Yiqiniso, kuyabuhlungu kakhulu futhi kuyamcasula lapho umuntu owake wakukhetha esixukwini eqala ukukubona futhi njengowesifazane ojwayelekile kakhulu, ofana nabo bonke abanye. Kodwa ngisho nakulesi simo kubalulekile ukuphuma ngenhlonipho. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi ukulangazelela okujwayelekile okwenziwe uthando kuthinteke ekusebenzeni okungenele, okubuhlungu nokulimazayo. Ukuzwa komfazi olahliwe kuyingozi kakhulu. Into yokuqala efika engqondweni ukubuyisela othandekayo wakho kunoma iyiphi imali. Lapho ebuya, lo wesifazane uthemba ukuphulukisa umphefumulo wakhe olimele. Kodwa ngeze ...
I-Catastrophe
Ngokuvamile owesifazane ubona ukuhoxiswa komuntu njengengozi ephelele: "Kuphelile, ngeke kusaba khona okuhle, angisoze ngakwazi ukujabulela ukuphila nokuthanda omunye umuntu."
Ukungena ekucindezelekeni nokunganaki, owesifazane ubonakala ehlushwa ubuhlungu obukhona kulokho akulindele kusasa. Futhi, ukwakha izibikezelo ezimbi kunazo zonke, ugoba ngokujulile ekujuleni kokudabuka kwakhe kanye "nomonakalo".
Inkinga Yokuziphendulela
Ngokuvamile owesifazane uyazibuza ngale ndlela: "Ungikhethile, ngakhetha kwabanye abaningi, ngakho-ke ngiyinto engavamile ngempela!" Kunesizathu sokuziqhenya.
Kodwa lapha washiya, okusho ukuthi: "Wangikhetha, akadingi nami, angisho lutho kuye, ngakho-ke akukho lutho olungangiqonda ngalo." Ukuhoxiswa komuntu njalo kuletha ukucindezeleka okucindezelayo kokuzihlonipha owesifazane. Futhi ngisho nasomuntu othembekile ngokuphelele, kunezinkinga zokuzidela:
"Ngisho okuthile okungahambi kahle, ngenza okuthile okungalungile, akunakwenzeka ukuthi konke akunangqondo ..." Ukufuna icala lomuntu kuqala kuqala. Futhi ngisho noma kungekho iphutha, into efana nayo ingatholakala njalo.
Izimo ezithakazelisayo nge-penchant ye "samokokaniyu" zibona ikhefu nabathandekayo, njengobufakazi bokungabi nalutho kwabo bonke. Bazitholela izimpikiswano eziningi kanye neziphambeko: "Nginamafutha kakhulu (omncane)", "Angiyithakazelanga ngokwanele futhi ngifundisiwe", "Ngingumuntu okhululekile", "Ngimdala kakhulu (okubi) ..." njalo njalo.
I-logic ilula: "Indoda elandelayo - ngiyaphila, lo muntu washiya - futhi" wasusa "nami ngokwami ukuzethemba kwami."
Imandla yomkhuba
Uma ubuyela ekhaya, usekudleni okuzidlayo ngokuzidla bese uqala ukumqothula, ubheka inkinga ku-TV. Ukulangazelela!
Ulahlekelwa umkhuba wakhe: "Sawubona!", "Ubusuku obuhle!" Ukungahloniphi kwakhe kukhishwe esihlalweni sezingubo zokugqoka, izinqwaba zamaphephandaba namaphephandaba etafuleni.
Ngalobobusuku. Yeka indlela engakhululekile ukulala ngaphandle kokumanga kwakhe, ukuphefumula kwakhe! Uboshiwe ubunqunu obungavamile bombhede obanzi ... Uma ubheka izingubo zakho, ukhubeka kwihembe abalikhohliwe, futhi inhliziyo yakho icindezelwe kusuka iphunga elijwayelekile.
