Ihora lokuhlukanisa liseduze
Thina, ngokungafani nogogo bethu nabesifazane baseMelika, babenenhlanhla enkulu - singazinikela kumntwana oyigugu iminyaka emithathu yonke. Ngalesi sikhathi lapho owesifazane egcina umsebenzi wakhe. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi kufanele ubeke isambatho sebhizinisi ekuqaleni. Kunezizathu eziningi zezizathu zalokhu, kodwa kunezimpikiswano eziningi ngokumelene nazo. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuba ziqhubeke zodwa, kodwa nasezintweni zabantwana. Ngokombono wabo, kungcono ukujoyina abasebenzi kusukela ngesikhathi lapho ingane isivele isilungele ukuzisika kude nonina - futhi lokhu kuvame ukuthatha iminyaka emibili kuya kwemibili kuphela. Kuyabuhlungu kakhulu ukubona ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali bezingane kuze kube unyaka. Ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila, imvuthuluka yakha umqondo oyisisekelo wokuthembela emhlabeni. Ngamanye amazwi, uma unina edla, enxusa, eguqula izinwele ezimanzi, umntwana uyajabula.
Ayiningi, kepha ikhwalithi
Eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule, isazi sezengqondo esidumile esingumNgisi uJay Belski, onguchwepheshe ekutadisheni ukuthuthukiswa kwezingane, wathi izingane ezinenkampani yothisha kanye namannies amahora angaba ngu-20 ngesonto zingasuka kumama, futhi "ziyobunjwa" yizinkathazo ezihlukahlukene ezizokwenza ukwazi ngawe ebusheni. Ngemva kwalokho, omama abaningi abasebenza basheshe bavakashele izitatimende ngokushiya. Kodwa-ke, akubona bonke ososayensi ababelana ngemibono yomsebenzi wabo ovelele, becabanga ukuthi ikhwalithi yesikhathi esichitha kanye nomama akuyona ebaluleke kakhulu kwengane. Vumelanani, uma umama womama wonke usuku ehlala naye emuva kwengane, ama-carrots akhazimulayo futhi ephosa ipani, akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuyomjabulisa. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uma ukhuluma kuphela nomntanakho isigamu sehora ngosuku (ngisho namantombazane ebhizinisi angaphezu kwamatasa angakwazi ukukukhokhela), ebonisa isithakazelo esiqotho kukho konke okukhathazayo, ngeke azizwe enqatshelwe uthando lomama wakhe.
Inkulana, unina, ugogo ...
Uma unquma ukuya emsebenzini, kuyoba nenkinga - obani okufanele ushiye ingane. Uma ingane isenele ngokwanele (futhi ifinyelele eminyakeni yobudala), yinike inkulisa. Kodwa ungakhohlwa izimiso zokuhamba kancane: okokuqala, uhola kuphela ukuhamba, bese uhola isigamu sosuku bese kuthi lapho ingane iguqulela, ungayishiya enkampanini yontanga usuku lonke. Iyiphi ingadi ongayikhetha yindaba yokunambitheka kanye namathuba ezezimali. Izifunda zihle ngoba zingabizi futhi zihlangothini lwakho. Kodwa-ke, kuyadingeka ukuba ubhalise lapho kusengaphambili - njengomthetho, imigqa yalezi zikhungo ihlala isikhathi eside kakhulu. I-kindergartens ekhethekile isebenza ngokuvumelana nezinhlelo ezahlukene: indlela ye-Valdor (ugcizelele emfundweni yokuziphatha), uhlelo lweMontessori (ugcizelele indlela yokufinyelela ngayinye kwengane ngayinye, ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono amakhono emoto), ngokusho kweZazitsev (ukugxila ekulungiseleleni okunamandla kokufunda esikoleni, ukubala) nabanye.
