Amaphutha ajwayelekile womalokazana

Kungenzeka yini ukugwema ukuxabana phakathi komalokazana nomkhwekazi? Kungenzeka ukuthi kungenzeka uma sizama ukuqonda nokuthula. Kukhona amaphutha ajwayelekile ajwayelekile umfazi womyeni akwenza kumamazala. Cabangela okuyinhloko futhi evame kakhulu.
Umama ungcono kunomkhwekazi wami
Umndeni omusha uhlala nabazali bomkakhe. Kuye kulula: njalo umama oseduze, uma lokho kusiza. Yebo, futhi emnothweni wezintambo ezingaphansi. Nokho, kukhona okungahambi kahle nomyeni wakhe. Waqala ukuzihlukanisa nakakhulu nomkakhe. Cishe akunakwenzeka ekhaya, uhlala emsebenzini noma uhlangana nabangane.

Unina womyeni ubiza njalo futhi uveza isikhalazo sakhe esilandelayo kumkhwekazi wakhe. Uninazala unesiqiniseko sokuthi umfana omncane akayithandi futhi akayithandi indodana yakhe, ngakho kufanele ihlukanise futhi ihlukanise.

Amazwana
Umndeni omncane awudingi ukuhlala emndenini womfazi. Njengoba linciphisa isimo sabanye emehlweni abanye. Uninazala ukhathazekile ngendodana yakhe ayize ize, ngoba indodana kulezi zimo izama ukuthuthukisa isimo sayo yonke indlela. Yebo, lapho lesi sifiso sincishisiwe sibe yimali engenayo ephakeme kanye nomsebenzi. Kodwa kaningi uqala ukufuna ukuqashelwa kubangane, omunye owesifazane noma ibhodlela.

Ngizosiza umamazala wonke
Umbhangqwana osemusha uhlala nabazali bomyeni wakhe. Umalokazana uzama ukujabulisa uninazala kuzo zonke izinto, ubambe iqhaza ezindabeni zasekhaya, kodwa azikwazi ukuhambisana. Ngamunye wabo unemiqondo yakhe ngokuphila. Uninazala unomhawu ngokubambisana kwakhe futhi ufuna konke kwenzeke njengangaphambili. Umkhwenyana, weza endlini yakhe "nomqulu wakhe," njengoba bethi. Ngakho-ke, wenza konke okungalungile, uyasula kabi, akenzi kahle, ulungisa ngokungahambi kahle. Uninazala uzama ukumfundisa, futhi umalokazana wakhe uqala ukumelana naye. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuqhuma ekhishini kuphenduka ama-scandals, okuvela ngokuphindaphindiwe.

Indlovukazi endlini iyininazala. Akudingeki ukuba anikeze indima yakhe kumalokazanazana. Umfazi osemusha kufanele amukele imithetho kamamazala wakhe abuye ahlangane nabo. Umalokazana useyingane lapha futhi kusuka kule ndawo angathola izinzuzo ezithile. Vumela omama ukuba bahole umndeni wakhe, njengoba efuna. Kodwa-ke, akunjalo uma umamazala angavunyelwa empilweni yangasese yabasha.

Uninazala angathatha isikhundla somama
Owesifazane ongazange athole isisa nokuthandwa njengengane evela kumama wakhe, udlulisela indodakazi yakhe uthando kumamazala wakhe. Kwenzekani uma umama wasemakhaya aphatha le ntombazane ngokubandayo noma wakhulela ezintandane futhi akazange amukele uthando lomama. Kuluthando uyadinga ngempela futhi uzama ukumthola emndenini womyeni wakhe. Uninazala wakhe osukwini lokuqala ubiza umama wakhe, bahlala ngokuvumelana okuphelele.

Kubonakala kuhle, kodwa hhayi lapha bekukhona. Kusukela ekuqaleni, uninazala uhlotshaniswa nomalokazanazana okuhlobene nomama wakhe. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uqala ukwenza umamazana wakhe ithuba elibi, okuyinto eqoqa ngokucasuka nonina. Lokhu konke kungakapheli noma kamuva kuphenduka ingxabano futhi abesifazane baqala ukudonsa ngamunye eceleni kwabo indoda ebiza kakhulu.

Amazwana
Ubuhlobo phakathi komamazala nomalokazana kufanele kube nemingcele ethile. Umalokazana kuleso simo ulindela kumamazala omthandayo angathanda ukukuthola kumama wakhe. Kodwa umkhwekazi, ekhulise indodana yakhe, usufezile kakade umsebenzi wakhe wokubeletha futhi akaphoqelekile ukuba athande umalokazana wakhe njengendodakazi. Lapho imingcele phakathi komalokazana nomkhwekazi isusiwe, isimo siyashisa futhi siqhuma.

Kuzo zonke izinkinga zethu, uninazala kamama kaningi ubeka icala ngenduku yomkhwenyana womkhwenyana womkhwenyana. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani "embi" emndenini wabo, uninazala kufanele akhokhe konke. Njengokungathi umkakhe wayengathukutheli umyeni wakhe, akayikumcasula empini, kodwa ubuyisa umama wakhe. Uninazala kulesi simo uhlala kanzima kakhulu. Umalokazana akalokothi afunge nendoda yakhe, njengoba eqondisa wonke amandla amabi kuninazala. Umyeni akaphazamisi emibangweni yabesifazane, ngoba ubabheka "njengabesifazane besifazane".

Amazwana
Uma umuntu esola omunye umuntu ngenxa yokuhluleka kwakhe, khona-ke lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokungakhethi kwengqondo. Kufanele uthathe umthwalo wemisebenzi yezenzo zakho kanye nomndeni wakho, njengoba wena ngokwakho wakhetha umuntu owaba ngumyeni wakho. Uma umamazala wakho uphazamisa kakhulu umndeni wakho, vimbela ithonya lakhe, ngokwengqondo kuyoba lula ngaye. Abazukulu nabafana bazohlonipha ugogo nomama, abanomdla wabo siqu.

Emfundweni yabazukulu, ugogo akafanele aphazamise
Uninazala uhlonipha abazukulu bakhe, nakuba umalokazana wakhe engakhulanga ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu. Uchitha isikhathi esiningi nabazukulu bakhe futhi egcizelela ukuthi uyazi kangcono ukuthi angakhula kanjani izingane. Ingane enethuba lokukhetha phakathi kokubukwa kokubili kukagogo nomama iba yinkinga, idlala njalo ngobuthakathaka babantu abadala. Uninazala uphazamisa impilo yakhe yomalokazana, ngoba uzwa ukuthi uhlinzeka ngamasevisi akhe ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Amazwana
Ukuze umkhwekazi angabi nempoqo, kuyadingeka ukuthola umsebenzi wakhe izindlela ezilula kakhulu zomholo. Mhlawumbe imali, usizo ngemisebenzi yasendlini, izipho, njll, kanye nayo kungaba kuhle ukukhawulela isikhathi sokuhlala nomkhwekazi nabazukulu ngokukhokhisa inkulisa noma ingane. Kodwa udinga izingxabano eziqine kakhulu ukuze ungacasuli imizwa kanyoko. Isibonelo, ugogo uginwe kakhulu, futhi ingane kufanele ijwayele ukuxhumana nabangane bakhe. Phakathi kwezinye izinto, bazobhekana naye.