Izimo zokuphila .
Ngokuvamile imbangela yokwethuka ijulile ngaphansi kwezimo zokuphila. Abanye bahlale becasulwa yizwi elibi labasebenzi babo, abanye bayesaba mayelana nemibuzo ephathelene nendaba yabo, kanti abanye abakwazi ukubekezelela lokho okungaziwa. Ukuhluleka komuntu siqu, ukungathandi, amanga, ukungazethembi, umhawu, ukuphuthumayo kuholele ekuthuthukiseni isimo. Abantu abanovalo bavame ukuphucwa ikhono lokuhlola kahle izimo bese benza isinqumo esifanele. Lokhu kumvimbela ukuba aphile, aphendule ngokwanele izwe elikuzungezile. Futhi umbuthano uvala, ukuvala ithuba lokuphila nokuphila okuvamile. Kodwa, njengoba izazi zengqondo zithole, ungathola indlela yokuphuma kulo mbuthano.
Amathiphu wezimo zengqondo ngekwesaba
Ukulingisa .
Kuyaziwa indlela ephumelelayo futhi ethandwayo yokufeza lokhu. Okuyinhloko yale ndlela kulandelwa. Kulokhu, umuntu kusengaphambili ulahlekelwa isimo esinzima futhi ashintshe ukuziphatha kwakhe ngalesi sikhathi. Ukufanisa ukusabela okuhle ekuphenduleni isenzo esibangela ukuthi sibe nokwesaba, kukuvumela ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Uma uthola ulwazi oluthe xaxa usebenzisa le nqubo, amathuba okudinga ukwedlula ukwesaba. Isibonelo, uma usebenza lo mzwelo ongathandeki kubangelwa umphathi wakho noma isisebenzi esikhundla esiphakeme, uzicabange njengomuntu obaluleke kakhulu futhi usebenzise le ndima kuwe, uphile, uyidlale. Bese uxhumana nabo kusukela esikhundleni salolu daba. Mhlawumbe okokuqala ngeke uphumelele. Ungaphelelwa yithemba, ukuqeqeshwa kuzothela izithelo, into esemqoka akufanele ukuphazamise. Udinga ukuzama ukulahlekelwa yizo zonke izimo ezibangela ukukhathazeka nokwesaba. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukusetshenziswa kokuziphatha okusha kuzoba umkhuba wakho, futhi uzoyeka ukukhathazeka ngeze.
Isici noma ukulawula?
Abaningi bakhipha ukwesaba komlingiswa wabo, bazikholisa ngokwabo nabanye ukuthi kunjalo. Nokho, kufanele udumale - lokhu kuyintando yakho. Umuntu uyakwazi ngempela ukuzilawula. Ukwesaba kuyindlela yokuveza ukunganaki komuntu noma ukufihla amaphutha, kunalokho, ngisho nezinkinga. Sidinga ukuqeda lokhu. Ngakho, uzizwa ucasule futhi uqala ukwethuka. Ungalindeli ukuhlaselwa kwesimo. Uma lokhu kungxoxwa - phuma uphinde ube yedwa, umemeza wedwa, ukhulule amandla amabi. Akudingeki ukuba ziqoqe ngokwayo, ngaphandle kwalokho kuzolandela noma kamuva ukuthola indlela yokuphuma. Uma kunokwenzeka, vakashela i-gym bese ukhiphe yonke into yakho emibi ngokushaya amaphuzu. Noma yimuphi omunye umsebenzi womzimba uzokwenza. Ngalokhu awukhiphi nje imizwelo embi, kodwa futhi uthuthukise ifomu lakho lomzimba.
Iseluleko kubesifazane .
Kungenzeka kube lula ukukhipha ukwesaba kwabesifazane abazibukela. Amathiphu okwesaba kanje. Kwanele ukuzibheka esibukweni ngesikhathi sokuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, cela umuntu oseduze nawe ukuthi asuse lesi senzo ku-camcorder yakho engabonakali. Indoda enesibindi ayijabulisi kangangokuthi lapho ebona evela ngaphandle, ngeke ukholwe ukuthi nguwe. Lokhu kuguquka kwamehlo kuvame ukususa isifiso sokuzihlukanisa nabanye nabanye isikhathi eside. Uma isimo siphenduka, buyekeza ingobo yomlando wakho wevidiyo.
Ukuzihlukanisa .