Uma uphoqeleka ukuya emsebenzini lapho ingane yakho ingakabi neminyaka engu-3 ubudala, ungamthuma ekamelweni eliyingane (kusukela eminyakeni eyodwa nengxenye), ukuqasha ingane noma ukhulume nengane nomzukulu kagogo wakho. I-nursery iyona ndlela engabizi kakhulu kuhlelo lokusebenza. Kodwa-ke, othisha bafuna ukuthi ingane isivele ijwayele ubhodlo futhi ikwazi ukugcina isipuni. Okukhethwa kukho nge-nanny akukubi kuwo wonke umuntu, ngaphandle kwezindleko eziphakeme kanye nengozi yokusebenza kumuntu ongenamanga. Ngakho-ke, ukhetho lomuntu ozobhapathizwa luyinkimbinkimbi futhi lunomthwalo wemfanelo kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, umntwana uzobe ekhululekile kakhulu nogogo wakhe. Uma, empeleni, impilo yakhe imvumela, futhi akafuni ukuchitha usuku lonke ukuxabana nomzukulu wakhe othandekayo.
Lokho kwakungeyona into ehlambalaza
Izazi zengqondo zithi iningi labamama abasebenza abanomqondo oqinile wecala ngoba bahlabela ingane ngezinhloso zabo kanye nezithakazelo zabo. Bacabanga ukuthi umama omuhle kufanele asebenzise isikhathi sonke emndenini, futhi angahlali ehhovisi, ngisho noma engenayo enye indlela. Ukwenza izilungiso, abamele abesilisa ababuthakathaka bahlukumeze kakhulu ingane, bengacabangi ukuthi ngaleyo ndlela bafaka ingozi ekukhuleni komuntu oyedwa kanye nomqaphi. Ingane isheshe ifunde ukuthi umama kulula ukuphatha: "Ngithenge lelo dodo - Angiyikuba yedwa kuye kuze kube yilapho usuqedile umsebenzi wakho onyanyekayo." Enye indlela ethandwayo yokuhlenga unecala ukuzama ukuba ngumama ongcono: ukondla ingane kuphela ngokudla okufuywayo, noma ngabe kufanele ubhalele ubusuku bonke, ngoba lokhu, ngemuva kokusebenza emigqeni nezigaba, bese ufunda amathrekhi aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ebusuku. Ngenxa yalokho - ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, okungeke kulinde isikhathi eside: akunakwenzeka ukuba ube ngowesifazane wezamabhizinisi futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuze uqoqe amasokisi ngamalungu omndeni. Kungenzeka yini ukuqeda ukuhlushwa kwangaphakathi? Uma uqiniseka ngokuqinile ukuthi uma unqume ukuya emsebenzini, wenze into efanele, phinda ubhale kaningi le nkulumo: "Kuyinto enhle kimi ukuthi kuhle kumntanami." Uma kungenjalo, ingane izodideka: umama uya ehhovisi nsuku zonke, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uthi ufuna ukuhlala ekhaya. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokujoyina ozakwethu kule workshop, qiniseka uzibuze ukuthi ufuna ngempela lokhu, nokuthi ngabe unesinye indlela ongaphuma kuzo.
Ungazihlukumezi ngokuzisola ngoba awubalulekile kuphela emndenini wakho, kodwa futhi nomsebenzi wakho. Ukuba yimpumelelo nokusebenzayo akukubi neze. Izingane eziningi, ikakhulukazi ezisencane, ziyaziqhenya ngamamama abo ebhizinisi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokwezengqondo ze-psychoanalyst, ukuthanda kwakho umsebenzi kungachazwa ngezizathu ezingenasisekelo. Uma "konke kubaba" - usondelene nendlela yakhe yokuphila, izenzo, imicabango, ngakho-ke, cishe kuyoba nzima ukuba uzikhiphe ekhishini ngokubambisana namaphoyinti, uzibandakanya kakhulu nomsebenzi kunokuba ubophe isiphambano nomndeni ongapheli. Zihlanganise nomama wakho? Uzokwenza u-hostess omuhle, umama womndeni nomfazi, kodwa indlela ehamba phambili emkhakheni wezemisebenzi ingaba mnandi futhi ingazala. Ngenkathi ingane encane futhi ivame ukugula, zama ukuthola umsebenzi wesikhashana noma uthole umsebenzi wokushintsha, isibonelo, izinsuku ezimbili emva kokubili. Abacwaningi base-Australia baqhube isifundo esikhulu, lapho kutholakala khona ukuthi omama basebenza isikhathi esithile, bakhulisa izingane ezinempilo kakhulu. Akunamathuba okudla ukudla okusheshayo kunabantwana abasebenzisa ucingo ukuya ekushayweni kwabesifazane, futhi abahlupheki ngokweqile, ngokungafani nezingane zamakhosikazi ezondla izingane zabo ngamaqebelengwane amnandi ayenziwe ngokwabo.
