibili nesithathu zokuphila; ukucabanga okubonakalayo-okufanisayo, futhi, kamuva, ukucabanga komqondo.
Ukucabangela okubonakalayo - lapho ingane ibona yonke ingqondo isenzo. Isibonelo, ingane encane yeminyaka emibili ibona ithoyizi, isibonelo, emi phezulu eshalofini. Ukuze ususe ithoyizi, ingane ithatha isitulo isisuse. Ukucabanga okubonakalayo-okusebenzayo kuhilela ukuxazulula izinkinga ezingokoqobo. Lona umsebenzi omncane wengane. Esikhathini esingenhla, ingane endala izokwenza okufanayo, kodwa ngokuhlakanipha kakhulu. Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi isinqumo esibukwayo-esiwusizo sithatha amanye amafomu ngobudala, kodwa asinyamalale nhlobo. Ingane yengane yasenkulisa ingakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zokuphila ngokusekelwe kolwazi lwakhe, nokuqaphela imiphumela yezenzo zakhe. Ngakho-ke ingane iyaqhubeka nokuthuthukiswa kwayo.
Naphezu kokuthi sibona ezinye izigaba ekuthuthukiseni ukucabanga kwengane, kusengenqubo eyodwa eqhubekayo. Futhi ngokubheka ukucabanga komntwana okubukeka kahle, sinomthelela ekwakhiweni kwenkulumo nokucabanga komqondo.
Isimo sokuthuthukiswa kokucabanga okubonakalayo-okusebenzayo ukukhulumisana ngokomzwelo nabantu abadala abakuzungezile.
Ukuthuthukiswa kokucabanga kwengane esemncane kwenzeka emidlalweni, ekukhulumisaneni nasezenzweni zemfundo. Ukucabanga ngengane encane kuhlale kuhlobene nokuthola ithuba lokufeza umgomo. Isibonelo, ingane ezinyangeni ezingu-5-6 ezingahlosile ihamba nge-diaper, kancane kancane ithoyizi ingekho eduze komntwana. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa, ingane izodonsa ngenhloso ngenhla, ukuze uthole lokho akufunayo.
Uma ingane ineminyaka engu-6-7 ubudala, ukuze ingane ikwazi ukufinyeleleka, ungayifaka ithempulethi. Umntwana ngokwakhe uzoqala ukudonsa amathoyizi ngemuva kwetape emva kwemizamo eminingana. Ungaphinda usebenzise lokhu izikhathi eziningana, uguqule ithoyizi ukuze ingane ithakazelise kakhulu. Ngenkathi ingane isukuma futhi ihamba, omunye umdlalo uzothakazelisa. Ngokuvamile izingane kule minyaka zithanda ukuphonsa amathoyizi phansi bese zibuka ziwa futhi kwenzekani kubo. Ungakwazi ukubopha ithoyizi ekugcineni komugqa noma i-gum, okuthandwa yizinyane, futhi unamathisele enye ekugcineni ebhodini lezemidlalo noma isikhala. Ngakho-ke, ingane izokwazi ukudonsa ithoyizi elilahliwe emuva esikhwameni bese iphinda isenzo ngokuphonswa. I-ribbon kule ndaba yenzelwe ingane indlela yokufeza umgomo.
Kusukela ezinyangeni eziyi-10 ubudala, amakilasi akhethekile angenziwa ngezingane. Hlala ingane enesihlalo somntwana bese ubeka ithoyizi phambi kwakhe ukuze angakwazi ukufinyelela. Ingane, cishe, izoyifinyelela yona, ngeke ifike futhi ikubuke ngokubuza. Bese ubopha idibhoni elinemibala esitokisini bese uyibeka phambi komntwana. Ingane iyodonsa ngokushesha le tape bese idonsa ithoyizi kuye. Phinda lo msebenzi izikhathi eziningana, uguqule amathoyizi nemibala yebhebhoni. Lapho ingane ixazulula izinkinga ezinjalo, ungaba nzima ukwenza umdlalo. Beka ithoyizi emgodini, bese ufaka i-ribbon enemibala egumbini legug bese ufaka zombili izibhebhe ze-tape phambi komntwana. Ukuze uthole inkomishi ngethoyi, ingane izodinga ukudonsa kuzo zombili iziphetho ze-tape yokuhambisa. Ingane ezinyangeni ezingu-11-12 izokuxazulula kalula le nkinga. Kodwa-ke, uma ingane izoba nzima, mbonise ukuthi yini okufanele ukwenze futhi ingane izokuphinda ibuyele ngenjabulo.
Into esemqoka kule misebenzi ukuthi i-kid isebenzisa i-ribbon (i-diaper, intambo, ukusibekela) njengendlela yokufeza imigomo yakhe. Ngomntwana lokhu kuyisiko sokuqala sokucabanga. Okuhlangenwe nakho okwenziwa yingane kusukela ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila, ukuxazulula imisebenzi enjalo elula, kunomthelela ekuthuthukiseni kwengqondo.
Ingane engakwazi ukuhamba kufanele ixazulule njalo izinkinga ezisebenzayo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akunakwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuxazulula izinkinga ezifanayo ngosizo lwezinto ezithile (izibhande, ama-blades, njll). Lapho ithoyizi ikhona ngakolunye uhlangothi lwetafula, ingane ingase ivele kalula futhi ithathe ithoyizi. Kunzima, kulokhu, kuye umsebenzi - ukwakha i-labyrinth yezihlalo, makuthole indlela eya entweni oyifunayo.
Inqubo yokuxhumana phakathi kwengane nomuntu omdala, ukuziphatha okukhethekile kukhula. Isibonelo, ingane ibona ukuthi into efunayo ikhona, kepha ngenxa yesizathu esithile ayikwazi ukuyithatha. Kulesi simo, ngokuvamile, ingane izobukela umuntu omdala, ifinyelele entweni oyifunayo bese yenza imisindo ngokuncenga. Izingane ezindala zizokuthi "zinike".
Ingane abazali abangathintana nabo abakwazi ukubhekana kahle nesicelo kubantu abadala futhi bahlele ukuziphatha kwabo. Ikhono lokuxazulula izinkinga ezinganeni lenziwe hhayi ezenzweni kuphela, kodwa nasekukhulumisaneni. Uma kungenxa yesisombululo sezinkinga zendaba okubalulekile kuyadingeka ukusebenzisa into njengokufezekisa imigomo yayo, ngakho ekukhulumisaneni njengenhloso, indlela ethile yokuziphatha isetshenziswa.
Kuphela ezimweni zokuxhumana njalo nabantu abadala, ingane ifunda izindlela zokwenza izinto nezinkambiso zokuziphatha. Abazali banikeza ingane izindlela zokuxhumana nezinto, ukudala izimo zokufunda okuhlangenwe nakho kwengane, ukuthuthukisa ukucabanga kwakhe. Inendima ebalulekile ekuthuthukiseni ukucabanga kwengane idlaliswa ukuqondisa kwengqondo yomsebenzi wakhe, ukuqoqwa kolwazi oluwusizo oluthola kulo mdlalo ngezinto kanye namathoyizi. Ukuqoqwa kokuhlangenwe nakho nokukhiqiza kwayo ngezenzo ezehlukene ngezinto, izindlela zokuxhumana nabantu, futhi kunomthelela ekwenzeni ukuguqulwa kokucabanga kusuka ekubukeni-okusebenzayo, okwenzelwe ingane esemncane, ngendlela ebonakalayo-engokomfanekiso nangokwengqondo - esenkulisa kanye nobudala besikole.