Akumangazi - abantu bajwayele ukujwayela omunye nomunye. Ngokufanayo ngendlela efanayo, ngendlela, njengokungaphakathi kwendawo. Ngisho nokuhlelwa kabusha kwefenisha kubangele kuqala ukuthi sizitholela ngokuzenzekelayo ukuthi sibheke emagumbini bese "siwela" ezindaweni ezingenalutho. Noma ngokuzenzekelayo, ngememori yakudala, ezama ukuvula i-TV, esevele ikhona kwenye ikhoneni ...
Ukwesaba isizungu
Umuntu ochitha naye isikhathi esiningi, lapho usebenzisa khona amandla akho engqondo nengokwenyama, ngokungangabazeki uthuthukisa impilo yakho ngokubonakalayo. Ngokuhamba kwakhe, insimu enkulu yomsebenzi iyanyamalala - akekho ozoqeda "ububi, akekho ozojabulisa izidlo zokudla, ukugqoka izinto ezifanele futhi ukusola zonke izinkinga zabo nokuhluleka. Akekho ozokuthola ukugcina ubuhlobo!
Uzwa ukuthi ulahlekelwe okuthile okubaluleke kakhulu. Ekuphileni kwavela ukungabi nalutho okukhulu, okungekho okuzogcwalisa. Wena unesizungu, futhi isizungu sithuthukiswa ukuqiniseka kwakho okungenangqondo ukuthi lokhu kuzoqhubeka isikhathi eside, mhlawumbe impilo yakho yonke.
Ukushintsha kwezwe
Awufuni neze ukuhamba yedwa lapho owake wahamba khona. Enkampanini lapho kuvame ukuhlangana ngamabili, awusalindelekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuvela, kunezindawo lapho wena wedwa ungabonakali uhloniphekile.
Ngokudabukisayo, uma uxhunywe nesevisi ehlanganyelwe "yangaphambili" noma isifundo. Akudingeki ukuthi, akujabulisi ukumbona nsuku zonke ngaphandle kwesithunzi sethemba lokubuya - futhi mhlawumbe, enkampanini yethando elisha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, udinga ukukhuluma nozakwabo mayelana nobuhlobo bakho obuguquliwe. Abalobi abanobuningi bayobe bekulinde ngokucophelela izindaba ezivamile mayelana nokuphila kwakho siqu, futhi, ngokungangabazeki, badlule ukubuka kwabo okubukeka, akukho lutho olungaqondakali.
Okumangalisa kakhulu ithemba lokushintsha imisebenzi - ikakhulukazi uma ukhetho lukhawulelwe.
Ukushintsha umjikelezo wokuxhumana nesimo somuntu siqu somphakathi kungenye umthombo wokuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki.
Kuzothatha isikhathi esiningi namandla ukuze ubhekane nokungabi nalutho okucindezelayo futhi ugcwalise ngokubonakala okusha, okuhlangenwe nakho okumnandi nabangani.
Isimiso sokuvumelana
Uma ngabe uhambe, into eyingozi kunazo zonke ongayenza ukuzama ukumbuyisela ngokushesha. Ungaphindi uthathe amanxeba naye, ukhalele ukoma wokuphindisela.
Ngokwezibalo, ubuhlungu obukhulu obubangelwa ukuhlukanisa, kwenzeka ngemva kwezinsuku ezingu-40. Kodwa ama-echoes akhe angabangela izinyanga ezintathu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nezinyanga eziyisithupha. Konke kuxhomeke ezimweni zokuphila ongakwazi - futhi kufanele! - zidale wena.
Ngokuvumelana nesimiso esibaluleke kakhulu sokuvumelana ngokuphila, kunezinhlaka ezine eziyinhloko lapho kudingeka khona imali engalinganayo yamandla: umzimba (impilo), umsebenzi (umsebenzi, ukuzifundela), ukukhulumisana (umndeni, uthando, ubungane) kanye nemibandela yencazelo yokuphila.
