Bangobani - laba "bomshado bomshado" abangaqondakali? Akukhona nje labo abathandekayo ukukhuluma nabo. Ungakwazi ukuxoxa nomngani, kanye nentombi ende yesikhathi eside. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi uhlangana nomuntu - futhi ...
Umlingani womphefumulo akahlali nje emva kweglasi lesithathu. Eqinisweni, ngokufisa nokufudumala komunye umuntu (ngokuvamile - ngokuzumayo), ezinye izinqubo eziningana ziphendula. Futhi kuhle ukwazi ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kanjani nawe. Futhi-ke leli hora alikho ngisho, umuntu ohlakaniphile nowengqondo uyosizakala ...
Ngakho-ke, waxwayiswa-ke, uhlomile.
Abantu bavame ukusabela ku:
- Idatha yangaphandle. Akusizi njengesihlobo, umngane wobuntwana - futhi manje sithemba lo muntu oyisiko, silungele ukutshela izimfihlo zethu, ukutshela mayelana nosondelene kakhulu. Bangakwazi "ukudlala" ngokuzumayo ngokuma kwamashiya ekuboneni kwamehlo.
- Indlela yokukhuluma. Akusizi ngalutho I-NLP-ers ikhokha kakhulu ekwakhiweni kwemishwana kanye nekhono lokulandelela ukuthi i-interlocutor ithi kanjani. Uma uqeqesha isikhathi eside, ungakwazi ukulawula ngokucophelela le nqubo, futhi kulula ukuba "eyakho ebhodini" ngomuntu okwesikhashana. Futhi uyomangala futhi ajabule - bathi, kuhle kangakanani ukuhlangana nomuntu oshade naye!
- Amandla okulalela. Kuyamangalisa, kodwa akekho umuntu oyedwa oqaphele: kubalulekile ukubamba umkhuhlane futhi ulahlekelwe yizwi lakho, ngokushesha nje uma uba umngane omnandi, futhi wonke umuntu ulungele ukuhlangana nomuntu wakho womuntu oshade naye. Ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kanjani kuyaqondakala.
Sonke sizama ukusindisa isikhathi. Ngokushesha senza ukuhlanza, sibhekana nomsebenzi nokunye. Kodwa "ngokusindisa" ngokuvamile kubhekene nokunciphisa inani lezingxenye esizibonayo. Ngakho-ke engxoxweni - ezama ukutshela umxhumanisi womqondo, ungabi nesikhathi sokulalela kahle.
Ukuthula noma ukuzithoba komuntu osebenza naye kuvame ukubonwa njengesikhuthazo sokukhuluma, futhi manje sesimangalisa ukuthi kuvela kanjani, kuhle ukuhlangana nomuntu ophefumulayo. Futhi iphuzu lonke ukuthi sigxila kulo. - Okuvamile. Sibumbene hhayi nje ngezintshisekelo - kepha kunalokho ngokubuka okufanayo emhlabeni, isimo sengqondo nokuziphatha. Uma othile ezimisele ukusekela, noma ngisho wabelane ngombono wakho - lokhu kuyisicelo esiqondile sokuthi "umphefumulo ubumbene".
- Ukuqonda ngaphandle kwamazwi . Yebo, lokho kwenzeka. Ungazikhohlisi ngale ndaba. Ngokuvamile ukuthula kwangempela ukuthula "ngamunye wakhe, kodwa kubonakala sengathi ndawonye sicabanga." Sivame "ukuqagela" omunye umuntu, ngalokho acabanga, ngokusekelwe ekuqondeni kwakhe, umbono, imininingwane. Ngakho-ke, ngokuqinisekile "sicabanga" ngomunye. Futhi abantu abanohlonipheka abakwenzi ngendlela engaziwa ngayo i-anecdote ngogogo, umkhulu, i-spoon futhi "uphinde ucabange ngento engafanele!"
- Isiphetho esifanele / isiphetho esifanele. Ngeshwa, inkulumo ethi "Yeka ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukuhlangabezana nomlingani womphefumulo!" Ufihla isifiso sobugovu sokulungisa umhlaba. Futhi engxoxweni lokhu kubonakala kanje. Umuntu uqedela wena imisho, wenza iziphetho ezifanayo noma amazwana. Kubonakala sengathi lapha - umphefumulo, owazi konke!
Ubani ongaba "umoya wobuhlobo"?
Kuyinto engavamile kakhulu ukuthi isihlobo siqonda "kusuka kwesigamu-izwi, kusuka kusigamu se-half." Kufanele sikhuthaze lokhu. Ukuqonda ukuthi izibopho zegazi - azisho ngokuzenzakalelayo "ngobuqotho", abantu banabangane noma baxoxe kabanzi nabangani.
Umuntu angaba ngumuntu ekuthuthweni nasemsebenzini, umakhelwane obonakala sengathi uyazi futhi engalindele lutho olusha kuye. Umngani wakho noma umngane wakho, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngokuba "konke okuthandayo", angakwazi ukuxosha ngaphandle kokungabi nandaba nokungaqondi kahle.
Isexwayiso sabalingisi kanye namadoda amadala endala "engokomoya"
Njengoba kunikezwe amaphuzu angaphambilini, zama ukungakhohliswa mayelana ne-interlocutor yakho. Futhi uma kusasa ngokuzumayo uthi uyinengiso - ungadikibali. Njengoba uneminyaka yobude obunjalo buba ngaphansi - okuhlangenwe nakho kuyathinta. Kodwa imiphefumulo ehlobene, ejabulisa kakhulu ukuhlangabezana ngengozi, iqotho kakhulu, futhi ubuhlobo buba bujulile.