Amaphutha abesifazane ekukhulumisaneni namadoda

Amadoda ethu anesimo sengqondo, abathanda izingane esikoleni, ngifuna izinguquko njalo. Futhi-ke, njalo kuzodingeka ufunde, hhayi ukwenza, amaphutha ajwayelekile, uma, ngempela, uyayithanda ngempela indoda yakho oyintandokazi. Kule mphutha akuzange ikuholele komunye wabesifazane abaningi ofuna ukuphuma kuwo. Sizokukhombisa ukuthi yimaphi amaphutha abesifazane abakwenzayo ekukhulumeni namadoda, kunamaphuzu angu-10 "okuziphatha okungalungile kwabesifazane."

1. I-stimulus ephumelela kunazo zonke yizokwazisa kanye namahlaya. Uma uzinikela kulesi simo esingenasibindi, ngeke nje uzwakale, kodwa uzoba into yokucasula. Phela, akukho lutho olungabulala ubudlelwane obufana nokunganaki okuqhubekayo nokuphila, ukuziphatha komuntu othandekayo kanye nezinye izimo zokuphila.

2. Naphezu kwesifiso esivuthayo sokuba nomuntu wakho othandekayo amahora angu-24 ngosuku, khumbula ukuthi kumele abe nokuphila okunye. Ukuba nawe, ufuna ukubona nokuxhumana nomngane wakhe oseduze, uye ebhola noma ukuya ekudobeni. Kumelwe futhi abe nemikhawulo yomphefumulo lapho ezwa khona ekhululekile naye futhi enenjabulo, lapho ehle khona. Zichitha isikhathi esingaphakathi komunye nomunye, kungukuthi umhlangano othandekayo wakho uzakwamukela, futhi injabulo yomhlangano iyoba eqotho.

3. Ungazami ukushintsha othandekayo wakho esithombeni sakho nasesithombeni sakho. Mqaphele futhi umthande ngendlela ayenayo, qaphela izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle kunezingaphutha zakhe, okungenzeka ukuthi akunjalo.

4. Zama ukushintsha into kuwe, ukuze ungahlali njengawezolo. Mhlawumbe ekuqaleni kuzobonakala kunzima futhi kungavamile, kodwa lo mdlalo uzokujabulisa emva kwesikhathi. Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ngaphakathi kwakho uhlale uqinisile kuwe.

5. Ungabonisi izimpawu zakho zokungabi namandla. Zizwe ukuzimela kwakho nokwaneliseka. Awudingi ukuthola lo muntu izingcingo ezingapheli isikhathi esingamahora amathathu. Lokhu kuzomenza aphendule kabi. Uma ubizile, zama ukuthola into ebaluleke kakhulu futhi ungayithathi futhi isikhathi sakho ngezingxoxo ezingenamsebenzi kanye nemibuzo engadingekile.

6. Asikho isidingo sokuba nomhawu. Umhawu kuyinto isifiso esingaqondakali sokubheka njengento umuntu, uphawu lokungaqiniseki, isifiso sokuyivala kuzo zonke izikhiye futhi ucabange kusukela ekuseni kuze kuhlwe. Ngokuvamile akukho okuhle okuvela kuyo. Izinsolo azipheli ngenxa yokulibaziseka emsebenzini noma imisebenzi, ukufunda i-SMS nemiyalezo yomuntu siqu kungabangela ukungabaza ngekusasa elimangalisayo lobuhlobo bakho.

Iphutha lesintu lendabuko - uthando lwakho lokuhleba, lungabiza. Zama ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho nezinkinga ngothandekayo wakho, futhi ungaphumeleli endlini. Ngokusobala, ukuba khona kwendoda yakho ethandekayo enkampanini yabangane bakho yedwa kuyobe kungekho indawo, uyozizwa engakhululekile futhi engakhululekile esimweni esinjalo, wonke umuntu uyozizwa engakhululekile kule simo.

8. Uthando lwakho lokuthenga noma izimakethe, ungacabangi ukuthi indoda yakho izothatha ngenkuthalo efanayo. Enye, ezimbili uhambo oluthile lokuthengwa, lungaphazamisa ubuhlobo obuvamile. Ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukuhamba nabangani ezitolo, ingabe wena uzoxoxa futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo. Okukhethwa kukho ukunyakaza okuhlangene, kodwa kusengaphambili kufanele uzikhethele okuthandayo, khona-ke konke lokhu kuzobukeka sengathi kuyamangaza futhi ngeke kuthathe isikhathi esiningi.

9. Ungagcizeleli ukuthi indoda yakho ethandekayo ngokungavumi futhi ngokushesha ukwabelana nawe imizwa yakhe nemicabango. Uma umuntu engavulwa ukungaqondile, ingxoxo ingcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

10. Ungazenzi ungalindi isikhathi eside. Kunzima kakhulu ukuthola umuntu ozojabula, ngoba usephuzile isikhathi esingaphezu kwehora noma ngaphezulu.

Akunzima ukulandela lemithetho elula, kodwa ngokulandela, uzokwandisa, amathuba akho okuphumelela nomuntu othandekayo oyithandayo kakhulu.