Ngokuzithoba, ngokujabula ngenjabulo ngenhlanhla nangempumelelo yomngani omkhulu kunzima ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kunokuba umsekele esimeni esinzima. Yiqiniso, sivame ukuzitshela ukuthi lokhu akusilo umona, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uqhubeke uhlala nalo. Ungaba kanjani kulesi simo?
Izazi zengqondo ziqinisekisa ukuthi akukho muntu emhlabeni ongakaze amhawukele okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe. Uhlangane nabantu abanjalo? Umona ungumuntu, umuzwa ojwayelekile, futhi wabonakala ezikhathini zasendulo. Kulula ngathi ukuthi singaboni ukuthi sithukuthelela umuntu, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi lo mzwelo uvule amehlo ethu futhi usenze sicabange. Izinga lapho umuntu evulekile futhi evuthiwe kuncike kulokho azokwenza ngalokhu kutholakala.
Ngakho-ke, yini ephumayo, ukuthi iyasihawukela ngokuhle?
Ngokwemvelo, njengazo zonke ezinye izenzakalo, umona unenzuzo nezinsalela. Kukhona amacala lapho owesifazane eya cosmetologist kuphela ngoba umakhelwane wakhe, oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, kubonakala kangcono kakhulu. Ngokuvamile umona usenza sithole umsebenzi omusha, ohloniphekile, uhambe ngokuzivocavoca, ufunde isiNgisi noma ubhalise ku-gym, ngeke uphikisane neqiniso lokuthi kuhle?
Kungani intukuthelo ishiya isilwane esingenangqondo?
Lapho umuntu enomona, unciphisa izingozi zakhe ezingokomqondo. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Sifisa kuphela uma siziqhathanisa nomuntu, futhi sisesimweni esibi uma siqhathaniswa nomunye umuntu. Uma singazange sikuqaphele lokhu futhi singazange sibe nomona, khona-ke siyobe sidliwe imizwa yokungaphansi. Futhi kungukuthi ngeke kwenzeke ukukwenza!
Kudingeka senze ingxoxo ecacile yedwa, sihlaziye izimo eziholele kulo mphumela noma ngisho nokuya kwengqondo kwengqondo - lokhu sidinga umsebenzi omkhulu kithi, umsebenzi wangaphakathi. Uma unquma ukuba ngcono, akekho ozokuyeka, uzoshintsha uhlelo lokubaluleka futhi wakhe kabusha ubuntu bakho. Yiqiniso, ukusebenza ngokwakho kuwumsebenzi onzima, abantu abaningi nje bafuna ukuba nomhawu futhi bahlale ngezandla eziboshwe.
Umzwelo esiwudingayo ngempela ngendlela yephilisi yesikhala sokuthula, okusiza ukuphazamisa ubuhlungu bese uphinde uvuselele ukushaqeka. Kodwa-ke, sonke isikhathi sokusebenzisa umhawu ngeke kwenzeke, lokhu kungaphandle kombuzo, kungenjalo esikhundleni somgomo kanye nesikhuthazo, uzothola i-splinter eyohlala ihlala njalo enhliziyweni yakho, noma isilawu eshisayo, esingajabulisi.
Phonsa konke eqinisweni lokuthi ukuphila kungalungile futhi uhlale sljazruki - lokhu kuyinto yokugcina, khumbula ukuthi ilanga likhanya ngokufanayo. Uyakhathazeka ukuthi esikoleni sakho, umngane wakho ufundela omunye walaba abathathu, ebhala umsebenzi wakho wesikole, futhi manje unezindlu zakhe ezinhle futhi ezinkulu, uthanda isikhundla sakhe esiphakeme futhi esikhokhelwa kakhulu. Ucabanga ukuthi kungani kufanelekile konke lokhu, ngoba ucabanga ukuthi konke lokhu kufanele kube khona, uyakufanele? Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo. Akazange ahlale ngezandla eziboshwe, futhi akazange awele ekhanda lakhe. Wafanelwe, ngoba konke kunakho. Ukuphila kuyincenye ehlelekile, futhi zonke izimo azizona zengozi. Uma uya emhlanganweni ngenhlanhla, khona-ke kuhamba kuwe, ungesabi ukwenza iphutha, uthembele abantu futhi ungesabi ukubonakala ungenangqondo futhi uhlekisa ...
Ngakho ingxenye yesibili yomhawu iyisiqhenya?
Ezimweni eziningi, yebo. Izazi zengqondo ezinokuhlangenwe nakho okukhulu ziye zaphawula ukuthi abantu ababa nomona ngabangane babo nabo bonke abazungezile besaba ukwethemba omunye umuntu, bacabanga ukuthi bangancika kuphela futhi bathembele kuye, besaba ukukhubeka. Abantu abanjalo cishe abakwazi ukusho amagama amathathu omlingo: "Ngicela ungisize." Ngokuvamile bayenqaba lokho abakufunayo, kodwa akukho mbuzo abacela usizo. Eqinisweni, abantu abazungezile bayokujabulela ukusisiza, kubalulekile ukubuza, ngoba kulezi zimo abazizwa ukuthi zidingekile futhi zinenjongo. Emva kwakho konke, uma usulungele ukwamukela usizo, inhlanhla iya ezandleni zakho.
