Ngokumane nje ukuthola abangane abathembekile, kunzima kakhulu ukulondoloza ubudlelwano obude nobufudumele nabo. Ngaphandle kwakho konke lokhu kusebenza ngempela. Ngokuvamile senza ubudlelwane obuseduze ebuntwaneni nasekukhuleni, kuyilapho sisalokhu sinamahloni futhi silungele ubungane sonke ngenkathi sivulekile ngokuphelele. Sakhetha abangane ngendlela efanayo, kulandela ukuhlaselwa kwezingane.
Njengoba sikhulile futhi singabhekene nokubhekwa kwabantu abaseduze nathi, sisondela ekukhethweni kwabangane ngokucophelela. Okokuqala futhi okuyinhloko, kusisindisa ukubuyisana, kodwa futhi kusenza sibe nesizungu. Kungenzeka kube nabangane abaningi noma abangani bamazinga ahlukene okuthembeka ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi ngesizathu esithile asikwazi ukuzethemba ngokuphelele. Futhi sazi kanjani ukuthi ubuhlobo bobudlelwane nabangani bungakanani?
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi sonke siphumelele, ngokushesha intombi yakho ingenza into ongayilindeli nhlobo.
Ziqaphele izinga lokuthembeka elikwamukelekayo phakathi kwakho. Ungalindela ukuthi intombi yakho ingayitsheli indaba yakho, yini oyinike yona? Angeke yini akuhawukele, esezwile impumelelo ye-ovashih?
Uma lokhu kungesabi, ke ungathukutheli uma izimfihlo zakho zaziwa kuwo wonke umuntu, noma ngokungazelelwe kubanda futhi kuhlukaniswe ngokuphathelene ne-kvam. Kungenzeka ukuthi uma uthembela umngane wakho ngengozi yakho, uzobizwa ukuthi akusize, kodwa kungenzeka nokuthi lolu sizo luzokuholela emiphumeleni engadingekile.
Yini engadingekile kunoma yikuphi ukuhlanganyela nge-spodrugoy?
Sizoqokomisa izihloko eziningana eziyingozi, okungaqondile lapho kungaba khona isikhubekiso phakathi kwakho nentombi yakho.
Umndeni wakho noma umshado
Ama-Etimes akufanele afinyeleleke, ngoba asebenza kuphela kuwe nabathandekayo bakho, ikakhulukazi uma kunezinkinga. Ngisho noma konke kukhulu, ungaziqhayisani nentombi yakho ngezipho nobuhlobo, izingane kanye nokuthenga, uma umngane wakho engenalo okwamanje. Udinga ukubonisa isihe futhi uzwela, ukukusindisa emsweni.
Uma izimfanelo zakho zomuntu zizwela futhi zibukhali, wena ngokwakho awufuni ukutshela ngakho, ukucasula umngane wakho oseduze. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi angathandi futhi angathokozi ukunqoba kwakho, ukwehluleka kwakhe kungase kube kakhulu ngokumelene nempumelelo yakho. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuvimbela injabulo futhi kufanele uyihlanganyele nentombi yakho - yiba nesizotha futhi uvinjelwe.
Kukhona uhlobo lwabesifazane abathanda ukuxoxa nezintombi zendoda yakhe izinsipho nokubuthakathaka, ukwehluleka kwakhe. Kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi akufanele ukudalula umndeni wakho emndenini, ngeke ukwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho. Ukuqaphelisa ukwehluleka kwabo, kungase kuzuze isihawu esinamandla, kodwa ngokuqinisekile uyazibiza wena nomndeni.
Nganginentombi, wayehlale ekhuluma ngomyeni wakhe kuphela, kodwa wayazi ukuthi wayekhohlisa kuye, ekhuluma ngokuzungezile. Sonke sazibuza futhi senza isenzo kuphela. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi sivela emadodeni ethu amahle, futhi wakwazi ukukhulisa kumyeni wakhe we-neputevogo indoda enhle yomndeni kanye nenkosikazi. Wafinyelela lokhu ngokukholelwa kuye kakhulu futhi njalo wakhuthazwa ngamazwi anomusa. Ungayifaka ngaleyondlela-uyihlele ukuze uthole ukukhula okuzayo nokukhula komuntu siqu.
Ngokuqondene nobulili
Isimiso sokuxoxisana, konke kufanele kuhlale phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho. Uma uqhubeka ukuxoxa nentombi yakho imininingwane yobuseduze bakho, kungenzeka ukuthi umngane wakho uzomemezela izingxoxo zakho ngalokhu noma ngabe uzokuthinta ngokuphila, ngokujwayelekile, uzosebenzisa ulwazi ukuze kuzuze yena.
Isihloko somsebenzi nebhizinisi
Isitha esingahle kunazo zonke sobungane siphumelele. Kunoma yikuphi, uzofuna ukwabelana ngempumelelo yakho yomsebenzi noma uthole iseluleko esihle kumngane wakho. Ushintshana amacebo, imibono, bese kuvela ukuthi ayisebenzi. Umcabango wokuqala ozofika engqondweni yakho ukuthi intombi yakho iqhubekile, kodwa lokhu akuyona iqiniso ngokuphelele. Kulesi simo, umlandu awuyona neze umngane, kodwa ubuchopho obonakala, abuhlukanisi uhlelo kanye nesenzo esenziwe. Sidinga ukuziqhenya kuphela empumelelweni yomunye umuntu engaphumeleli futhi ubuchopho bethu buvele buwufanele njengeqiniso okwenzekile futhi akusinike ithuba lokubeka umzamo omkhulu ekufinyeleleni okufunayo.
Ukuze ufeze umphumela oyifunayo, awudingi ukusola intombi yakho ngokumona ukuthi angeke akunikeze usizo oludingekayo ngesikhathi esifanele, nje ungahlanganyeli izinhlelo zakho nanoma ubani, noma nomngani, noma kunoma ubani omunye.
Uma uphumelela kakhulu kunezintombi zakho, ungamsoli ngobuvila nokuphuza, ziqhayise ngokuphumelela kwakho ukugqamisa ukuphakama kwakho, kumane kumsize, ukugqugquzela ukuphumelela kwemiphumela emsebenzini wakho. Uma intombi yakho iwubucayi noma ingazithembi, uzama ukumxosha, imkhiphe ngaphandle, ithole amathalenta kuye futhi ugcizelele, ukhumbule amakhono akhe namakhono akhe okuzokwenza ukuba anqobe ukunqoba.
Jabulela ohlangothini lwakhe ngokunqoba nokuphumelela kwakhe. Ekuqaleni, ungakwazi ngisho nokuphishekela impumelelo yayo, ukuze kuphinde kuphefumulelwe yimpumelelo emisha. Ngeke nje kukubonge, ubungane bakho buzoguqulwa zibe ngumdlalo futhi ubungane buyoqina. Khona-ke ungakwazi, ngaphandle kokuba uqaphele, wabelane ngazo zonke impumelelo nempumelelo, futhi ngeke usabe esaba ukwesaba kwakhe noma wesaba ukuthi uzokukhathalela.