Indlela elula (kodwa hhayi eyona efanele kakhulu) ukuphuma ngokulalela abangane nezihlobo, ukugijima, lapho amehlo abukeka khona. Uma ucabanga ukuthi kuyoba ngcono kakhulu, ihlombe lomuntu onamandla alidingeki futhi ngeke lidingeke. Ngenxa yokuthi umshado wesibili, isimo singabuyekezwa ngokuchithwa kwamaphesenti ayishumi. Ngempela, kunoma yikuphi ukuphikisana, izinhlangothi zombili zihlale zibeka icala.
Ngakho-ke, ake siqale kusukela ekuqaleni - okungukuthi, kusukela ngesikhathi umndeni wadalwa. Akulona yini iqiniso ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho wayengumfanekiso wobuningi nokuthembeka? Kungani kushintshile kakhulu, kungani kufanele uhambe ufune umsebenzi?
Noma ngabe yini ongayisho, kodwa emshadweni kukhona njalo ukuphikisana phakathi kozakwethu. Lokhu kwenzeka kaningi ngokungaqondi, kodwa kubangele imiphumela yangempela kakhulu.
Indoda ngemvelo ngumholi, futhi uma ingekho izimfanelo zangempela kuye, kufanele zibonise ngokwazo kuphela emndenini. Futhi uma kwenzeka ngesinye isigaba sokuphila ukuthi uthathe wonke umsebenzi "wesilisa" - waqala ukuthola okuningi kunalokho akwenzayo, noma ngokujwayelekile wathatha umthwalo ophelele wokugcinwa komndeni - hhayi kuphela ukuzethemba kwakhe okuhluphayo, kodwa futhi ne-psyche in konke. Yebo, yebo, futhi ungaphathi ngalokhu ngehlazo!
Isibonelo, ake sicabange ukuthi izingane zincintisana kanjani. Thatha isiphambano ebangeni elide. Lapho umholi ekhishwa phambili, oshiya bonke abanye ngemuva, abaningi baqhubeka begijima, benethemba lokuthi lesibili, indawo yesithathu, noma nje ngokuthandwa kwezemidlalo. Kodwa kukhona futhi abafana abashiya umncintiswano. Ngoba ababoni iphuzu emzabalazweni oqhubekayo. Ubuza, lesi simo sithinta kanjani umndeni lapho umuntu omdala enqaba ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo?
Yebo, oqondile kakhulu. Kwenzeke ukuthi ngalesi sigaba sempilo yomndeni indoda yakho yayingaphandle, futhi uhola. Abambalwa besilisa abakwazi ukuphula lesi simo, ukuze basinde ngesithunzi. Ngakho kuza emqondweni wabo ukuthi awudingi ukushintsha lutho, ngoba unayo eyanele kakhulu. Futhi uma ungenayo ngokwanele, uzothola.
Ungamangalela umyeni ngenxa yobuthakathaka, khala, bhala ezindlebeni zakho - konke lokhu kuzokwandisa isimo esivele sinzima kakade. Kungcono ukuzitholela (kuwe) ukuthi indoda yakho ibuthakathaka. Kodwa, kholwa kimi, kulokhu akazange ayeke ukuba ngumuntu. Futhi kusengenzeka ukukulungisa.
Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukukhumbula ukuthi ungowesifazane, ungesabi ukuba buthakathaka futhi. Lokhu, kunjalo, kunzima futhi kuyesabeka. Akunakwenzeka ukuyeka umsebenzi nokubhubhisa umndeni ebukhosini obunxusa! Kodwa ukwenza ezinye, ngisho nezinyathelo ezincane, kulezi ziqondiso zivele zidingekile.
Uma uthanda umyeni wakho, mbonise ukuthi uhlombe oluqinile kuwe! Yenza kucace ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza izinto ngaphandle kwalo. Phakamisa ukuziqhenya kwakhe: qalisa okungenani ukuthi uthi unamandla, unamandla-abanye babeyolahlekelwa umsebenzi wabo, esikhathini eside esidlule baphuza, futhi akafani nalokhu! Futhi ke nje uqale ukukhononda ngabasebenza nabo, abaphathi, ukusebenza ngokweqile emsebenzini. Uma umndeni ungaphumeleli umkhathi wothando, inhlonipho, ukusekelwa komunye, lokhu kuzosebenza.
Ungalindeli imiphumela esheshayo. Lo msebenzi awubonakali engxenyeni ye-wand magic. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunzima ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba indoda ihambe, ngokwesibonelo, ekufakeni amapayipi, ngemuva kwendawo eyedlule waba isekela likamqondisi. Yiba nengqondo.
Uma umyeni engathandi isikhundla esiyitholile, futhi ngokushesha uyayenqaba, umbuze ngenyembezi ukuba acabange futhi - ngoba unenkinga emsebenzini, mhlawumbe kunciphisa. Mnike isizathu esihle sokuthi kungani kufanele azenzele. Lesi yisikhathi somqondo osengqondweni, kunzima kakhulu kumuntu - ukuqala ukusebenza emva kweminyaka eminingana yokungenzi lutho.
Igama elithi "amandla", elikhulunywe esihlokweni salesi sihloko, sibonisa isimo sengqondo sabafazi abaningi enkingeni yokuntuleka kwemisebenzi nokungahloniphi kwamadoda. Kodwa abesifazane abanjalo kufanele baqonde ukuthi amandla kule ndaba akusiyo nje umsizi, kodwa futhi isithintelo esengeziwe. Ukuphoqeleka ukwenza noma yini ngokumelene nentando ingaba yisigqila, ubuthakathaka, buthaka. Kuthiwani kuwe umyeni onjalo, yini okudingekayo ukubeka imizamo yokuphoqa indoda ukuba isebenze?
Kodwa nokho: ngokuvamile ngemva kokuhlukanisa, abayeni basebenze ngokunyuka komsebenzi. Awucabangi, kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Yebo, akekho owenqabelayo, akawanyatheli odakeni! Emandleni kwanoma yimuphi owesifazane ohlakaniphile, ozimisele ukukhula amaphiko omuntu ngemuva kwakhe. Khumbula lokhu, uthande futhi uhloniphe oshade naye, umnike ilungelo lokuhola. Vumela uhambo lukahulumeni luhambe, futhi uyothatha!