Ngokuvamile ungase uzwe ukuthi lezi ziphikisa ziheha futhi yibo bantu abajabula kakhulu emshadweni. Lokhu kumayelana namanoveli, amafilimu kanye nezinhlamvu. Kodwa kwenzeka kanjani ekuphileni kwangempela? Phela, wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi abantu abahlukene kunzima kakhulu ukuhlangana. Eqinisweni, umqondo wokuheha ukuphikiswa ungabonakala kuphela ngengxenye. Okulandelayo, uzoqonda ukuthi kuyini.
Yaogon, unamanzi
Uzolile, u-laconic, uvinjelwe, uvinjelwe ngokomzwelo. Yena-okhulumayo, okhohlisayo, engafuni ukuhlala nokho, njenge-spark ekhanyisa konke. Nasi isibonelo esivamile sabantu abanezinhlamvu ezihlukile. Ingabe bayakhangwa? Yebo, kodwa hhayi kuzo zonke izimo. Abantu abanjalo bangakwazi futhi bafune ukuba ndawonye kuphela uma ukungafani kwabo kunqunyelwe izinhlamvu. Okusho ukuthi, naphezu kwakho konke, bobabili banezintshisekelo kanye nezifiso ezifanayo, bafuna ukufezekisa okuthile ekuphileni, ngokwesibonelo, bathanda ukuhamba ne-takadale. Bese izinhlamvu ezahlukene zibalinganise futhi zisize ukufinyelela umuntu oyifunayo ngokushesha. Umuntu ozolile futhi ogcinekile angamisa intombazane ngesikhathi esifanele, umtshele ukuthi ucabangani ngakho, ungasheshi ukwenza isinqumo futhi ulinganise konke. Ngokufanayo, le ntombazane iyomphoqa ukuba enze isinyathelo esinqumayo, imqhubelele ezisombululo ezintsha nezenzo ezenzakalelayo, okungenzeka ukuthi yena ngokwakhe wayengeke ahambe. Lapha ngezibambisene ezinjalo kukhona njalo inkulumo, lapho bethi ukuphikiswa kuyadonsela.
Uma owesifazane nendoda, ngaphezu kwabalingisi abahlukene, banemigomo ehlukene nezifiso, khona-ke ukukhanga kungaba khona, kodwa ekugcineni, akukho lutho oluzovela kulo. Ngcono kakhulu, bazozama ukuzivumelanisa. Kodwa njengoba uyazi, indoda ayikwazi ukuzihlupha isikhathi eside, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingathanda ukujabulisa kanjani othandekayo wakhe. Kancane kancane, ukuzama ukuqonda nokusekela kulokho ongahlanganyeli ngakho, yiba umsebenzi ogqilazayo. Abantu abanjalo ababonakala sengathi bathanda futhi bathanda umngane, kodwa nsuku zonke kuba nzima kakhulu futhi kunzima kakhulu. Esikhundleni sokulinganisa umlingani wakho futhi ukumnika ezimbalwa zalezo zimfanelo angenazo, abantu baqala ukushintsha omunye nomunye. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, umqobi uthi udangele ukuthi othandekayo akayona into efana neyaphambili, hhayi eyake ayithandayo. Uma lo mlingani enenkani kakhulu futhi engafuni ukushintsha nganoma iyiphi indlela, uthando luya kancane kancane luba yinto evuthayo, okuyinto ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu kungaba ngisho nenzondo. Futhi abantu abake bathandana ngempela, manje bamane nje abakwazi ukubuka umlingani wethu.
