Ukungavumelani ebuhlotsheni kungukuthi ukulinganiswa kothando lomuntu nokwethu kuhlangene, kunendawo yokuthembela kokubili, ukwethembeka okungekho emthethweni futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ebuhlotsheni kungenye yemizwa engathandeki kakhulu, kodwa, nakuba kuzwakala kahle, iyinjini yentuthuko yothando, ukuthuthukiswa kwemizwa eqinile nobuhlobo obuseduze komunye nomunye. Ukuqonda kwalokhu kuvuselelwe umndeni owodwa, uthando phakathi kokuphila okulinganiselwe, umkhuba nokukhohlisa ukuthi "akunakwenzeka." Ngokuvamile lokhu kuyisono samadoda abaye bazuza ngokwabo ebuhlotsheni - ukusondelana, ukusebenzisana noma isitembu emapasipoti. Kodwa kungenzeka yini ukuhoxisa imithwalo yemfanelo, isabela esimweni esesimweni esithintekayo - "bonke abantu bangabo ...", iminyaka echitha ndawonye ingabhubhisa imizwa ephakeme, njll njll? Cha! Ungaqapheli! Gcina njalo indoda ngezwi, ngezikhathi ezithile ukumphoqa ukuba azizwe ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa wena!
- Imfihlakalo, ehlanganiswe nenhlamba. Ungalokothi, ungalokothi ube yindoda evulekile encwadini elandelwayo! Lokhu kuyinto yokuqala ebulala uthando kanye nobuhle ebuhlotsheni. Wathandana, ngenkathi, evula wonke amakhasi amasha kuwe, wathola lapho imfumbe futhi ingaphansi. Ufuna ukunqoba, ukufeza, ukuhlola nokumangala. Ukukhathazeka nokubhubhisa isimiso ebuhlotsheni, okwenza ngokuphambene nalokho okulindelekile. Qhathanisa "ama-cute strangeness" akho nezici zakho, lapho indoda ejwayele khona, njengokuthi iqiniso elingenakuphikwa. Lokhu kungaba isimo, ukuqala ngokushintsha okungazelelwe nokungaqondakali emfanekisweni ezembatho noma ezinwele, kwisinqumo esikhulu sokuhlala ngokwehlukana okwesikhashana. I-degree of mystery nemfihlakalo oyinqumayo. Kodwa, okubaluleke kakhulu, ungagodli kakhulu ukukhathazeka ukuze indoda isabe ukulahlekelwa yikho, hhayi isifiso sokubalekela kowesifazane wesimanga.
- Ubuhle buyolondoloza uthando. Abesifazane abaningi, beqinisa ubudlelwane babo nendoda, futhi bayeke ukuqapha ukubonakala kwabo, njengoba benza ngesikhathi sokudla. Musa ukululaza! Kusoze nganoma yini! Vumela kunoma yiziphi izimo zokuphila ngawe kuyoba yisimiso esingenakuphikwa ukuba uhlale ulungele kahle futhi uhle. Hlala uhlala ngokuma! Kodwa zama ukungena emidlalweni noma wenze izinqubo zokuzithokozisa ezingekho emkhakheni wokubuka kwendoda yakho. Thumela kubangani, kumama, ukudoba, futhi wena ngokwakho ulethe ubuhle. Myeke, kuze kube phakade, inqubo yokuguqula owesifazane abe indlovukazi, ubuhle azoziqhenya ngayo futhi aziqhayise kubangane bakhe, ihlala imfihlakalo. Ukuze ungakhulumi lapho, ngaphezu kwakho konke, amadoda anjengamehlo, futhi kuphela ngezinye izinzwa. Yiqiniso, ukuba ngumzimba omuhle akukona isiqinisekiso sokuthi indoda izohlala nawe kuze kube phakade. Amadoda athandekayo abathandekayo abathanda futhi abathokozisa. Hlanganisa ubuhle bakho, ukuze othandekayo wakho wesabe ukulahlekelwa ukuphelela okunjalo.
