Yini evimbela abesifazane ukuthi bangabambisani nabesilisa

Kungenzeka ukuthi, ezingeni elingenakuqondisisa, ngamunye wethu uyaqonda ukuthi owesifazane uyazivimbela ekusebenzelaneni nendoda. Kodwa-ke sihlelwe ukuthi asifuni ukuphawula okusobala nakuzo zonke izinhluleka esizama ukusola ngazo umuntu, kodwa hhayi thina ngokwethu.

Abanye bangasho ngokushesha ukuthi bathi, luhlobo luni lothando ngokwakho - wonke amandla anikwe umndeni nomyeni wakhe. Kulokuphikisana ngitshele ukuthi owesifazane othanda umyeni wakhe akaze azikhohlwe ngaye - emva kwakho konke, ukubukeka kwakhe kufanele kube njalo okuthakazelisayo futhi okuthakazelisayo, ukujabulisa abathandekayo, ukumdumisa nokunikeza isizathu sokuziqhenya. Yebo, uma ungamthandi umyeni wakho, awunandaba nokuthi ubukeka kanjani. Ukuba "yisisulu sezimo" kulula njalo kunokuba ube phezulu. Ngakho-ke, akukaziwa ukuthi ubani ozithandayo ngokwengeziwe: lowo ohlala njalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini, usebenza yena ngokwakhe nokubonakala kwakhe, noma ubani ohlonipha ubuvila bakhe, ebhekisela ekukhathaleleni umndeni. Ngakho, "umhlatshelo" uvimbela njalo ubudlelwano namadoda. Indoda ijwayele ukuwina, umfazi - isisulu noma isisulu somngane uyamkhathaza.

Abesifazane ebuhlotsheni nabesilisa, ngokusho kukaTracy Cabot, isazi sezengqondo saseMelika, nabo banqatshelwe ukulindela okungenangqondo. Abesifazane kusukela iphupho lokubantwana lesikhulu. Baqala ukuzikhethela ikusasa labo elikhethiweyo, izimfanelo kuye izici ezithile zezinhlamvu, izinga lemasiko nokukhulisiswa nezinye izimfanelo zomuntu siqu, kanye namakhono athile emisebenzi, impumelelo yezemidlalo, ukuhlakanipha - konke abacabanga ukuthi indoda yangempela kufanele ibe nayo. Kodwa "isethi yomngane" wangempela iyenzeka njalo, uma kungenjalo ekuphakameni, iphikisana nomuntu owenziwe "owesifazane". Uma umbhangqwana usemhlanganweni e-cafe, uhamba ngaphansi kwenyanga, futhi uma umuntu eheha owesifazane ngendlela encane, khona-ke uzama ukuzama ukumenza. Ububanzi bokungaphumeleli buqala ngokuzumayo ukuvela nokwandisa ngesikhathi sokuhlangana. Ubudlelwane buya phansi, bese-ke engqondeni engaziwa, uthando luyanyamalala. Futhi ubani okufanele abekwe icala, ndoda? Awuhlangabezani nokulindela kwakho? Mhlawumbe bekufanelekile ukulalela umbono womama, udadewabo, intombi - bazi kangcono futhi bayakwazi ukuhlola ukuthi uhlangene kanjani. Abantu abakuzungeze amehlo abantu mayelana nomakhethi wakho akuzona "zamyleny, futhi ngokuphambene nalokho - ngokucophelela kakhulu. Ngamanye amazwi, ungalindeli ukuthi indoda yakho izobe iphelele. Futhi ungalindeli ukuthi uzokwenza. Akuwona wonke umuntu, noma ngabe uyakuthanda kakhulu, uzokuvumela ukuthi uzenzele, ukuvumelanisa nezinkolelo zakho. Uma kungenjalo, uzocabanga ukuthi wenze iphutha kuwe futhi ekugcineni epholile. Khumbula ukuthi uthando akufanele lugxile ukuthi yikuphi kokubili okuphelele kakhulu. Ngamunye wenu uyingqayizivele futhi ngandlela-thile, izobe idlula enye. Ungamthanda ngobuqotho indoda, ube nolwazi oluningi kunoma yiziphi izindawo. Futhi mhlawumbe wakuthanda ngenxa yalo!

Umzuzwana olandelayo ovimbela abesifazane ebuhlotsheni babo nabesilisa - ulindele ukuthi zonke izinyathelo ebuhlotsheni bakho zizokwenziwa nguye. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi indoda idinga impendulo, ilinde ukuphindaphindiwe. Uma ubonisa intukuthelo ngenxa yobuningi bakho noma ukuziqhenya, khona-ke kumuntu kuyisignali ukuthi akayithandi. Khona-ke okhethiweyo wakho uzama "izintelezi zakho" kwenye i-pass, nakuba wena, cishe, uzolindela ukucindezela okuningi. Khumbula - amadoda nawo aziqhenya. Uma usemncane, le nsizwa ingakwazi futhi izozama ukwenza "ukushaya okusha". Kodwa amadoda avuthiwe azama ukuthatha umhlalaphansi - ngoba abesifazane abangashadile baningi kakhulu futhi bathola umngane kalula kunomngani. Ngamanye amazwi, ungamlahli umuntu obonise izibonakaliso zokunakwa - funda ukuthi ungayithatha kanjani kahle, bonisa isithakazelo sakho, bese ubona ukuthi yikuphi.

Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi abesifazane banqatshelwe ebuhlotsheni babo namadoda ngokuphelela. Sifisa ukukuqinisekisa ukuthi lesi sitatimende asikho iqiniso. Owesifazane ogcwele ukugcwala okuhle, ekulungiswe kahle ngaso sonke isikhathi wadonsela indoda. Into eyinhloko yukuthi ngokuhlanganiswa namathanga aphelele kwakukhona isikhumba. Ukugoba okunjalo emqondweni kaMama Nature ngeke kushiye ukungaboni muntu. Isihloko sokuphelela siyashisa ngempela. Phela, amanye amantombazane nabesifazane bayakholelwa ukuthi bayathandeka kubantu futhi bonke ubudlelwane bugcinwa ezingeni lokudlala ngothando, besaba ukukhombisa umzimba wabo. Kodwa uma umuntu ehlangana nawe, kufanele kube ngento ethize. Futhi isitatimende esithi "indoda ithanda amehlo akhe" yayiyobizwa ngokuqondile ngokuqondene nomqondo wesifiso, hhayi uthando. Yiqiniso, owesifazane omuhle uvusa inxenye eqinile isifiso sokulidla, futhi okungenani kanye. Indoda ehlakaniphile ethanda indlela yokuphila elinganisiwe ngeke ikwazi ukuthatha umfazi omuhle onendawo endaweni yesikhulumi. Kodwa abesifazane abancane, abanomlingisi omuhle futhi omnene bangambopha umuntu isikhathi eside. Ngesizathu esithile, amamodeli nezinkanyezi azijabuli neze. Kungaba kubi nakakhulu kunomona wesilisa. Umhawu ungachazwa nokudakwa, nokushaywa, nokuhlukunyezwa. Ngakho-ke, uma ungenayo isifiso 90-60-90, jabulela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isikhathi lapho ama-Merlin Monroe noma i-Venus ye-Milos evelele azophinde afike emfashini akude kakhulu. Kodwa amaGreki ayekwazi okuningi ngomzimba! Yiqiniso, asikhulumi ngamantombazane "ase-acid-like", akwazi ukuqhuma emnyango. "I-Kiselny" isisu kanye nemilenze efanayo akunakwenzeka ukubangela isithakazelo kwinani elikhulu lamadoda, futhi owesifazane kunzima kangangokuthi akukho mandla futhi ufisa ukuba nesithakazelo kumadoda. Kodwa nokho bayayithanda futhi! Zama nje ukuthi ungasakazeli ukungabi nhlobo futhi uziqaphele.

Enye yeziphambeko ezivame kakhulu abesifazane abazenzayo ekusebenzelaneni namadoda yilapho beba yibo ngokwabo baba yibo - amadoda anjalo esikhwameni. Abesifazane abanomlingiswa wesilisa ngokwabo bathatha ingxenye yemithwalo yemfanelo yabo besilisa, bephendulela umyeni wabo ukuba abe limp doll. Abanye abayeni baqale ukumelana, bese beyeka isikhundla sabo, kuyilapho abanye - bayakujabulela ukuhamba eceleni. Futhi kulokhu, owesifazane wenza into engalungile. Okokuqala, uphendulela umyeni wakhe ukuba abe "izibungu" ngezandla zakhe, futhi okwesibili, kunciphise ukuzethemba kwakhe. Endabeni yokuqala, indoda ihlala njengo-Alphonse, isebenzisa zonke izinzuzo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akukho okuvimbela ekutholeni inkosikazi ohlangothini futhi ube "indoda" yangempela naye. Futhi, uma owesifazane ekhathele ngoba useyedwa "e-harness", indoda yakhe ethandekayo ngeke imvumele ukuba ahileleke lapho nganoma yini. Yilapho ama-scandals aqala khona. Esimweni sesibili, lapho umuntu engazizwa kahle, uqala nokufuna isithakazelo ohlangothini - lapho ezohlonishwa futhi azizwe njengomuntu. Mhlawumbe akazange alinge ngokwanele ukushiya umndeni, kodwa wayengeke enqabe nenkosikazi yenhliziyo noma.

Ubudlelwane bungabuye buqotshwe uma umuntu ezama ukuwahlola ngesikhathi socansi. Umbhede womshado awuyona indawo yezinhlaka. Ngokuphambene nalokho - umbhede uyakwazi ukuvumelanisa nokuqala imizwa emisha.

Futhi into eyodwa - ungalokothi unqabe umkakho ngothando. Ngisho noma ucasuke kakhulu. Phela, kungendlela ukuthi kubonakala sengathi kungenzeka ukuthi alungiselele kuwe. Kunoma yikuphi, lokhu kuzosindisa umshado kusuka ekushintsheni okungenzeka noma ukunciphisa okungenani. Abesifazane abahlakaniphile bayazi ngalokhu.