Okuyinhloko
Olunye uhlobo lokuheha ukuphikisa, okuthandayo ukudlala kumafilimu nezincwadi ngabantu abavela ezingxenyeni ezahlukene zomphakathi. Eqinisweni, lokhu kwenzeka kaningi, kodwa ezimweni eziningi, akukhona ngothando nangokwakheka komndeni, kodwa mayelana nokuzifunela. Abesifazane bakhetha amadoda acebile ukuwagcina. Ngendlela, abaningi balaba besifazane bayavuma indima yowesifazane ongafuni ukungena emphakathini omkhulu kakhulu. Ekhuluma ngezibili ezihlanganisa abacebile nabampofu, kubalulekile ukuthola ukuthi kusho ukuthini ngempela igama elithi "ocebile". Uma umuntu emane engasebenzi kahle, khona-ke angeke athiwa ucebile emhlabeni wonke. Futhi uma abantu abanjalo bebhekwa njengabaphikisanayo, bangakhanga kalula futhi kalula. Ngemuva kwalokho, akusikho umholo omuhle, ngokuvamile umuntu onjalo uyaqhubeka nokuchitha isikhathi nabangane abasenesikhathi eside ezikhungweni ezingakwazi ukukhokhela izakhamizi zonke. Ngakho-ke, unakho ngokuphelele, ukuthi uzokwazi kanjani owesifazane wenhliziyo ezayo. Umehluko ohlelweni lwezezimali alukho futhi phakathi kwabo, okungenani ekuboneni kokuqala. Ngakho-ke, ukukhuluma ngokuphikisana, ngempela bangabizwa ngokuthi labo abakude kakhulu komunye nomunye, uma bebhekwa ngombono wesimo senhlalakahle. Isibonelo, intombazane ingaba umfundi ohluphekile, futhi umfana uyindlalifa emabhizinisini amafutha okhuluma nabasebenzi ku "wena" futhi ubiza umalume kaMongameli. Ngokweqiniso, abantu abanjalo bangazijwayele, kodwa empeleni, kuyoba nzima kakhulu kubo. Uma, eqinisweni, sikhuluma ngothando, hhayi ngokuzithandela. Kungokuthi nje umbhangqwana onjalo awunakho okufanayo. Okokuqala, le ntombazane izokuthola kunzima ukungena embuthano lapho le nsizwa ikhuluma khona. Ngisho noma enemikhuba emihle, cishe ngeke azizwe ekhululekile ehlezi eduze no-Ambassador Guinea. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imindeni yabantu abanjalo impela ingabaza futhi impela ngamantombazane avela emakilasini aphansi. Iphuzu le-tuti ngokusola kokuzikhathalela, nokuthi abantu abavela ezweni elinjalo "elihlukile" bahlale benamasu abo nge-jinl yamadodana abo esizayo. Noma kunjalo, phakathi kwalesi mfana nentombazane akunakwenzeka ukuthi kube nokuqonda okuningi, ngoba bakhulela ezimweni ezahlukene. Zinezinkumbulo ezihluke ngokuphelele, umbono wezinto ezedlule nezamanje. Ngakho-ke, ngombono, lezi zibhangqa zingaba khona, kodwa ngokwenza lokhu lokhu kungenangqondo.
Okungeke kube khona
Kukhona okuphikisanayo okubanjwe kumabhayisikobho nasezincwadini, okukhona empilweni yangempela okwamanje ayikwazi ukuheha. Isibonelo, uma ukhumbula ifilimu ethi "Woman Pretty", okwamanje ayisenzi lutho. Ikakhulukazi uma lo muntu ngokwakhe engumthetho othembekile kakhulu. Umfana onjalo angase abe nesithakazelo ku-lady of not the hard behavior, ngoba kwezinye zalaba besifazane kukhona into ekhethekile ngempela. Kungenza ngisho nokufutheka. Kodwa ekugcineni, uzocabangela konke futhi aqonde ukuthi angeke aphile ngokuthula, amthinte, ecabange ukuthi ungubani nokuthi wenzani. Ngokufanayo, abesifazane abanjalo, ngokungafani nezinhlamvu ze-cine, azishintshi. Zonke ziyahamba ngakwesobunxele futhi azikwazi ukumelana nazo. Ngakho-ke, "okuhle" akalokothi akhangwe "okubi." Yebo, umzuzu wesifiso, okwamanje, ukhona. I-Ideovochki, ikakhulukazi esemncane, uvele ubenze abafana "ababi." Kodwa ekugcineni wonke umuntu uyaqonda iqiniso elilodwa: "okubi" empilweni futhi "kubi" esibukweni kuhlukile. Uma kumabhayisikobho abantu abanjalo baphenduka ngokuzumayo, ekuphileni lokhu akukaze kwenzeke.