- Umngani umqondo wamadoda. Ungafuni ukuba ngumuntu umngane! Ukusekela, ukusekela, ithemba - yebo, kodwa ungalokothi umngane! Ubuhlobo nomuntu bulala owesifazane owesifazane. Umngane angabaleka imali, aphuze ubhiya ngezindleko zakhe, athulule umphefumulo wakhe, unganqikazi ukusebenzisa ukuhlambalaza kwakhe, awukwazi ukugcoba, ungabi nesibindi, uqine futhi uvinjelwe. Udinga indoda enjalo? Cha! Ingabe udinga umngane wesifazane? Kungenzeka ukuthi, futhi. Uzothola ukuthi ubani ozokwenza nabangani, futhi kuphi lapho ebona lo msebenzi obalulekile. Uzoba umngane wakhe, uzohamba afune owesifazane. Kodwa awuzukufeza lokhu. Futhi wenze kabusha injongo. Umsebenzi wakho ukukwenza abe nomuzwa wokuthi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kanye nesifiso sokuba ngumuntu onjalo, osondelene naye ozozizwa ethandekayo, obuthakathaka, othandekayo, owesifazane othakazelisayo nothandekayo. Ngakho-ke, njalo futhi ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo uhlala ungowesifazane futhi uthatha ilungelo labo elingokomthetho ukuba ungabi umuntu komunye.
- I hero leveli yakho. Vumela indoda yakho njalo eceleni kwakho izwe njengeqhawe, i-superman kanye nomuntu onenhlamvu enkulu. Amadoda ahlelwe kanjalo kangangokuthi awakwazi ngaphandle kokukwenza. Kumele balwe egazini labo - ngokuba ucezu oluhle kakhulu lwe "mammoth", ensimini engcono kakhulu, yowesifazane ongcono. Masibe ngumlindi-onqobayo. Futhi noma ngabe "impi" ephethe i-crane, ephethe izikhwama ezinzima noma ngamazinyo okusika nokushisa ebusuku komntwana wakho, ungayithathi kalula noma umsebenzi wakhe. Ungakhathali ukubonga, ukudumisa, ukuncoma ngamakhono akhe, amakhono namakhono, ngisho noma engekho evelele kakhulu. Kuyakhuthaza kakhulu ezenzweni kanye nesifiso sokwenza njalo. Uma umuntu ebona ukuqaphela amandla akhe, isibindi, isibindi, ukuhlakanipha, uzoyesaba ukulahlekelwa owesifazane ogama lakhe elinguqhawe futhi oyinqobe.
- Ukuthembela okududuzayo. Noma yimuphi ubuhlobo kusekelwe othandweni noma uthando. Okunamathiselwe kubangela ukuthembela, hhayi kuphela impahla, okuyinto abesifazane ngokuvamile badinga. Amadoda nawo ancike kakhulu kubesifazane kanye nobudlova bekhaya abakhayo, ukudla okunomsoco, ukunakekelwa, uthando kanye nezinye "amahange", ahlanganiswe kakhulu futhi ahlanganiswe. Zama ngaphansi kokubheka "okubonakalayo" izikhathi ezimbalwa ukushiya indoda yakho ngaphandle kwasekuseni okuvamile, noma "ukhohlwa" ukushaya isondo (futhi, ngaphansi kwesifiso esibalulekile). Indoda, njengoba ithi, kufanele izwe umehluko, inqatshelwe ukunakekelwa okuvamile noma injabulo. Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, yikhiphe, ngezikhathi ezithile izifiso eziphathekayo. Kodwa ungenzi njalo kaningi, ngaphandle kwalokho izinjabulo ezinjalo ziyoba isimiso. Dala ukuthembela komuntu ngamunye okulungile, okungekho umuntu ongakwazi ukuwenqaba.
- Isidingo samandla wesifazane. Ungasindiswa kumuntu, ungamenze ube nencazelo yokuphila kwakho. Yebo, ekuqaleni ukuziphatha okunjalo ukukhathazeka owesilisa ukuqhosha, kuthinta, kuphakamisa ukuzihlonipha, kodwa kuba yisithukuthezi, umkhuba ukuthi kuyohlale njalo. Ngempela, indoda ayifuni ukwenza lutho, ungakhathazeki futhi ulahlekelwe. Kuyinto yakho, ngakho-ke kufanele wesabe ukulahlekelwa yikho. Futhi wesaba, ngephutha ukholelwa ukuthi udinga ukukhululeka ngokwengeziwe. Khohlwa! Ekuphileni kwakho, kusho okunye okushoyo! Zizinakekele, yiba nesidingo, uthuthuke futhi uthuthuke! Kodwa hhayi kumuntu, kodwa wena! Khona-ke le ndoda ayikwazi ukuziphika ubuthakathaka bokuba nenani eliningi lokuzimela, nolwazi olusemqoka wesifazane. Zizungeze ngokulingana komuntu, okwenza ukuba indoda yakho ibe nomhawu ngezinye izikhathi, ukhathazeke ngokuthi ungamyeka ukumthanda. Khona-ke ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kwakho kuqinisekisiwe!