Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi amadoda ethu anamandla ayesaba abesifazane abanamandla abakhulisa izingane zabo kuphela, basebenza emsebenzini omuhle, futhi bayaziqhenya ngokuthi bodwa. Kubonakala kimi ukuthi esikhathini sethu, abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi umuntu ungumthwalo kubo. Ikakhulukazi uma umuntu ephuza noma engasebenzi, khona-ke kuyoba lula ukuba owesifazane abe yedwa kunomuntu onjalo, futhi ngokuzithandela lona wesifazane uqala ukukholelwa ukuthi kube lula futhi kulula. Futhi ngemicabango enjalo baqala ukubona zonke izifiso zabo namaphupho abo. Kancane kancane bayeka ukudinga usizo lomuntu, ngoba abesifazane abanjalo baqala ukuphila ngokuvumelana nokuthi "akekho ozokwenza kangcono kunami", kulula ukuba benze okuthile kunokuthembela komunye umuntu, ngoba, uma esenze umsebenzi ngokwakhe, uqinisekile , ukuthi umsebenzi wenziwa nge-bang. Abesifazane abanjalo abasetshenzisiwe ukwamukela usizo lwabantu, futhi amadoda azimisele kakhulu ukusiza owesifazane onjalo.
Futhi ukuxhumana nentombi yakhe, sithinte kuzo zonke izingqikithi ezikhathazeka ngesigamu sonke sezinsikazikazi zomhlaba, ukuthi yini okufanele sigqoke, lapho uhamba khona futhi, nakanjani, amadoda. Sathi lo wesifazane ubuthakathaka futhi uhlale efuna usizo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi impahla noma ingokomoya. Sikhulume ngalesi sihloko ngokuqondile ngoba nguye kuphela okhulisa ingane, futhi usizo kuye ngeke lube endleleni.
Ngokwemvelo kakhulu umuntu onesizotha futhi ongenamahloni ongakwazi ukucela usizo lwabantu, futhi akabonisi ngokukhethekile ukuthi udinga usizo. Wayeyidinga ukuthi lo muntu ngokwakhe uzoqaphela lokho akudingayo futhi azinike yona ngaphandle kwezicelo. Noma kunjalo, ukulinda "isimo sezulu sezulu" akusona isikhathi noma amandla, udinga ukuhlala uphinde uphile. Futhi ngezinga elithile, ukholelwa ukuthi ukucela usizo kumadoda kungaphansi kwesithunzi sakhe. Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu bayakwazi ukuthola usizo ngisho nalapho bengayidingi. Akudingeki nhlobo. Usizo, izipho, ukuhamba, izindawo zokudlela - bonke bangathola ngaphandle kokubuza. Futhi bayakwamukela konke, becabanga ukuthi babiza okungaphezu kwalokho. Lokhu kwenziwa kanjani? Kungani umuntu ebuza futhi engamukeli, futhi ubani ongaceli, kodwa uthola?
Muva nje, umngane wakhe wamemeza kwelinye izwe ukuba aphumule, futhi wangitshela ngethuka. Uvele ephenduka owesifazane ongenakuzisiza ongakwazi ukukhokhela ukuya phesheya. Uthi wayengenakukwazi ukuyikhokhela nokuthi akayikuziqhayisa ngohambo olulandelayo, njengoba esho ukuthi angenakufinyeleleka. Wabe esethola isimemo sokuphumula ngemali yakhe. Akazange ngisho azenzele owesifazane ongenakuzisiza, futhi waba ngowesigaba sesibili ngokwahlukana, ethi akanakwenzeka. Kungani abesifazane beba namandla, ngaleyo ndlela badikibala amadoda nokunakekelwa kwabo nokusizwa kwabo, uma kulula kakhulu ukuba wena ngokwakho, ube ngowesifazane obuthakathaka, abe nguwe, bese kuthi ngemizuzwana nje isimemo sisesikhwameni sakho? Akulula yini ukuba buthakathaka? Eqinisweni, owesifazane uyakwazi ukuqina, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukuthi ungubani. Amandla ebuthakathakeni. Kudingekile ukuba ube buthakathaka futhi amadoda azowa emasakeni ukuze asize ababuthakathaka. Yilokho amandla. Kodwa uma ungazibheki ubuthakathaka, okungenani uzenzele ubuthakathaka, ukuthola usizo nokunakwa kumadoda, ube nobuqili, ungaqhosha. Phela, owesifazane kufanele abe nobuqili, hhayi eqinile. Futhi owesifazane kufanele azi ukuthi amandla asebuthakathaka.
Noma yimuphi umuntu wesaba owesifazane onempumelelo ophumelelayo. Uma owesifazane eqhuba iLexus, futhi eyiF Ford kuphela, ngokoqobo, uzokuhlakulela ukuhlukumeza phansi. Futhi ngesizathu esithile ezweni lethu akukho okunye (mhlawumbe kukhona, kodwa kancane futhi angizange ngibone lokho), ukuthi emva kokuba umuntu onjalo ezama ukuba ngcono kunowesifazane, ngesizathu esithile uqala ukumhawukela futhi amzonde. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu, hhayi amadoda kuphela, kodwa amadoda anamandla ayesaba abesifazane abaqinile .
Ezweni lakithi, izwi mayelana nowesifazane lithandwayo, "futhi endlini egcwele umlilo izofika futhi ihhashi liyoyeka emncintiswaneni." Akuyona yini umthwalo womuntu ukungena endlini yokushisa bese usindisa emlilweni owesifazane okhalela usizo kulowo hut nge-squeals? Akuyona yini umsebenzi womuntu ukuyeka ihhashi emncintiswaneni ukusindisa owesifazane ohlala kulelo hhashi? Ingabe amadoda ethu anamandla alahlekelwe amandla? Cha, bavele bekhululekile, ngoba owesifazane angenza konke, ngoba unamandla. Uzophoqa isiphongolo, uzopheka futhi alungiselele, uzobeka ingane ukuba ilale, futhi uzoletha imali efanayo endlini. Futhi umuntu wenzani ngalesi sikhathi? Futhi isigamu sethu esinamandla sigubha umbhede nokudlwengula i-TV. Thina sibuthakathaka sesijwayele ukuqina, ukuzenza sengathi sinamandla. Ngeke kusimangaze uma isisho ngokuphathelene nabesifazane maduze sithandwa "owesifazane wangempela kufanele enze izinto ezintathu empilweni yakhe: tshala umuthi, wakhe indlu, futhi ubelethe indodakazi" ... futhi kungani kufanele sibe nendodana? Uma indodakazi ingenza okufanayo?
Futhi ekhuluma ngokuhambela kwakhe esikhathini esizayo, wathi, ngaphezulu bekuyoba amadoda anjalo angathanda ukukhokhela uhambo lwakho phesheya ... noma amadoda angempela. Kodwa nokho ngikholelwa ukuthi kuwo wonke umuntu indoda yangempela ilala, ngubani ongakulungeli ukukhokhela uhambo oluya phesheya, kodwa yonke impilo yethu, equkethe kuphela amahle salons nama-boutiques abizayo. Owesifazane kuphela udinga ukuba owesifazane wangempela, okungukuthi, owesifazane obuthakathaka, kodwa kuqala ukukhahlela kahle umuntu, lokho kungaba indoda yangempela evukile. Khona-ke empilweni yethu ngeke kube khona amadoda azimisele ukukhokha, kodwa kuyoba khona amadoda angempela azobe esilungele ukusiphatha ezandleni zabo.