Ibhethri enzima yindoda enamandla efunda ngomshado nazo zonke izinhlobo zezinye izindaba zomndeni emsebenzini kusuka osebenza nabo lapho beqoqa imali yesinye isipho somshado. Uyakwazi ukulungisa isaladi nokupheka isobho, futhi ngokusho kwalokhu uzibheka njengokwanele. Umfundi ulinganisa amantombazane ebhola, ukudoba, ezemidlalo, hhayi kuphela amagama athi "umthwalo wemfanelo", "umsebenzi" kanye "nemizwa."
Kwabanye, "bachelorhood" yisimo sengqondo. Ungumpisi oyedwa. Kuwukuphela kwayo. Ukuphila kwami, isikhala sami sokuphila, izinhlelo zami, inkululeko yami ... Uhlu luqhubeka nokuqhubeka.
Uma sikhuluma ngama-bachelors, angahlukaniswa ngezigaba eziningana zezimo:
1. Abesilisa abangakaze bashade (futhi akuxhomeki eminyakeni yobudala), abazi ukuthi kuyini, kodwa ngokuqinisekile bashaya emlonyeni, bathi umshado uyinto ebaluleke kunayo yonke engenzeka empilweni. Baphikelela ekugwemeni ubudlelwane obungathí sina nakakhulu. Mhlawumbe imbangela yokudumazeka kudala?
2. Amadoda awake "azwa". Ngomshado ngandlela-thile ayizange isebenze, futhi manje besaba ubudlelwane bomndeni, njengomlilo, i-venozabolevaniyam noma ukungabi namandla. Umyeni onjalo wangaphambili uhlala eqiniseka ukuthi umshado awuyena yena. Ngezinye izikhathi - kuze kube sekupheleni kokuphila.
3. Amadoda - abacwaningi abahlola ukuthi kukhona impilo emva komshado, ngesipiliyoni. Bashada, bahlukanise, benze iziphetho. Shada, uhlukanise, wenze iziphetho. Futhi kanjalo ngokungapheli ngokuvumelana nesimiso esifanayo ...
Esikhathini sethu, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukwengeza isigaba esisodwa - indodana yendodana. Thatha konke okuyizinengiso kakhulu kulabo abashiwo kakade (ukwesaba ubuhlobo, ukungabi nandaba), sizosebenza kulo Mama bese sithola indoda esabekayo ukuthi angashade ukuze ivakashele futhi iyesabeka.
Ngisho nama-bachelors angahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili alandelayo: yemvelo kanye ... engekho owehla.
Owokuqala yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi "ubhedu bemvelo". Banezinene ngokwanele kangangokuthi abadingi umbhangqwana. Bangakwazi, bashada, kodwa besahlala "bekhululekile" emphefumulweni bese behola indlela ehlangabezana nezidingo zabo: abangani, ubhiya, ukugeza, ezemidlalo, izindlovu kanye nokuthandana kwenhliziyo.
Ezinye iziqu zokuphila empilweni zikhona nje ngenxa yokwaneliseka kwazo, lapho izinkimbinkimbi kanye nokuzithoba kungavumeli ukuba kutholakale futhi, ukuthola umngane wakho, uphume kulowo lonesizungu. Kubo, akusekho umthombo wezifiso, kodwa indlela yokuphila.
Kodwa-ke, akunakwenzeka - futhi akudingekile - ukukhipha wonke u-Adam wanamuhla ngaphansi kwekhekhe elilodwa.
Noma kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungani izwe libheke, abathinteli bayama-egoists onzima, "izimpisi ezodwa" ezizisa inkululeko yazo kakhulu.
"Bafuna" owesifazane ophelele kunazo zonke ozoba ikhophi yabo. Okhethiwe kufanele athande ukudla okufanayo, ahlanganyele nezenzo zakhe zokuzilibazisa, ucabange - nendlela ayenayo. Ngakho-ke, ngisho noma umqashi ekhetha ukudala umndeni, akakwazi ukwamukela noma yimuphi owesifazane. Njalo lapho ecabanga: "Futhi lo wesifazane ngizochitha impilo yami yonke?"
Isizungu asisabeki kuye. Ukuthula endlini kungahlanjululwa ngama-disk akho ozithandayo, isidlo sasekuseni - ukuzijabulisa ne-TV, kanye nocansi ... Ayikho into ongayisho.
Ngokuvamile, isilwane esinezilwane esithambile siyimali evela ezithakazelweni zakhe, izimiso, uthando lwenkululeko yakhe kanye ... insizwa yesigamu somuntu wesifazane.
Ungamqeda kanjani le ndoda enenkani?
Isiqondiso sabazingeli be-bachelor
Isimiso sokuqala sokuzingela ngempumelelo kunhloso eqinile futhi enamahloni qaphela. Akukho ukunyakaza okungazelelwe, njengezingxoxo ezihlokweni zezingane, umshado, uthando, imisebenzi. Gwema imibuzo engadingekile futhi, makungavumeli, ukuphenywa. Isibonelo, ukuthola ukuthi ungubani nokuthi ungubani. Lezi ziyisixwayiso ezingasabisa noma iyiphi umdlalo. Into esemqoka ukuhlonipha ukuzimela nokubusa.
Ungalindeli, uhlezi ucingo lobizo lwaKhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo ungasebenzisa ngokwengeziwe inzuzo: ukwenza i-manicure, ukuya eklabhu yezempilo, ukuhlangana nabangani nokujabulela ukuphila.
Uma ebiza, ungajabula, ujabulele ukuvumelana nomhlangano. Futhi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akazange akhohlwe lo mhlangano isikhathi eside.
Ngendlela, ungakhohlwa: kumele ube yi-Ideal. Ukumqonda kusukela emaceleni-magama, ukwabelana nakho konke okuzilibazisa kanye nemibono (abaphazamisi ukufunda ngaphambi kwesikhathi), kunoma yisiphi isimo sihlala sihlelekile kahle, sikhangayo, sinentshisekelo futhi sihluke ngokuphelele. Ngakho ukuze ungakhathazeki.
Lokhu kunzima kakhulu, ngakho cabanga ukuthi lo muntu ufanele yini imizamo enjalo. Uma konke okufanayo kuyazuzisa - siqhubeka phambili.
Ungaguquki. Nganoma yiliphi izinga lokuzimela, amadoda asadinga amasokisi ahlanzekile nokudla okumnandi. Ekuqaleni, kungase kuphakame ubunzima-ukuhlasela isikhala kungabangela ukusabela okubi. Kodwa kunzima yini ukukwenza? Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, uzokhohlwa ukuthi ukhona ngaphandle kwakho. Ngaphandle kwenduduzo yakhe, ngenxa yalokho umcwaningi uzokhohlwa inkululeko enenzondo ... Jabulela, manje kungokwakho!
Ngendlela, ungafunda ukuthi ungathinta kanjani futhi ufunde ngezigaba. Lapha, isibonelo, "Ukuklanywa Kwesikhwama" noCelentano noma "Uthando Ngentambama" ne-Audrey Hepburn engalingani. "Eugene Onegin", ekugcineni! Konke lokhu kusebenza kubonisa ukuthi akunzima ukuhlukumeza u-bachelor.