Iphuzu elibalulekile - akukho cala kufanele uzilahle ngenxa yokuba nomhawu ngentombi yakho. Sizibeka icala, futhi lo mzwelo ubonakala ubamba imilenze nezandla ndawonye - angeke kube nokunyakaza nhlobo. Cabanga ngawe: azikho abantu abahle, ngakho imizwa ayikwazi ukuhleleka. Awusodwa, bonke abantu bazwa imizwa ethile, kuhlanganise nomona, ngisho noma baphumelela kakhulu. Umona uzohamba njalo nawe, kuze kube yilapho usithethelela khona. Ngiyabonga imvelo yokuthi kukhona lo mzwelo womona, ngoba ufunde ukuthi intombi yakho ikhuthazwe emsebenzini futhi uzama ukuthola umsebenzi omuhle futhi, umona usenza sibe ngcono, usisiza sishintshe futhi sishintshe impilo yethu ibe ngcono.
Indlela yokusinda empumelelweni yomngane, indlela yokuqondisa umona ngendlela efanele?
Okokuqala, yiyeke ukuziqhathanisa nentombi yakho, ngakho-ke akukho nhlobo. Ungaziqhathanisa nawe kuphela, kodwa eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule. Khumbula ukuthi ungumuntu onjani, yini oyifunayo? Namuhla, ngokuqinisekile, unezinto eziningi ozifunayo, ngoba lokhu kuyimpumelelo yakho. Ufuna futhi wamukele!
Khona-ke ungazami ukuthola lokho intombi yakho inakho. Umuntu oyedwa injabulo ngumndeni oqinile ojabulisayo, kanti omunye - usuku ngalunye ukulandisa ngemali enkulu. Ngeke ujabule uma ufinyelela imigomo yabanye abantu, ubeke phambili futhi uzuze. Ayikho iresiphi eyodwa yokuphumelela nenjabulo, ngoba sonke singabantu ngabanye. Ukuzama ukuthola lokho abanye abakwenzayo kuyindlela engalungile, kusengenakwenzeka ukubamba umngane. Uvele uqale imoto yemali, kanti umngane wakho uzothenga i-cottage, futhi uzokwenzenjani ngaleso sikhathi? Landela indlela yakho futhi uqaphele okwenzekayo empilweni yakho, ngaphandle kwalokho awukwazi ukujabulela umzuzu wenjabulo lapho usukhulile uzobona ukuthi impilo yakho yonke idlalwe "ukubambisana" nentombazane yakho.
Lalela inhliziyo yakho, izokutshela indlela efanele, ezokuholela empumelelweni, kodwa akukho isifiso sokuba njengomngani.
Kuthiwani uma beba nomona? Uyajabula lapho othile enomona izimpahla?
Ungaqala ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ukuhlukanisa kungabhubhisa yonke impumelelo yakho: umndeni ojabulayo, uqaphele amaphupho ochwepheshe, umsebenzi ozithandayo nokunye.
Mhlawumbe uzothola intukuthelo, futhi uzozwa ukuthi lokhu kungukungabi nabulungisa, ngoba awuzange uthembele kunoma ubani, wayengalindelanga imana evela ezulwini, futhi usuku ngalunye uzuze kokubili izinzuzo ezingokwenyama nezingokomoya ngomsebenzi osindayo nsuku zonke. Ngeke usichaze kubangani bakho ngabanye, isibonelo, ukuthi zonke izinto zakho ezinhle ozozishintsha kusukela ekugqoke izingubo zokugqoka, ebusuku noma isikhathi eside esetshenziselwe ukuzithenga. Akekho owaziyo ukuthi izibusiso ozinikezwe zona zinikwe. Mhlawumbe, abantu obafisayo, baye bathola konke okusemqoka nakakhulu.
Yeka ukunakekelwa kwakho, ungathinti ukubaluleka kukho. Mhlawumbe intombi efanayo iyakunxusa, ngoba inemali, kodwa akekho umuntu onakekelayo onothando futhi onothando, ngoba uthando lunomqondo oqhakazile ongekho wonke umuntu owaziyo, kodwa ingcebo yezinto ezibonakalayo ingatholakala ngokushada, kusukela efulethini eliqashiwe libe yindlu. Kukhona indaba enjalo, lapho umlingisi oyinhloko elwa nobubi, kodwa akakwazanga ukumnqoba, bese eqonda ukuthi nje udinga ukubuyela kuye. Wayeka ukuzingela abathakathi namadonsons, futhi wamane waqala ukuphila nokujabulela ukuphila. Njengomphumela wobuhle, okuningi kuye kwaba ukuthi umzimba awukwazanga ukumelana nokuhlupha futhi ngokwawo wanyamalala. Ngakho-ke: beka ukubala abanye abantu, ubala imali yabo futhi ubheke kuwo emphefumulweni, baphile impilo yakho, bese ungayizihawu, wena ngokwakho uzozinikela isikhathi esiningi kuwe nakubathandekayo bakho. Into eyinhloko ukuthi impilo yakho ijabule wena, futhi ulethe imizwelo emihle kakhulu futhi emihle kakhulu!