Ukukhetha okuhle kusebenza ekhaya. Lokhu kungenzeka kakhulu izintatheli, abahumushi, abalungisi bezinwele, abahlaseli, njll. Ubukhulu bemali engenayo buxhomeke ekuxhumeni, amakhono nokuzithiba kwakho - emva kwakho konke, akuwona wonke umuntu okwazi ukuya ekamelweni elilandelayo "ukusebenza" ngenkathi ingane icela ukuba badlale noma ku-tube "ulenga" umngane ongakhulumi naye iminyaka eyinkulungwane. Ngendlela, uma kungekho ikamelo elihlukile lomsebenzi, kuyinkinga ukusebenza ekhaya - ingane izohlala ihamba ngendlela, ithathe isikhathi sakho futhi isetshenziswe. Uma uhlezi ehhovisi kusuka ucingo oluya ucingo, zama ukunikeza ingane yakho isikhathi sonke samahhala. Shiya izindaba zomndeni kuze kube sempelasonto - azikwazi ukuguqulwa. Noma cela omunye umuntu ukuthi akusize ngalokhu, uma izimali zemvume, ukuqasha umgcini wezindlu, futhi uhlale nomntwana oyedwa ndawonye. Futhi kaningi ukumbumbuluza nokumangaza-ngoba amama okuthinta abaluleke kakhulu. Ngesinye isikhathi ungadutshulwa - vumela kamuva ukuba ulale, ungayi enkulisa, uma uzohlala ekhaya. Futhi lapho uya emsebenzini, smile, ngisho noma ikati likhahlela emphefumulweni. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungalokothi uphonse ingane enomsindo, ungabi yedwa ulahleke ngesiNgisi, ngaphandle kwalokho uzoyeka ukukuthemba. Futhi, ungamtshelanga ukuthi emsebenzini awushaywe amabhodlela, kodwa uthole imali - yinkomo lokhu akuyona ingxabano. Udinga umama, hhayi imali yakho (okungenani kuze kube yilapho ephendukela engumfana onamahloni futhi oneminyaka eyishumi nambili).
Ukucindezeleka kukhanseliwe!
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi bobabili abesifazana nabesifazane bezamabhizinisi bavame ukungena ekucindezelekeni, yize izizathu zepeni zihluke kakhulu kubo. Owokuqala uhlushwa ukukhukhumazeka nokuhlukumeza okuncane ("Ukudlula impilo, futhi angizimele mina!"), Lesi samuva - ngenxa yokuntuleka kwesikhathi nokuqwashisa ukuthi abahlanganyeli ekukhulisweni kwezingane. Abesifazane besifazane bavame ukuhlela izigameko zomhawu kumyeni wakhe, beqaphela ukuthi, obhekene nokuphila nezingane, ngezinye izindlela bangaphansi kobuhle obuhle behhovisi. Abesifazane besomabhizinisi futhi ngezinye izikhathi banomona omkhulu, futhi hhayi kakhulu kumyeni wakhe ngokuthi ... unina noma ugogo: bacabanga ukuthi indodana noma indodakazi iyamthanda ngaphezu komama wayo. Ezimweni ezingacatshangelwe ikakhulukazi, ama-nannies kanye nama-governesses ashintsha, cishe njalo ngenyanga, ukuze ingane ingabi nesikhathi sokunamathela. Yeka ukuthi ungahambi kahle kanjani kulokhu?
■ Yamukela, ekugcineni, ukhetho owake wakwenza. Ayikwazi ukubekezelela ukhukhamba okugcoba emathini, ukupheka i-borscht, izingubo zokugqoka kanye nenye enye okufanele owesifazane ohlala ekhaya ayenze? Akumangazi! Shintsha imithetho yomdlalo futhi ufunde ukuhlala ngokuthula nawe. Uma uziphoqa ukuba wenze okubangela ukungathandi okungaqondile, kuzobe kubi kakhulu.
■ Funa abantu abafana nalabo abazokuqonda futhi bakusekele ngesikhathi esilukhuni. Uma ungahlanganyeli nanoma ubani, ukucindezeleka kuzoqinisa.
■ Ungazibophezeli ngemisebenzi eyengeziwe: uzokhathala nakakhulu, ngaleyo ndlela ukhulise ukucindezeleka.