Wonke umama onothando ngisho nangaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane uyakwazi ukufunda kabusha intaba yezincwadi ezinikezwe ukunakekelwa nokuthuthukiswa kwemvuthu. Futhi hhayi kuphela ukuwufunda ngokucophelela, kodwa futhi ukuphumelela ngempumelelo yonke imigomo ebonakala ibonakala kuyo. Kodwa ingane ikhula ngokushesha, umsebenzi wakhe wokuzicabangela uyanda, uqala ukuxhumana nabanye abantu, futhi yilapho abazali bebhekana nezinkinga zokuqala zemfundo. Futhi nakuba izincwadi ezikulesi sihloko nazo zingaphezu kokwanele, ngokuvamile kaningi izimiso ezichazwe kuyo, bambalwa abantu abakwazi ukusebenzisa ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Kodwa kusekuqaleni kwezingane zasenkulisa ukuthi abazali babeka isisekelo sokubukeka kwesimiso sezingane zabo esikhathini esizayo, banikeze imiqondo eyisisekelo yalokho okuhle nokubi. Singaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi imvuthuluka yakha imigomo yokuziphatha eqinile engaxhomeki ezintweni zangaphandle?
Okokuqala, kufanele kushiwo ukuthi uma kufike eminyakeni engu-2-3, iningi lezenzo zemvuthu ayengazi, bese efinyelela kule minyaka, izingane zifunda ukwenza ngokucophelela, ngokungahambisani. Futhi ukuxabana yisimiso esiyisisekelo kwanoma yisiphi isenzo sokuziphatha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngalesi sikhathi, ingane iqala ukwakha umbono wokuqala wokuhle nokubi. Lokhu kwenzeka kanjani? Njengoba ingane ikhuluma njalo nabantu abahlukene, ekukhulumisaneni, ngezibonelo zezimo ezilula zokuphila, ufunda ukuthi kuye kubonakala ngemigomo ethi "okuhle" nokubi ". Usizo kulokhu kanye nezinganekwane, amathangi, amabhayisikobho.Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingane encane ihlale ibona ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala abakuzungezile. Ubuhlobo babo bomunye nomunye kanye nesimo sabo sengqondo ngokuqondene nengane siyisibonelo esicacile sokuthi "ukufunda komphakathi", ngenxa yokuthi ingane iqala ukungafani kokuziphatha kokuziphatha.
Kodwa ukwazi izindinganiso zokuziphatha nokuqaphela ukugcina kwabo ngaphandle kungenye into, kepha ukufeza ukugcinwa kwabo kumntwana oneminyaka engu-3-4 ubudala kungenye. Indlela evamile kakhulu abazali abayisebenzisayo ukulawula kwangaphandle. Ngezijeziso kanye nokukhuthazwa, ingane izama ukukhombisa indlela yokusebenza, futhi akunjalo. Kule minyaka yobudala, kungabikho omunye umuntu, kubalulekile ukuvuma nokuthanda abantu abadala, abafuna ukuba bafanelwe noma iyiphi indlela efinyelelekayo.
Yebo, le nqubo iphumelela, kodwa kuphela lapho isencane, lapho umuntu omdala engakwazi ukulawula njalo umsebenzi wezinhlanzi, futhi igunya lakhe alinakufinyeleleka. Uma nje ingane ikhula futhi ukulawulwa kwabazali kunciphisa, ingane ingase ingabi nesisusa sangaphakathi sokwenza izenzo zokuziphatha.
Indlela yokukhulisa lezi zisusa, ezingeke zithembele ekulawuleni kwabazali futhi kungaba yizizathu zomntanakho zokuziphatha ngendlela efanele, ukubonisa ububele, ububele, ukwethembeka nokumelela ubulungiswa hhayi nje kuphela?
Indlela ephumelela kakhulu ukusebenzela esimweni sezemidlalo isimo esibucayi lapho ingane ibuzwa ukuba ibonise kuqala izimfanelo ezithile zokuziphatha, bese ziqapha ukubonakaliswa kwazo komunye umuntu esimweni esifanayo.
Kulula kakhulu ingane ukuba yenza okulungile uma kukhona umuntu oseduze ozoyilawula, kodwa ngokushesha nje uma ukulawula kuyanyamalala, isisusa siyanyamalala. Ukuzitholela ngokwakhe indima yomlawuli futhi akhumbule indlela abenza ngayo, lezi zinhlanzi ziyamangala kakhulu futhi ziziqhenya ngethemba abathe banikwe futhi zizama ukulilungisela nganoma iyiphi intengo. Lokhu kuholela ekusungulweni kwezingane zokubona kwabo okuhle, okungaba yisisusa sangaphakathi esilawula ukuziphatha kwakhe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abazali kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi umphumela omuhle kumntwana unikezwa yizimo lapho kunesijeziso sokungaziphathi kahle, ukuthethelelwa okufanele kwenziwe kufanele kwenziwe. Yiqiniso, lokhu akusebenzi kuzo zonke izinto ezilandelanayo, kodwa ngezibonelo eziningana kungenzeka ukukhombisa ingane ukuthi iphutha alitholakali lilandelwa njalo ngephutha. Lokhu kungamkhuthaza ukuba alwele ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukubhekwa kwaba mncane ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi-ke, akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi yibazali abafanayo kuphela abakwazi ukukhulisa umntwana oziphatha kahle ngokukhulumisana okungokomzwelo nangokwenene, okuyinto yonke imihla eyenza ukuzethemba kwezwe, isimo sengqondo esihle ngokwabo nakwabanye, nesifiso sokulondoloza isithombe sayo esihle emehlweni abantu. Lezi izisusa zokuziphatha kwangempela.