Ngokuvamile lolu hlobo lobulili lusetshenziswa abasha futhi "abasha abangashadile" abaneminyaka engaba ngu-25, okungukuthi, ngamanye amazwi, "abadlali". Ku-85% kulabo abaye bahlangabezana nama-threesome, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho ngeke kuphindwe, okungukuthi, bazame futhi bakhohliwe, "hhayi okwami." Iqiniso elithakazelisayo yilokho kuphela amaphesenti angenakunqotshwa abahlinzeki abavamile baseLyamur de Trois abazohola umndeni futhi bazoba nezingane. Ingxenye yalaba bantu abaneminyaka engamashumi amane kuyoba yilabo abathwala izifo eziyingozi, ezingenakuphulukiswa, ezithathelwana ngocansi. Lena yizibalo zamazwe aseYurophu. Kuzuzisa ukwethula izibalo ezijwayelekile ngezibalo zethu ...
Ubani okwesithathu?
Ubulili akuyona ubulili bobulili obubili, lapho ungashintsha khona abalingani nabo bonke ngokulinganayo. Kukhona amadoda amabili nowesifazane oyedwa, noma abesifazane ababili nendoda eyodwa. Ngokuvamile kunenhlanganisela yesibili. Amadoda, ngokuqinisekile, akhetha abesifazane ababili, abesifazane bakhetha owesifazane, ngokuthandwa ngumuntu, noma bona ngokwabo bakhetha ukubona owesifazane wesibili embhedeni, njengokungathi kukhona injabulo.
Okwesithathu okungaphezulu noma kwesithathu?
Njenge-twist, kodwa ukuxhumana kocansi kuhilela abantu ababili, kanti okwesithathu, kuvela, akubandakanyi inqubo esheshayo. Ukuze ukwanelise wonke umuntu, kuyadingeka ukuba indoda ibe namandla kanye namakhono okwenza ucansi ukuhlangabezana nabalingani ababili ngesikhathi esifanayo, noma ngokufanayo, ukuze anelise owesifazane ngokushesha amadoda amabili. Ukufisa ukuhlukahluka ebuhlotsheni bobulili, udinga ukuthi unqume ngaphambili amandla akho okuzocansi.
Okubi nakakhulu, uma i-sextet ikhetha umbhangqwana wezintathu, ngubani ofuna ukwenza "ukuphikisana" ebuhlotsheni babo. Khetha izifiso zesifazane owesifazane, futhi ngenkathi umfazi noma intombazane ehlala engavikelekile, njengoba umuntu engumlutha womlingani omusha. Ungacabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane buzoshintsha kanjani emva kwalokho.
Izinzuzo zobulili ezintathu ndawonye
Ukuvuthwa ngokocansi kunezici ezinhle. Kwabancane nabangashadile, abangazange bahlangabezane nabathandekayo babo, lokhu kuyinto yokwenza ucansi. Ngendoda nowesifazane abanomshado omude, lokhu kuyisimo esisha, esingavamile, socansi. Kubalulekile ukuthi bonke abahlanganyeli bavumelane, futhi ungenzi lo muntu oqhakazile, uma nje ehamba kahle. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, lokhu kungukulala komuntu ongenacala, okungukuthi, injabulo ngenxa yenjabulo. Uma kungumbhangqwana oshadile, khona-ke akukho mbuzo wimuphi umhawu. Ngamanye amazwi, kufanele ugqugquzele, futhi ungakhathazeki, ukuxhumana kocansi komlingani wakho nomunye umlingani.
Amaminithi wezocansi abathathu ndawonye
Kuhlale kuyingozi. Ngokuvamile, umbhangqwana owaziwa ocansini abathathu ndawonye, ubuhlobo abukho kangcono. Umhawu, ukufutheka, ukudumazeka - laba bangabanye abahambahamba nabo abangakwazi ukuhlala ekhanda lomunye wabalingani, ikakhulukazi owesifazane. Ngakho-ke, okukhethwa kukho konke ukukhetha ubulili nabantu abathathu abangajwayelekile, okungekho ubuhlobo obunzima noma konke okufanele busekelwe ekuhambeni, hhayi okujabulisayo kusuka kubalingani.
Ingozi yokuthatha izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, ngenxa yocansi, lezi zintathu zanda kakhulu.
Izibalo zithi emva kokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo ngokobulili, imibhangqwana isheshe iqede. Njenge-nikruti, kathathu, lokhu akuyona indlela yokuqinisa ubuhlobo.
Sesha okwesithathu
Ngakho-ke, wanquma ukuya ocansini abathathu. Ubani ongakhetha? Okuhle kunakho konke, kungaba isithangami noma i-ejensi, akekho owaziyo, akekho owaziyo. Into esemqoka akuyona ukuba isisulu somkhwabanisi, ngoba umema umuntu ongajwayelekile ngokuphelele endlini yakho. Abamema abamemeza embhedeni, ungakhubeka kwenye "imifula engaphansi kwamanzi": umlingani wakho angase angathandi ukulala ngobulili abathathu ndawonye, kodwa lokhu kuqhubeka ubudlelwane bobulili eceleni komuntu oqotho uyoba mnandi kakhulu. Ukuqeda ubuhlobo - ngokuqinisekile ...
Imithetho yobuhlobo obungavamile
Ngakho, wena nomlingani wakho wenza isinqumo esifanayo sokuletha umbhede wakho wesithathu. Bese uthatha inkathazo ukucacisa yonke imininingwane ukuze kungabikho ukungaqondani, futhi wamukele imithetho ethile.
- Yinquma ngobungani bomlingani wesithathu, ukuze kungabikho muntu onobungozi obuhlungu.
- Khuluma zonke izikhathi "ngaphambi, ngesikhathi nangemva": ukuziphatha, ukubeka, ukucindezela, ukuphepha.
- Azikho abangani. Ubulili nobungane kukhona imibono ehlukile, uvumela umngane wakho ukuba alele embhedeni, cishe uzolahlekelwa kuze kube phakade njengomngani.
- Akukho umhawu! Umbono wesenzo socansi lomlingani wakhe nomunye umuntu, ngaphandle kokubona ukuthi uthola kanjani lokhu kujabulisa, kuyisici esibi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ekuqaleni wazisa ngokujulile isimo sengqondo salokhu, ukuze kamuva akudingekile ukubeka wonke amachashazi phezu kokuthi "futhi".
- Uma owesithathu engowesifazane, funa ukuthola injabulo enkulu, lungele uthando lweLeisland.
Futhi kancane kancane ngokuphepha
Umbhede wesithathu uhlale ungengozi enkulu yokuthatha into ethile. Ngakho-ke, ukuphepha kufanele kube sezingeni eliphakeme kakhulu. Kubalulekile lapha ukukwazi ukucabanga ngekhanda lakho phakathi nenjabulo. Ubulili abathathu budala izimo ezengeziwe zokubamba izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ungavumeli umlingani angene kuwe emakhondomu asetshenziselwa ubulili nomunye umlingani. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthole "ukwaziswa" okwengeziwe kanye nesitoko samakhondomu ngokwabo.
Kulungile futhi ekugcineni. Uma uzolile mayelana nokuhlolwa kocansi, unesithakazelo, bese ulahla izinkolelo futhi uziqaphele. Kudingekile ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi ukulala ndawonye kuyisinqumo esibaluleke kakhulu, ungayithathi esimweni esidakiwe noma ngendlela efanele.