Khipha kahle ukwesaba kokuzihlukanisa. Hlala yedwa nawe, zama ukuqonda imizwa yakho. Khulisa kuwe izihluthulelo zothando, umusa, ukubekezela kwabanye. Abantu abaphelele. Bona, njengawe, banamaphutha abo. Babathethelele. Zithethelele wena. Faka ku-wave enhle. Uma ukwesaba, khona-ke kukhona isizathu salokhu. Yiya kuye. Shintsha impilo yakho, uma kunesidingo, ungavumeli imizwelo emibi ilawulwe impilo yakho.
Indlela endala .
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi izinzwa zakho ziphelile, zama ukuphumula okuthile. Indlela emihle endala ukubala ku-10. Abanye abantu banemizuzwana embalwa nje ukuze bazime futhi bathathe isimo. Bhala ngokujulile futhi uphume ngokuthula, mhlawumbe kuzodingeka kwenziwe izikhathi eziningana. Izazi zengqondo zithole ukuthi le ndlela isekela cishe wonke umuntu. Into esemqoka ukuthi ube nesikhathi sokuzivimbela wena ngisho nangomzuzwana.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuzivocavoca, okuyinto abadlali abaningi nabagijimi abaye bazamukela kusuka kwengqondo ye-psychotherapists, kuyisizo esihle. Phakathi nengxoxo noma ukulinda, udinga ukuhlala esihlalweni ngqo, ubeke izandla zakho emadolweni. Lokhu kusiza ukuthola amandla engeziwe, ukuzethemba. Uma uhamba, phumula zonke izingxenye zomzimba futhi uhambe ngokukhululekile, ungakwazi ngisho gesticulate. Lokhu kuzokhipha ukucindezeleka emzimbeni futhi kukhululeke amandla okudingeka alawulwe ukulawula imizwelo.
Ukwesaba .
Ngokuvamile imbangela yokwesaba okukhulu kuyesaba. Ukuphazamisa ikhono lomuntu ukuzilawula kanye nemizwelo yakhe, uholela ekuphazanyeni kokulinganisela, kusisusa kuye. "Akulula kimi, ngiyesaba, kodwa lapha ..." - i-ellipsis ingathathelwa yinoma iyiphi inkulumo. Cishe ngamunye wethu wazizwa lokhu kithi. Ukwesaba ngokwemvelo kungaba, isibonelo, ngaphambi kokuhlolwa, ngenxa yokwesaba ukwehluleka ukuhlolwa. Kulesi simo, isimo ngesimo esibi sizosiza ukuphumula nokuphatha kahle isimo. Isibonelo, ucabanga ukuthi uzothola uphawu olungathandeki. Kunokuba kusongela wena? Phinda uhlole. Ngokudonswa. Cabanga ngalokho ozokwenza kulezi zimo. Ingabe uzophinde ufunde isihloko futhi ukhethe esinye isikhungo? Yizame wena futhi uyikhohlwe. Bese uvumelanisa nemizwelo emihle elindele wena uma kwenzeka impumelelo. Okujabulisayo, okuhle. Misa kulezi zinkinga, zizisebenzise wena futhi ukhulule. Kumele uhambe kuzo zombili izimo ngokwengqondo futhi ukhohlwe ngabo. Ekugcineni, ingabe kunesabe ukuthi sekuvele kukhona? Yebo akunjalo. Izenzakalo ezedlule azibangeli imizwelo eminingi, ngisho noma beyizingokoqobo kuphela.
Kukhona ukwesaba okukhulu, hhayi ngokusekelwe esimweni esiyingozi ngempela. Lokhu kuyi-phobia. Ngenkinga, udinga ukuxhumana nodokotela-psychotherapist. Sithemba ukuthi iseluleko sethu sososayensi wezokwelapha esinokukhathazeka okwedlulele sizokusiza.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu - qiniseka ngokwakho. Ungangabazi, uzonqoba konke, uzophumelela. Ngisho noma ekuqaleni kwendlela yokwesaba kuyokukhathaza ngezikhathi ezithile, lokhu akusona isizathu sokuyeka ukuzithuthukisa nokuphonsa izandla zakho. Lokhu kufanele kube yisikhuthazo esengeziwe, ngoba nguwe kuphela owaziyo okukulindele ngenxa yomzabalazo - ukujabulela ukuthula kokuphila. Kuyafaneleka ukuzama, akunjalo?