Konke lokhu kungaboniswa ngesimo somgibeli ohambayo (umsebenzi) ekufinyeleleni umgomo wokugcina (incazelo yokuphila). Ukufinyelela kulo mgomo, udinga ihhashi eliqeqeshiwe (umzimba). Futhi uma ihhashi liwehla, kuzodinga ukusekelwa (ukuxhumana). Ukulinganisa ibhalansi yamandla oyitshalile kulezi zindawo, ungayilungisa ukuze usondelane nesilinganiso esihle: 25% ngesigaba ngasinye.
Cabanga, akusiwo amandla amakhulu owachitha ekukhulumisaneni, uma ngokuhamba komuntu othandekayo, umhlaba ugeleza usuke ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho? Phela, unezinto ezintathu zokuvumelanisa ngokuphila!
Qonda izimbangela
- Cabanga ngalokho okungase kumshukumise ukuba akwenze nawe.
- Khuluma naye - ngokukhululekile nangenhlawulo. Uma ufuna ngempela impendulo eqotho, gwema isihlamba esincane.
- Ngisho noma ngabe uhlele izizathu zakhe, mhlawumbe izizathu zegebe zikhona ngokuphelele. Ungakunikela ngokungathembeki nangokweqile, ekuhluphekeni empeleni ngenxa yokufudumala komzwelo nokushisa kwakho ngokocansi. Ukuze bangaboni imizwa yabo, abantu ngokuvamile abadalula izisusa zeqiniso. Zama ukuzixazulula wena.
- Khumbula lapho ebheka ngokucasuka, bese uzama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani. Mhlawumbe uyamcasula?
- Mhlawumbe uyesaba ukusondelana okungokomoya nokuthembela kwakhe. Lapho lo mdlalo uphenduka uthando olujulile, "ubalekela," kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungowesifazane noma lo wesifazane.
- Mhlawumbe wayengakaze athandeke ngawe, kepha "walinda" enye isizungu futhi akahlose ukwakha ubuhlobo obunzima.
- Vuma ukuthi uhlukile kakhulu kuye. Awukwazi ukwanelisa izidingo zakhe, kodwa ungowakho. Ngokubili uzohlukunyezwa kuphela, futhi wakuqonda ngaphambi kwakho.
- Akukakushiywa ukuthi akayona inkinga enkulu yokuphila. Wayenesidingo sokushintsha konke ngokuzenzekelayo, uqala ngaphandle kokuzisola ukushisa amabhuloho futhi unqume konke okukuxhumanisa nakho okudlule - kubandakanya ubuhlobo bakho naye.
Hlanganisa nesimo sakho bese uzama ukuyisebenzisa. Cabanga ukuthi mangaki amathuba amasha avula ngaphambi kwakho!
Ukumomotheka kumuntu ongaziwayo kanye nomdlalo wokudlala ngothando ngeke manje ulahlekelwe izigcawu zomhawu. Ungagqoka i-suit engayithandi; ukuphoqa ukwenza ngendlela oyifunayo; ukwenza izinwele ezithintekayo; Spread laundry ezungeze indlu; ukuba usebenzise i-aerobics nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku noma ubusuku; amahora axoxa nomngane. Akekho ozophikisana namafilimu nezinhlelo zakho ozithandayo bese uphendukela kumdlalo webhola.
Ukhululekile! Ungahamba ubusuku bonke futhi ungaveli ngezizathu; kukhona into inhliziyo enqwenelayo; Ungapheki ukudla okumnandi, hambisa ifenisha, ushintshe umbala wekhawundlu kanye nephephadonga kusuka kumnyama kuya ku-canary elikhanyayo.
Manje unesibopho sayo yonke into ekuphenduleni. Vumela ngokwesikhashana (okwesikhashana), kodwa kungekho muntu futhi akekho oxhunyiwe! Esikhundleni sokuzizwa unecala uthola ukuqiniseka okuphelele ukuthi ngaphandle kwalo ngeke ulahleke.
Wena omuhle, ozimele, uhamba nge-gait eqinisekisayo, la madoda ayawazisa ngemva kwalokho, futhi omunye wabo ngokuqinisekile uzoba isiphetho sakho. Ngokuqinisekile uyojabula - ngemva kwakho konke, imibhangqwana ejabule ngempela ayidibanisi!
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